Building up the courage

[Astanley 11,580]

10 hours ago, tb25 said:

No drugs stan mate.

And I have been real honest with myself particularly the past few months..am making moves ...but your right..the time for talking is over..it gets you no we're but feeling sorry for yourself.

Certainly time 2 man up so to speak pal.

100 persent agreed..

It's coming mate

TB ,when I say be honest with yourself ,I don't mean make a long list of your shortcomings (we all have them )and make yourself even more depressed ,I mean be honest about everything ,faults ,strengths ,dreams ,hopes ,aspirations ,most of all ask yourself "do I really want to change things ?" If the honest answer is yes then you have it within you to , ,by small baby steps ,by the slightest daily improvement ,,to make the changes ,aim to be ever so slightly better than you were yesterday ,it will start an unstoppable snowball you will surprise yourself the strength you have ......you must quit the booze though don't handicap yourself with it .

I think your a decent fella ,and deserve your shot at peace of mind ,good luck .

[THE STIFFMEISTER 16,349]

1 hour ago, WILF said:

Having you as a son in law is enough to give anyone mental health issues ! X

Your not wrong to be fair 

[tb25 4,627]

35 minutes ago, Astanley said:

TB ,when I say be honest with yourself ,I don't mean make a long list of your shortcomings (we all have them )and make yourself even more depressed ,I mean be honest about everything ,faults ,strengths ,dreams ,hopes ,aspirations ,most of all ask yourself "do I really want to change things ?" If the honest answer is yes then you have it within you to , ,by small baby steps ,by the slightest daily improvement ,,to make the changes ,aim to be ever so slightly better than you were yesterday ,it will start an unstoppable snowball you will surprise yourself the strength you have ......you must quit the booze though don't handicap yourself with it .

I think your a decent fella ,and deserve your shot at peace of mind ,good luck .

Am going to give it a genuine go from today onwards mate.

The Mrs is of today so we're going for a good few hour mooch with the dog then abit of food somewhere. 

My sons up later to pick his new phone up I got him yesterday and to hit the gym.

The key is for me I think is using my spare time constructively and not picking a can up .

I won't be drinking tonight .

Thanks Stan.

[tb25 4,627]

8 hours ago, THE STIFFMEISTER said:

Mate , I feel for you I really do . 

anxiety is a horrible thing and something no one else can contemplate unless they suffer from it 

it’s a terrible sadness that your unable to show others how this affects you other than through words . My mother in law has terrible mental health persecution issues and it’s irrevocably changed her life for the worst . 
 

she’s been through things that would destroy other people , I mean that , buried her husband and two sons in less  than 4 years does that to people . She’s a squash ball of emotions and can wildly vary from one minute to the next literally . 

but one thing you should remember is that there is no Shame or burden in pressing the nhs or it’s ancillaries for extra support . Your gp should be your 1st port of call . 

And that no matter how far you fall ,

or how dark it gets , 

you are never out of the fight .

I wish you good luck 
 

 

Thank you mate

[WILF 47,965]

When you have any sort of problem in your life, drink is nobody’s friend ! 

[tatsblisters 10,403]

4 minutes ago, WILF said:

When you have any sort of problem in your life, drink is nobody’s friend ! 

Ain't that the truth i am going to another funeral week after next of another mate who has drunk himself self to death. 

[Born Hunter 17,828]

I can't comprehend drinking 8 pints, never mind daily! It'd absolutely kill me. I'm a total f***ing lightweight mind but still that is a hell of a burden.

I understand now how you eat so little. You're literally getting all of your calories from sugar in the booze. I think mental health is still your biggest concern but your physical health will be taking a hit with that sort of diet.

Keeping fighting fella. 

Edited February 4, 2022 by Born Hunter

[tb25 4,627]

Nice start to the day..these walks just arnt the same without my other bitch though 

[tb25 4,627]

[brambles 3,309]

3 minutes ago, tb25 said:

Nice start to the day..these walks just arnt the same without my other bitch though 

Like the look of this auld bitch, how's she bred mate

[NEWKID 27,661]

1 hour ago, WILF said:

When you have any sort of problem in your life, drink is nobody’s friend ! 

Too true mate…

Once drink becomes a crutch as opposed to something you enjoy in good company it is a problem…

TB

I wish you the best mate, knocking the drink on the head is a big start imo.. as you’ve said trying to wean off it is no good.. just stop and get rid of any alcohol in the house..

Quitting it may not solve your key issues with anxiety, depression etc but it will help you focus and not feel like shit all the time…

Sounds like life is on the up with work, new car etc… focus on the positives mate and don’t let the negative thoughts drag you down..

[fireman 11,012]

2 hours ago, tb25 said:

 

The key is for me I think is using my spare time constructively and not picking a can up .

I won't be drinking tonight .

Thanks Stan.

But if you do it don't matter mate, little steps lead to massive strides..

[tb25 4,627]

Cheers lads.

As promised..I took the good lady for a romantic meal after our mooch

[Francie 6,368]

43 minutes ago, tb25 said:

Cheers lads.

As promised..I took the good lady for a romantic meal after our mooch

Fancy hoor ye lol

[tb25 4,627]

5 hours ago, Francie said:

Fancy hoor ye lol

I aim 2 please my frend..lol