taff3915 2 Posted September 28, 2008 Report Share Posted September 28, 2008 im 26 now stopped drinking july last year with help from alcoholics annomyous , i drank most nights since 14 and needed help dont get me wrong its hard work not to drink, but the people you meet help you on your way, its suprising who you meet in the local community there. gd to anyone trying to kick it if you want any more advice PM me,there is not much i dont know about the practising and recovering of alcoholism . regards craig. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rabbithunter 456 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Report Share Posted September 28, 2008 thanks for all the replies, never expected so many. Well, the night that i wrote that, shortly afterwards i went upstairs, got into bed and felt myself brewing. I sat up and whacked the wall, very silly. (as a result, i had a sore hand all day saturday) It was then i realised i have to change this part of my life. especially when "she" warned me to stop carrying on like this. I came back downstairs and reflected on whats happening. I went to the fridge and crack my remaining four cans open, poured them down the sink. And told myself no more cider. I dont "need" alcohol. I just have a desire to drink it. And the PROBLEM is when i have drank it. I dont know if its the loopy juice making me behave that way, or if its alcohol full stop. I went out lamping last night, so i didnt miss having my "saturday night drink". Im not having a drink tonight either. And i think i will be off it all this week also. Perhaps at the weekend, if i feel i want a drink i will try a different drink, and see what mood it puts me in. That may seem arrogant of all that has been said, but after a week at work, i want (not need) a drink. Once again, thanks for all the replies Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malt 379 Posted September 28, 2008 Report Share Posted September 28, 2008 thanks for all the replies, never expected so many. Well, the night that i wrote that, shortly afterwards i went upstairs, got into bed and felt myself brewing. I sat up and whacked the wall, very silly. (as a result, i had a sore hand all day saturday) It was then i realised i have to change this part of my life. especially when "she" warned me to stop carrying on like this. I came back downstairs and reflected on whats happening. I went to the fridge and crack my remaining four cans open, poured them down the sink. And told myself no more cider. I dont "need" alcohol. I just have a desire to drink it. And the PROBLEM is when i have drank it. I dont know if its the loopy juice making me behave that way, or if its alcohol full stop. I went out lamping last night, so i didnt miss having my "saturday night drink". Im not having a drink tonight either. And i think i will be off it all this week also. Perhaps at the weekend, if i feel i want a drink i will try a different drink, and see what mood it puts me in. That may seem arrogant of all that has been said, but after a week at work, i want (not need) a drink. Once again, thanks for all the replies Not really arrogant mate, most people have a certain 'poison' that brings out the worst in them. Stella does it to me, as did the old 'white shite' cider. Since I've switched to plain old normal strength larger, I've been fine, and I've been able to enjoy a night on the drink, instead of waking up the next morning, wondering who I should apologise to first! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
hagar 5 Posted September 28, 2008 Report Share Posted September 28, 2008 thanks for all the replies, never expected so many. Well, the night that i wrote that, shortly afterwards i went upstairs, got into bed and felt myself brewing. I sat up and whacked the wall, very silly. (as a result, i had a sore hand all day saturday) It was then i realised i have to change this part of my life. especially when "she" warned me to stop carrying on like this. I came back downstairs and reflected on whats happening. I went to the fridge and crack my remaining four cans open, poured them down the sink. And told myself no more cider. I dont "need" alcohol. I just have a desire to drink it. And the PROBLEM is when i have drank it. I dont know if its the loopy juice making me behave that way, or if its alcohol full stop. I went out lamping last night, so i didnt miss having my "saturday night drink". Im not having a drink tonight either. And i think i will be off it all this week also. Perhaps at the weekend, if i feel i want a drink i will try a different drink, and see what mood it puts me in. That may seem arrogant of all that has been said, but after a week at work, i want (not need) a drink. Once again, thanks for all the replies Not really arrogant mate, most people have a certain 'poison' that brings out the worst in them. Stella does it to me, as did the old 'white shite' cider. Since I've switched to plain old normal strength larger, I've been fine, and I've been able to enjoy a night on the drink, instead of waking up the next morning, wondering who I should apologise to first! I avoid spirits cos i always become over playfull and can never remember anything about it the next day Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnipper 6,467 Posted September 28, 2008 Report Share Posted September 28, 2008 thanks for all the replies, never expected so many. Well, the night that i wrote that, shortly afterwards i went upstairs, got into bed and felt myself brewing. I sat up and whacked the wall, very silly. (as a result, i had a sore hand all day saturday) It was then i realised i have to change this part of my life. especially when "she" warned me to stop carrying on like this. I came back downstairs and reflected on whats happening. I went to the fridge and crack my remaining four cans open, poured them down the sink. And told myself no more cider. I dont "need" alcohol. I just have a desire to drink it. And the PROBLEM is when i have drank it. I dont know if its the loopy juice making me behave that way, or if its alcohol full stop. I went out lamping last night, so i didnt miss having my "saturday night drink". Im not having a drink tonight either. And i think i will be off it all this week also. Perhaps at the weekend, if i feel i want a drink i will try a different drink, and see what mood it puts me in. That may seem arrogant of all that has been said, but after a week at work, i want (not need) a drink. Once again, thanks for all the replies I know a couple of people who are the same off the cider, its bad shit. Vodka redbull is the one for me, when I go I don't even know i'm doing it and then wonder why i'm getting screamed at, its like I black out and smash stuff but feel as though i'm not pissed just buzzing. Ten cans with 4 shots in each is a bit OTT though isn't it Try drinking something you don't like, see if it puts you off a bit. I smoke but if i'm trying to cut down a bit I smoke roleys as I can't stomach too many of them and can't be arsed making them. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
