Big mistake.

[chartpolski 23,739]

Don't think I've ever made any real mistakes or had any huge regrets......but I remember many years ago, I was at college doing a course on electronic controls, the early days of the applications, and I was offered a very lucrative contract in the Middle East.

I accepted the contract on the proviso I could finish the course. The employer agreed an even said they would pay me while I completed the course.

Then I had another contract offer, engineer at Freeport, Grand Bahama. Better money, conditions, etc., but I put professional integrity and reputation first and declined the offer and eventually went to the Middle East.

A mistake ? Who knows ? I'm a stoic and a fatalist, so I like to think I made the right choice.

Cheers.

[jukel123 8,140]

4 minutes ago, chartpolski said:

Don't think I've ever made any real mistakes or had any huge regrets......but I remember many years ago, I was at college doing a course on electronic controls, the early days of the applications, and I was offered a very lucrative contract in the Middle East.

I accepted the contract on the proviso I could finish the course. The employer agreed an even said they would pay me while I completed the course.

Then I had another contract offer, engineer at Freeport, Grand Bahama. Better money, conditions, etc., but I put professional integrity and reputation first and declined the offer and eventually went to the Middle East.

A mistake ? Who knows ? I'm a stoic and a fatalist, so I like to think I made the right choice.

Cheers.

You are lucky. I'm a stoic and fatalistic but I still think what if I'd done this or that. Self doubt I suppose.

One of my brothers served his time as an electrician and did extra qualifications. His employer sent him to uni on full pay and he completed a degree in electrical engineering. He didn't have your integrity ( a family failing) and once he'd qualified he jumped ship and took a job as an engineer in  a hospital. His initial job was in a nuclear power statjon and he said he didn't want to be associated with producing  tritium for use in nuclear bombs. Money wise it was a disaster and it was high stress too. He was on call a lot and was forever stressing about power failures and the crap emergency generators they had. The good point was he got retirement at 50 on full pension.  He often says he could have made a fortune in Saudi.

Swings and roundabouts.

 

 

[shaaark 10,809]

1 hour ago, jukel123 said:

I'm disappointed, you are on first name terms with lots of champion boxers, I thought  you would work out who it was even though it was  before your time.

If that's all the credit I get, the next time I tell the story I'm going to knock f**k out of him and f**k his bird.

Give us a clue jukel, what weight did he box at? 

[chartpolski 23,739]

2 minutes ago, jukel123 said:

You are lucky. I'm a stoic and fatalistic but I still think what if I'd done this or that. Self doubt I suppose.

One of my brothers served his time as an electrician and did extra qualifications. His employer sent him to uni on full pay and he completed a degree in electrical engineering. He didn't have your integrity ( a family failing) and once he'd qualified he jumped ship and took a job as an engineer in  a hospital. His initial job was in a nuclear power statjon and he said he didn't want to be associated with producing  tritium for use in nuclear bombs. Money wise it was a disaster and it was high stress too. He was on call a lot and was forever stressing about power failures and the crap emergency generators they had. The good point was he got retirement at 50 on full pension.  He often says he could have made a fortune in Saudi.

Swings and roundabouts.

 

 

Of course. It's up to the individual what they do.

When I say I'm a fatalist, I mean that we can't see the future, so there's no possibility that we can change or affect it.

When I say I'm a stoic, I mean that if I can't change or affect the future, I have to accept it and make the best of it I can.

We all have decisions to make every day. We make good or bad decisions and have to live by them.......but that doesn't mean we have to compromise our integrity. Our integrity is only important to ourselves, no one else.....but it does affect how others see us.

The old saying "walk a mile in another mans shoes" seems to sum up what I think.....what's right for me may not be right for others,

Cheers.

[jukel123 8,140]

Just now, shaaark said:

Give us a clue jukel, what weight did he box at? 

That would give the game away. I'm serious about not blowing his cover. It wouldn't be right. Somebody might read it somewhere and I wouldn't be comfortable if it got back to his Mrs. It would be grassing. 

[Squirrel_Basher 17,100]

36 minutes ago, chartpolski said:

Of course. It's up to the individual what they do.

When I say I'm a fatalist, I mean that we can't see the future, so there's no possibility that we can change or affect it.

When I say I'm a stoic, I mean that if I can't change or affect the future, I have to accept it and make the best of it I can.

We all have decisions to make every day. We make good or bad decisions and have to live by them.......but that doesn't mean we have to compromise our integrity. Our integrity is only important to ourselves, no one else.....but it does affect how others see us.

The old saying "walk a mile in another mans shoes" seems to sum up what I think.....what's right for me may not be right for others,

Cheers.

Don’t think I’ve ever given one single second of thought to how others perceive me .I am what I am and it’s very much take it or leave it .The walk in another man’s shoes thing seems cringy to me tbh .Ive never concerned myself with what others are doing or thinking .

I don’t  care what others are doing as long as they leave me alone .

The choices I’ve made are on me and I stand by every one of them  and we make our own future with those choices .

 

[shaaark 10,809]

14 minutes ago, foxdropper said:

Don’t think I’ve ever given one single second of thought to how others perceive me .I am what I am and it’s very much take it or leave it .The walk in another man’s shoes thing seems cringy to me tbh .Ive never concerned myself with what others are doing or thinking .

I don’t  care what others are doing as long as they leave me alone .

The choices I’ve made are on me and I stand by every one of them  and we make our own future with those choices .

 

I do be thinking you is a bit of a fibber, foxy. 

