Relocation advice

[dodger 2,754]

My two young boys live in West London and I live in Lancashire and for to long now iv been seeing them once a fortnight which due to the distance only works out at just over half a weekend and iv been really struggling with it..

Iv tried mediation with there mum to find a solution and she didn’t respond so after alot of thought iv decided that I want to try and relocate to somewhere closer to them, she has said fine but wants the court order to remain the same ie once a fortnight so I'm going to have to go back to court to try n get more access as that would obviously be needed for both me and the boys if I could manage to go to the trouble of relocating.

London is out of the question as I can't afford it so I'm wondering if any Southern members have any advice on areas about an hour away from London and also the general costs of day to day living etc I know it will be more expensive than up here but taking the boys out for a meal and activities for them etc is there much difference between say essex and kent as they are the only places I can think of right now and no specific areas in mind of the two as they are big counties and I can't go driving around to these places or train as 150 each time return so could end up being sticking a pin in it.

Housing I'm not to worried about as I'm planning to rent a private long term static caravan to save costs n they seem to be similar priced.

Thanks..

[mackem 26,239]

West London?There's an area around Acton known as little Tokyo because of the Japanese community and a few Japanese schools.If they are in West London perhaps look at Surrey or Berkshire or Buckinghamshire as they are to the west,lots of places west of London would fit your bill mate.

[Greyman 28,162]

1 hour ago, dodger said:

My two young boys live in West London and I live in Lancashire and for to long now iv been seeing them once a fortnight which due to the distance only works out at just over half a weekend and iv been really struggling with it..

Iv tried mediation with there mum to find a solution and she didn’t respond so after alot of thought iv decided that I want to try and relocate to somewhere closer to them, she has said fine but wants the court order to remain the same ie once a fortnight so I'm going to have to go back to court to try n get more access as that would obviously be needed for both me and the boys if I could manage to go to the trouble of relocating.

London is out of the question as I can't afford it so I'm wondering if any Southern members have any advice on areas about an hour away from London and also the general costs of day to day living etc I know it will be more expensive than up here but taking the boys out for a meal and activities for them etc is there much difference between say essex and kent as they are the only places I can think of right now and no specific areas in mind of the two as they are big counties and I can't go driving around to these places or train as 150 each time return so could end up being sticking a pin in it.

Housing I'm not to worried about as I'm planning to rent a private long term static caravan to save costs n they seem to be similar priced.

Thanks..

Get a house you can take with you plenty of canals in London boys will love it 

[leegreen 2,152]

Canvey Island will have some cheaper rent or some of the Medway towns in Kent. Depends on your budget and what you are doing for a living.

I think Greymans idea is a gooden.

[WILF 46,634]

2 hours ago, dodger said:

My two young boys live in West London and I live in Lancashire and for to long now iv been seeing them once a fortnight which due to the distance only works out at just over half a weekend and iv been really struggling with it..

Iv tried mediation with there mum to find a solution and she didn’t respond so after alot of thought iv decided that I want to try and relocate to somewhere closer to them, she has said fine but wants the court order to remain the same ie once a fortnight so I'm going to have to go back to court to try n get more access as that would obviously be needed for both me and the boys if I could manage to go to the trouble of relocating.

London is out of the question as I can't afford it so I'm wondering if any Southern members have any advice on areas about an hour away from London and also the general costs of day to day living etc I know it will be more expensive than up here but taking the boys out for a meal and activities for them etc is there much difference between say essex and kent as they are the only places I can think of right now and no specific areas in mind of the two as they are big counties and I can't go driving around to these places or train as 150 each time return so could end up being sticking a pin in it.

Housing I'm not to worried about as I'm planning to rent a private long term static caravan to save costs n they seem to be similar priced.

Thanks..

Don’t know where you are in Lancashire but some days you’d drive down nearly as quick as you’d drive from Essex/Kent to Acton…..Acton is a pure pain in the arse to get to from those places.

You would be better off taking a line back up the M1/A1 or M4 towards where you are now mate. 

[dodger 2,754]

Thanks lads 

Surrey would be nice mackem and although I don't drink I heard a pint is 12 or something there so I'd imagine most things ie living expenses are very high..