scent 509 Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 well pal im an alcoholic myself.First thing you have to do is get yourself to an AA meeting and get a sponsor,the AA program does work and will work.Try keeping yourself busy around the times you do your most drinking.For me i had to keep busy first thinh in the morning as that was when i used to start drinkin.I was a cider drinker and always found i would get in bad humour when i had a skin fill and the only time my missus and me would fight was when i was drunk .Get into the AA program mate it will work it only fails for people who want it to fail ,hope this advise is good for you pal Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mrs sweepy 0 Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 From my own personnel point of view its not whatyou drink. If you do have these feelings of aggression you are going to get that with whatever you drink. My ex stop drinking spirits when one morning he woke up to find me whit the bruised cheekbone and shoulder. He move onto beer . But after the few. He just could not stop . Go get help Start with your doctor. I went though five years of hell. Please dont go their.Sometimes their is no return. xxxxsuzy Quote Link to post Share on other sites
blaev 1 Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 Break the cycle mate. Do something you can focus on that doesn't involve drink that is rewarding to you. If that means being selfish then so be it, it's better than continuing doing what you're doing. Sounds like you're frustrated & angry otherwise you wouldn't be beating on walls/doors/lamp posts. Problems with family are always a hard one to deal with, my 22 year old sister got killed in a car crash and it took me 18 months to start getting over it. Being told to get a grip is harsh but sound advice BUT only if you've grieved properly over what's getting you down but are still feeling a bit sorry for yourself. It helps to talk about your problems with someone you know you can trust when you haven't had a drink, mainly because you will remember what was said the next day I think one of the big things is getting people to understand what you are going through and getting them on your wavelength. Sometimes it's easier just to hit the bottle than to get someone (usually the partner) to understand where you're coming from - and the frustrating bit is that often you don't know yourself so how are you going to get them to understand? My advice - slow down, take it easy and don't thing about negatives too much. When you feel yourself going into a spin, tell yourself that you won't be beaten, shrug your shoulders and go and do something else. Maybe go back to an old hobby? I went out and bought a motorbike and did a season of enduro - got me fit again, gave me something to focus on and introduced me to a new group of friends. Helped enormously. Good luck. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
hollands hope 1,024 Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 (edited) I was married to an alcoholic for 12 years she used to fly into violent rages over the slightest thing eg 1 night while she was at work i ate a small bowl of ice cream that she said belonged to her i only had a little in the hope she wouldnt notice but as i had had a jamaican cigar or 2 i put the tub back in the fridge not the freezer this caused her to hit me on the head with a bottle of ketchup eventully i left her got myself sorted and my 11 year old daughter came to live with me and life turned out good for me though not so good for the x as she has suffered a string of violent alcoholics and druggies since though they are probably trying to defend themselves my advice is dont stand for it mental abuse is as bad as physical a man who abuses women is not a man only an animal with no spine and a woman who does it is no better If you have a drink problem you will only solve it if you want to talking is the 1st step admitting it to yourself is the 2nd if you need help get it if you cant do that then go live alone well said hagar you and kay should hookup and run off to gether Well Eric iam not sure what your on about,but in my eyes this is a serious thread about people an there addictions don,t make a joke off it you never know what the future will bring to you, so i suggest put up some constructive post,s and don,t act like a compleet moron Edited September 29, 2008 by hollands hope Quote Link to post Share on other sites
scent 509 Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 I was married to an alcoholic for 12 years she used to fly into violent rages over the slightest thing eg 1 night while she was at work i ate a small bowl of ice cream that she said belonged to her i only had a little in the hope she wouldnt notice but as i had had a jamaican cigar or 2 i put the tub back in the fridge not the freezer this caused her to hit me on the head with a bottle of ketchup eventully i left her got myself sorted and my 11 year old daughter came to live with me and life turned out good for me though not so good for the x as she has suffered a string of violent alcoholics and druggies since though they are probably trying to defend themselves my advice is dont stand for it mental abuse is as bad as physical a man who abuses women is not a man only an animal with no spine and a woman who does it is no better If you have a drink problem you will only solve it if you want to talking is the 1st step admitting it to yourself is the 2nd if you need help get it if you cant do that then go live alone well said hagar you and kay should hookup and run off to gether Well Eric iam not sure what your on about,but in my eyes this is a serious thread about people an there addictions don,t make a yoke off it you never know what the future will bring to you, so i suggest put up some constructive post,s and don,t act like a compleet moron well said i dont think kay would appreciate her post being made a joke of Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest mk3 Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 go speak to your dr, i did i went on a detox but still struggling, i beleive aa to be good im trying them next all the best mk3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest ooty Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 what a fu*king bunch of wingeing lightweights,nothing like a weekend binge now and agian to blow it all away,i just dont do nothing in the mean time part from a smoke before a bita lamping,,if i drink etc, its useualy someone elses problem,till im layed in bed dieing for 3 days after,if you cant stand the heat bdont winge,i got meny mates that have concered serious addictions,hobbies help.id have gone down a lot slipperyer slope than i did(the one i went down was slippery enough,charicter building though!!) if it wasnt for dogs mates and fishing etc, Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BULL 96 Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 as the old saying goes DRINK IS A GOOD SLAVE ,BUT A BAD MASTER. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest gaz100604 Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 welcome to the jermey kyle show. i love a good drink myself but only once a week job sink a few cans. if you can cut it down then do if you cant give it up. best of luck gary Quote Link to post Share on other sites
scent 509 Posted September 29, 2008 Report Share Posted September 29, 2008 gaz thats the thing if you cant cut it down then more than likely you cant give it up ,you have to be in the situation to understand it Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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