[Welsh_red 4,645]

If were talking mistakes ive made loads like everyone else . The ones they say have none probably arnt thinking to in depth about it . Ive got nothing major just loads of little ones really . My biggest is 

Giving my mother loads of aggro in my teenage years . As a parents now id be mortified if my boy did what i did to my mrs. She is  goldust as a mother and for a few years i would have been a nightamre for her and probably a embarassment but she stuck by me way beyond she should have . 

On a lighter note i made a bet one season on walter smith becomeing (hull i think) manager.  Spent 25 quid at Ladbrokes with a new account on it . Got free 25 bet for sign up. Club got permanent manager couple days before last game of season and it wasnt walter Smith so i had a free £25 bet to spend . I always ask kids and mrs for guesses for betting and it was man city vs qpr last game of the season and my mrs said bet 3 2 man city . I remember brushing it off saying qpr wont get 2 goals . I bet yaya toure to score anyway 25 quid.

Im a man utd fan and utd lost the league to man city that game . While i was gutted utd didn't win the league i remembered my mrs prediction would have won me a fair amount. . Mrs regularly reminds me about it 10 years later

[bird 9,926]

got loads , but 2 come to mind, 1st when i was younger and fitter, and worked at my local brewery , A pub i used to use few times, the landlord asked me to, do  his door on new years eve. i done it couple times at another pub by me, just to help the gaffer out, it was just few drinks when closed and couple quid. we ll the pub on new years eve, all it was he told me only loose in couples , dont loose in any blokes on there own ok the odd bloke but not 1/2 dozen together, well that what he said well apart from 4 lads who came to the pub, told them to bring couple birds with them  if they wanted to come in, they were ok  , just drove off.  well fook me was it boring, a long night ok i got few quid and drink after it closed the door, but wouldnt do that again on new years eve . next thing i regret is not learning to play the guitar  when i was younger   say teen etc, ive started to play Uke , ok on it , can strum few cords on it , the bloke who teaching me said i could play guitar , might try next 9 months time, after i better on the uke. but i do know young people  learn things like this quick, at my age 70, it takes longer to do it, i keep plodding on best i can.

[Squirrel_Basher 17,100]

10 hours ago, shaaark said:

I do be thinking you is a bit of a fibber, foxy. 

Whatever Sharky boy .Point out where I’ve lied ,ever .

[shaaark 10,809]

2 hours ago, foxdropper said:

Whatever Sharky boy .Point out where I’ve lied ,ever .

My mistake, foxy boy, lol, I read your post wrong. 

 

Edited December 17, 2022 by shaaark

[pesky1972 5,296]

I’ve made too many mistakes to mention, but that’s how I learn.., but I haven’t made any I can’t live with…, yet! 
As I get older I’m fascinated by the journey I’ve taken, and the thousands upon thousands of decisions I’ve taken which have led me to the exact place I am now. The choices I’ve made, a lot of which seemed trivial at the time, the times when I zigged on a gut instinct when I might just as easily have zagged, and when I look back now I can see I might have been taken somewhere entirely different by now…, especially in terms of work. On regrets.., I wished I made more of my education, I reckon I had potential, but maybe a bad set of circumstances at the time and so pissed it all away.

[mackem 26,638]

2 minutes ago, pesky1972 said:

I’ve made too many mistakes to mention, but that’s how I learn.., but I haven’t made any I can’t live with…, yet! 
As I get older I’m fascinated by the journey I’ve taken, and the thousands upon thousands of decisions I’ve taken which have led me to the exact place I am now. The choices I’ve made, a lot of which seemed trivial at the time, the times when I zigged on a gut instinct when I might just as easily have zagged, and when I look back now I can see I might have been taken somewhere entirely different by now…, especially in terms of work. On regrets.., I wished I made more of my education, I reckon I had potential, but maybe a bad set of circumstances at the time and so pissed it all away.

I like that, thought provoking, but if we had made different decisions the butterfly effect would have altered who we are today. 

[jukel123 8,140]

-How about this tale from my youth which also involves another celebrity. (From  now on I am to be referred to  as  the THL legend and all round hard man.)

1971, I'm back in Manchester, London was too dangerous with all these  champion boxers roughing me up. I used to go to Manchester University to listen to bands and meet women. You needed an NUS  card to get in but I used to slip the doormen a few bob and would always get in no bother. I could  easily pass,for a student because I had ditched my  teenage skinhead/ mod look for long hair and Levis.

A band called Hawkwind were playing. They had had a big hit so the place was buzzing. After the performance or 'gig' as they are now called I was sitting in a cubicle with a girl having a drink,  when along comes the band who proceeded to fire water pistols at us. It was a joke at first and I laughed along with it. But one of them who was out of his mind on something, went to refill his pistol with somebody's beer. I told him not to fire beer at me but he started to aim at me and I shoved him onto his arse. He got up and rushed at me and I punched him. Soon there was a  mini riot. The band got involved, security,  and pissed up / stoned students. It was very funny and enjoyable. At one point one of the band threw a trumpet or a bugle at  me but missed. And the celebrity? Twas no other than the late Lemmy.

[tatsblisters 9,834]

My main regret is not listening when younger an not trying to be better educated though the simple things in my life i was happy with a regular job at the pit that i thought at the time would be for life that my kids have never gone without and a few dogs around me to get out and about the only regret is if i had been better educated i wouldn't be slogging my guts out at 62 waiting for state pension age to retire.