ryaldinhio 4,776 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 Very very recently I found out a friend of mine committed suicide. 31yr old. Top lad. Life of the party. Recently married. So much life left. Yet he felt he had no other option that to hang himself in some shitty digs down south. Why/how does it get to this? He had so many people that loved him and would give him all week if he asked or opened up. No one suspected anything. With what we have all been through this last couple yr, what is going to come in the next couple and the pressure that still sits on the man to be the bread winner and have the best house and best car etc I expect there is a greater risk now than ever. I was with mutual friends when we found out so we had real propa drink in his memory as knowing him he would have wanted. He has left tons of friends, a young wife, a mother and father all totally devastated. I don't suppose he ever considered that. Please fellas if you are ever that low or anywhere remotely near reach out to someone, anyone. No matter how bad things are with work/life/money it can be dealt with. Here I am at 01.45 sat up drinking, thinking, upset and writing about it. And I was just a friend. I cannot imagine how his wife or parents are feeling. Please don't do that to the people around you. Someone cares more than you know. 18 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tyla 3,179 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 Sorry the hear that mate. Mental health is becoming a huge problem, especially for men. RIP Quote Link to post Share on other sites
chesney 5,458 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 Sorry to hear to hear that ryaldinhio got the same news about a mate about 7 weeks back stunned when i heard it. The nicest fella ya could ever meet always in good form couldnt do enough for people words coundnt do this man justice but unfortunately we just never know what somebody is thinking mental health is a big thing talking helps if only they would reach out and ask for themeslves cause he was always there for everyone else. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
riohog 5,750 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 bad do that , im sure drink and drugs play a strong part ,maybe he should have considered the devestation he would leave behind before he did it ... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Chid 6,610 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 1 hour ago, riohog said: bad do that , im sure drink and drugs play a strong part ,maybe he should have considered the devestation he would leave behind before he did it ... When you have mental health problems , you think the world and people would be better off without you , you don't think they'd be upset to see you gone ect ect .. Drink and drugs may play a big part for some , but there's plenty of people who don't do either yet they suffer and get suicidal with mental health problems 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Borr 6,466 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 It's definitely a good idea to understand that suicide is a selfish act, preferably when you're in a good place but to the extent that it stays in your subconscious and becomes a trigger to drag your ass out of self pity and depression, obviously mental illness doesn't always work like that....sorry to hear about your mate. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
tb25 4,627 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 Selfish act?? You lads really haven't a clue! 13 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Borr 6,466 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 17 minutes ago, tb25 said: Selfish act?? You lads really haven't a clue! Mate if you're gonna leave kids behind, then whatever it takes you get help, change your life, habits , place you live whatever. But you don't abandon children.. 3 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Greyman 28,981 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 4 minutes ago, Borr said: Mate if you're gonna leave kids behind, then whatever it takes you get help, change your life, habits , place you live whatever. But you don't abandon children.. I totally agree mate, but I don’t think people like to hear that so I try to stay out of things like this and accept my feelings and emotions are slightly different to many, it’s a topic with so many variables 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Borr 6,466 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Greyman said: I totally agree mate, but I don’t think people like to hear that so I try to stay out of things like this and accept my feelings and emotions are slightly different to many, it’s a topic with so many variables Yep fair enough, and yes it's emotive. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
tb25 4,627 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 To someone like yourself borr mate who has never felt so low and desperate it can seem a selfish act..and I can understand people feeling like it is.. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
South hams hunter 8,934 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 1 hour ago, Borr said: It's definitely a good idea to understand that suicide is a selfish act, preferably when you're in a good place but to the extent that it stays in your subconscious and becomes a trigger to drag your ass out of self pity and depression, obviously mental illness doesn't always work like that....sorry to hear about your mate. the people doing it feel its their only option and that their loved ones would be better off without them. to them its helping others Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Borr 6,466 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, tb25 said: To someone like yourself borr mate who has never felt so low and desperate it can seem a selfish act..and I can understand people feeling like it is.. You don't know where I've been, respectfully. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
tb25 4,627 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 Yes I haven't mate..I apologise for assuming.. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Greyman 28,981 Posted October 23, 2021 Report Share Posted October 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Borr said: You don't know where I've been, respectfully. Not Weston super mare because that would get you proper down 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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