That sounds a nice idea greyman but I'm not in a position to buy and there not cheap are they, you are right tho they would love it..

I used to drive wilf but for the last 18 months iv used the train she brings them to preston arriving between 8 n pm n I take them back Sunday on the 12pm train arriving at euston around 3 and then I get the 4pm train back to preston.

To add even a static caravan won't be ideal and even will be double the rent of my flat now but the pros are some have bills included and I won't have to buy main furniture..

I have to make this move tho as this distance and lack of contact along with the parent alienation and manipulation to me and the kids has gone on for to long and at almost 8 n 6 now iv been missing out on far to much and as much as they love it when they are with me it is a mission for them and as soon as there back with there mum they go distant from me from what she says to them and when they get a best friend or start playing football on Saturdays in the future I'll not see them at all then.

[Chaff 3,590]

What's your line of work mate ?

I can ask around my place of work as some jobs come with accommodation.

Totally get where you're coming from regarding your boys.

 

[downsouth 7,212]

Like leegreen said if you're looking at Kent it's gunna be the Medway towns if you're on a budget.Anywhere down from Gillingham is expensive now and anywhere London side of Medway is also pricey.Even places like Gillingham which was very cheap is going up in price as there's lots of Africans buying up the property there

[dodger 2,754]

41 minutes ago, Chaff said:

What's your line of work mate ?

I can ask around my place of work as some jobs come with accommodation.

Totally get where you're coming from regarding your boys.

 

Normally pheasant farms but once and if I can get down there I want to get into van driving delivering mon-fri..

[dodger 2,754]

That's just through a spanner in the works iv just had one of those consultations with a solicitor, my logic was to try and get in court asap and get something in place before I move with her saying she wants the order to remain the same so I'm not going down there blind so to speak.

The solicitor tho recommends I already have accommodation and an in place before court which does make sence I was just hoping to get Christmas out the way and more research on areas plus I need to empty n give notice on this flat plus you only get 4 months after the mediation which she ignored which has been 2 1/2 months now so pressures on..

[downsouth 7,212]

5 minutes ago, dodger said:

That's just through a spanner in the works iv just had one of those consultations with a solicitor, my logic was to try and get in court asap and get something in place before I move with her saying she wants the order to remain the same so I'm not going down there blind so to speak.

The solicitor tho recommends I already have accommodation and an in place before court which does make sence I was just hoping to get Christmas out the way and more research on areas plus I need to empty n give notice on this flat plus you only get 4 months after the mediation which she ignored which has been 2 1/2 months now so pressures on..

Cant work women out that don't let blokes see their kids whenever they want.Proper c**ts trick

[Chaff 3,590]

13 minutes ago, dodger said:

Normally pheasant farms but once and if I can get down there I want to get into van driving delivering mon-fri..

Let me ask dodger as I work with some people that teach shooting to the wealthy.

Worth a try?

Unless you want a change in career van delivery pays well if you put the hours in I believe mate.

[dodger 2,754]

1 hour ago, downsouth said:

Cant work women out that don't let blokes see their kids whenever they want.Proper c**ts trick

It's horrible they want you to give up and try to break you even if it means the kids getting messed up in the process..

Even Sunday on the train back to euston the boys were all over me hugs n climbing on me n playing games eye spy drawing etc then after hand over I missed my train due to her being late of which I never said anything n never do the boys have never heard a raised voice from me to there mum but on the way back from the platform I saw they were still sat there so I went over n said iv missed my train boys are you ok n told them a couple of jokes which they'd normally but they wouldn't even look at me let alone chat with there mum being there such a come down which happens all to often so I could only kiss there heads tell them I love them n bye again n then wait to see em again half a weekend in a couple of weeks.

[TOMO 26,041]

Talking of changing jobs....add on here I saw the other day...Aldi Wherehouse staff wanted no experience needed...its £16.90  think it was ...it will be in the RDC....

[TOMO 26,041]

Picking up on what wilf said...about how long it takes to get in to London...

Me and the Mrs when we go catch the train from grantham wich is 20 mins from me...train only takes 1 hour 10 mins..right in to kings cross