mackem 27,736 Posted January 18, 2024 Report Share Posted January 18, 2024 17 minutes ago, dodger said: It's a living nightmare mate you do what you can to take your mind off it but it's always there taking over almost zombie like then when we you think you can switch off by going to sleep you can't with so much on your mind almost like insomnia n then when you can you get bad dreams so never goes away. The only time I'm right is when I have them which was one weekend a fortnight pre the seizer 6 months ago but even then horrible once I'd taken them back but atleast I knew as long as she didn't let me down thed be back a fortnight later which was better than when they had been abducted and I hadn't seen them for 16 months. Nightmare scenario, I have a mate with a daughter in NZ but he isn't allowed in and the parting between him and his Ex wasn't amicable, I always feel down for him when he talks of the last time he saw her.Things will hopefully work out for you in time mate. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
dodger 2,765 Posted January 18, 2024 Author Report Share Posted January 18, 2024 On 17/01/2024 at 13:45, gnasher16 said: Fight to see your kids mate do whatever it takes....you'll regret it if you dont....wish you the best Its really difficult mate in 2019 I fought a 16 month court case to get them back to this country in which time I didn't see them but luckily I won n got them back here long story short within a week of being back in England she opened up a new court case to take them back on a legal basis so I had to go through another 14 months again luckily I won that but it all cost me everything financially and took alot out of me physically n mentally. She then decided to live in London and I live up north. The court ruled that they can stay with me once a fortnight which although since court finished she has been very difficult n bitter with little communication was going ok then I had a seizer 6 months ago which I told her about and said until find out more and have all the necessary tests it's not good for the boys to stay with me for now just incase but she has taken this as an opportunity to use against me even tho recently iv seen my neurologist who has said my results have come back clear and sees no reason why the boys can't stay with me again as have to draw the line at some stage etc. Last week I supposed to collect them at the train station and she failed to bring them and has since stopped replying to my messages and phone calls and it seems to be getting worse for me now as I saw my lawer yesterday and she doesn't recommend I go to court as the seizers would go against me. Also after yesterday she has said for further advise she needs 500 down payment which would only be the start wouldn't it and I'm now just simply not in a position to do it. So with there being no legal aid for family law I'm all of a sudden in a position with no lawer and the mother to my kids not responding to messages asking when can I see them next very difficult Quote Link to post Share on other sites
dodger 2,765 Posted January 18, 2024 Author Report Share Posted January 18, 2024 3 minutes ago, mackem said: Nightmare scenario, I have a mate with a daughter in NZ but he isn't allowed in and the parting between him and his Ex wasn't amicable, I always feel down for him when he talks of the last time he saw her.Things will hopefully work out for you in time mate. The only thing the lawer said is I can make an application for enforcement C79 but then recommend court isn't a good idea especially with the seizer plus I'm not sure what it entails or the costs it's also ironic when it is her not sticking to the order. Sorry to hear about your mate also mack 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mackem 27,736 Posted January 18, 2024 Report Share Posted January 18, 2024 Just try and grin and bear it mate, try and be as understanding and friendly with their mam as circumstances allow, the kids are the ones who count and they are remarkably astute at picking up bad vibes between their mam and dad, they will understand in time. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
dodger 2,765 Posted January 18, 2024 Author Report Share Posted January 18, 2024 (edited) 26 minutes ago, mackem said: Just try and grin and bear it mate, try and be as understanding and friendly with their mam as circumstances allow, the kids are the ones who count and they are remarkably astute at picking up bad vibes between their mam and dad, they will understand in time. The problem I have now is she is reading my messages ie when can I see the boys next and you need to reply to my messages there is no communication which is needed but refusing to reply I'm all for being patient but this could be days weeks or even months couldn't it and now without a lawer I feel like I'm at a loss on what to do. It's like a sudden change since after coming back after Christmas n as if she's had legal advice to stir things up n then ignore contact or something. The only thing I can think of is is she wants to end up back in court. Edited January 18, 2024 by dodger 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
big sid 1,127 Posted January 19, 2024 Report Share Posted January 19, 2024 go back to court, if your health results are clear then theirs no worries, you cant be any worse off. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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