Rabbithunter!!

[Kay 3,709]

kay you speak a lot of sense BUT ive heard it all before & 2 or 3 years down the line its all change [your always out with them dogs ] & the classic [you think more of them dogs than you do of me] well eventually she was right, infact i thought more of next stores cat than i thought of her ATB Pritch

 

I get the '' you take more notice off the dogs than me'' the knack is to share your attention with the people , animals & anything else that need it, sometimes i think my head will explode when i have son , husband , dog all wanting something at the same time , priortise if the dog needs a wee she gets my attention first , or better still all go out with the dog then they all win & you look good

[craftycarper 0]

Something must attract people in the first place or you wouldnt be together, perhaps its old fashoned but a propper courtship can iron out any possible problems in the first few months rather than what appears to happen thesedays when couples shack up within the first few weeks of meeting when the sexual attractions obviously whats keeping you together

what ever it is that attracted the bloke to the woman in the first place seems to go out the window after a few years to much keeping up with the jones's & how many blokes do you see that are their old selves when out on there own only to revert to a shadow when out with the other half, its a sad sight to behold. ATB Pritch

 

Any relationship should be an equal partnership , we all have traits that annoy our partners , its learning how to tollerate each others little ways .

 

What does amaze me is the amount of people who want there partner to change once there seemingly settled & its all going well, that is something i have never understood ,

 

i agree with kay, being equal and tolerating each other is important...but people do change down the line, it's very hard thing to sum up , sounds silly but take me for instance, my other half would like or expect me to go shopping with her, but if i ask her to pop in a fishing shop or something similar it's a definate no no, if we go away for a few days i often drop her at the shops and sod off with a rod or for a mooch on me own and just meet up later for a bite to eat or something. It ain't easy mate but thats half the problem these days...it's easier to walk away than try and work it out, on the other hand it takes two to work it out and if one ain't bugding then it's not going to happen...there comes a point when you have to accept defeat, maybe a bit of breathing space sometimes helps...good luck with it, just try and keep it amicable

[Kay 3,709]

You do need common interests otherwise you drift apart , my blokes not interested in hunting so i am buggered as i will have to carry the stuff meself

[pritch 335]

i did & she was at the top to my shame i neglected my dogs a bit but it wasnt enough so now its just me & the dogs

ATB Pritch

[Kay 3,709]

i did & she was at the top to my shame i neglected my dogs a bit but it wasnt enough so now its just me & the dogs

ATB Pritch

 

Well thats not on , maybe some folks are not happy unless there whinging

[Malt 379]

Something must attract people in the first place or you wouldnt be together, perhaps its old fashoned but a propper courtship can iron out any possible problems in the first few months rather than what appears to happen thesedays when couples shack up within the first few weeks of meeting when the sexual attractions obviously whats keeping you together

what ever it is that attracted the bloke to the woman in the first place seems to go out the window after a few years to much keeping up with the jones's & how many blokes do you see that are their old selves when out on there own only to revert to a shadow when out with the other half, its a sad sight to behold. ATB Pritch

 

Any relationship should be an equal partnership , we all have traits that annoy our partners , its learning how to tollerate each others little ways .

 

What does amaze me is the amount of people who want there partner to change once there seemingly settled & its all going well, that is something i have never understood ,

 

i agree with kay, being equal and tolerating each other is important...but people do change down the line, it's very hard thing to sum up , sounds silly but take me for instance, my other half would like or expect me to go shopping with her, but if i ask her to pop in a fishing shop or something similar it's a definate no no, if we go away for a few days i often drop her at the shops and sod off with a rod or for a mooch on me own and just meet up later for a bite to eat or something. It ain't easy mate but thats half the problem these days...it's easier to walk away than try and work it out, on the other hand it takes two to work it out and if one ain't bugding then it's not going to happen...there comes a point when you have to accept defeat, maybe a bit of breathing space sometimes helps...good luck with it, just try and keep it amicable

I know your type mate, as soon as the other half's back is turned, you wander off, rod in hand with a determined look on your face, looking for the first opportunity to dip your rod into something wet....

 

....Shame on you! (Not really, I wish I could get away with it!)

[mackem 26,934]

Wet rod?Is he into fishing

[Malt 379]

Wet rod?Is he into fishing

I hope that's the case and I'm not being naive again mate.....

[mackem 26,934]

Rod....Rod.....whats that a bouble-entendre for again

[Rabbithunter 456]

cheers folks..... but it aint all that bad.... i had just had a few beers........ i should really keep off the computer after a few

[jultaylor1972 2]

I take it from your few posts you're having a rough time????????

 

Stick in there mate, and if in doubt, get a stick and beat her with it......only kidding!!!!!

 

Stop trying to make sense of it all, they're a different breed, sit her down and explain to her that you aint willing to take her shit and everytime she has a pop or pisses you off you'll go out with the dogs or ignore her infantile behaviour, stick with what you say, she wont argue with herself for long.......... be strong....feel the force obie one!!!!

Surprisingly, Im with LDR on this one!

[Guest SJM]

You only have one life, its really too short to waste time on anything less than the best. If something isnt working out, walk. It may be tough for a while but at the end of the day we come in alone and we leave alone, the only relationship which really, really matters is the one you have with yourself, so be true to yourself and honest with what you can and cant tolerate, and if you stick to your guns then anyone who really wants to be with you will have to step up to the mark and meet you on your level, on your terms

[mackem 26,934]

Have to agree,too many people settle for second-best because they dont have the courage to walk.The number of times I have been out with a mate or met them in town and their wives have made them look small,or made verbal digs at them,makes me wonder what they saw in the harridans in the first place,your only a kid RH,if its not working at this stage of the game look into the crystal-ball 20 years down the line,not a pretty prospect huh? One word of advice I guess..................................................................RUNNNNNNN

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[shepp 2,285]

Mackem, keep me in mind if your misses has any single, femail family members visiting

[lurchergrrl 1,441]

You only have one life, its really too short to waste time on anything less than the best. If something isnt working out, walk. It may be tough for a while but at the end of the day we come in alone and we leave alone, the only relationship which really, really matters is the one you have with yourself, so be true to yourself and honest with what you can and cant tolerate, and if you stick to your guns then anyone who really wants to be with you will have to step up to the mark and meet you on your level, on your terms

 

I think sometimes it's worth trying, but largely I agree with you there. That kind of mind set usually only comes with maturity tho ... when you're young it's quite easy to get sucked into the drama of a shitty relationship.