Autistic kids

[WILF 46,832]

1 minute ago, king said:

 

Does he avoid eye contact as much as possible mate.

Only sometimes mate, normally if it’s something he don’t want to listen too ! Lol 

If he is explaining something to me he wants to look right at me then.

[king 11,972]

37 minutes ago, jukel123 said:

I'm a real believer in accepting kids differences. Schools tend to want to put people in the same boxes. Some kids aren't built that way. Nowt to be afraid of,  just let them be who they are.

And they are keen for autistic kids to go to what they call.the special school.for that very reason they can't cope with it all.

The wife has allways been adamant that they stay in main stream school..

1 teacher even had to go on a 6 week training course as she couldn't get her head around autistic kids..the lad would have a maths lesson and do the work in 10 mins.all done just found it way to easy..so after that she would ask him to teach the kids in his group.

[WILF 46,832]

One of the things I find hard is that my little lad can’t do team sport.

He just can’t deal with all the people and the demands that just naturally come from getting coached at team sport.

He says to me “I’d like to dad but I can’t” , feel so sorry for him in those moments.

However, I take him every now and again and ask him if he wants to join in, he never does but you never know one day he just might.

[king 11,972]

8 minutes ago, WILF said:

Only sometimes mate, normally if it’s something he don’t want to listen too ! Lol 

If he is explaining something to me he wants to look right at me then.

The avoiding eye I'm not interested lol.

What about clothes label's.every single piece of clothing has to be de labeled in our house.

Even that little ball type thing on the toes of socks. Many a time they cut the labels off brand new tops and a big hole in it then lol.

[Blackmag 6,095]

24 minutes ago, downsouth said:

My girl is ok when she gets to know people but has her own group of friends and takes a while to trust people and is very awkward if even her best friends try to hug her.Most people dont even realise that she is autistic and just think shes shy unless they spend a bit of time around her and get to see her little quirks.She had a real rough time going back to school after the lockdown it was almost like starting all over again.Also she cant understand why kids can be nasty or mean as weve taught her to always be nice and treat people how you like to be treated and like I already said she takes everything we say as gospel so cant get her head around why somebody would do something different.She cant lie to us and if she tries she will come back a minute later upset and tell the truth.Its sweet but we have to be careful with what we say to her as there is no changing things or moving the goalposts once weve said it.

Were exactly the same mate whatever we say is taken as gospel and he can't lie or won't when he was at school he was bullied because of a tick wouldn't hit back till I told him in front of the teacher to hammer them which he did he's a big unit for his age and suffers anger management which we got the brunt off  because of his frustration of being bullied but like your daughter he's very wary or awkward with kids 

Edited December 3, 2020 by Blackmag

[Blackmag 6,095]

25 minutes ago, downsouth said:

My girl is ok when she gets to know people but has her own group of friends and takes a while to trust people and is very awkward if even her best friends try to hug her.Most people dont even realise that she is autistic and just think shes shy unless they spend a bit of time around her and get to see her little quirks.She had a real rough time going back to school after the lockdown it was almost like starting all over again.Also she cant understand why kids can be nasty or mean as weve taught her to always be nice and treat people how you like to be treated and like I already said she takes everything we say as gospel so cant get her head around why somebody would do something different.She cant lie to us and if she tries she will come back a minute later upset and tell the truth.Its sweet but we have to be careful with what we say to her as there is no changing things or moving the goalposts once weve said it.

Out of likes mate 

[king 11,972]

28 minutes ago, WILF said:

Animals are a gift for my lad mate, it relaxes him and he just likes being with them.

 

He's beeming around them animals mate.fair play looks super happy

[king 11,972]

29 minutes ago, downsouth said:

Oh yeah I forgot the noise thing

My 2 lads can't flush the toilet the noise is just way to much.it must feel super loud to them I'm sure..

[king 11,972]

23 minutes ago, Chid said:

I reckon I'd maybe be on the spectrum if I got tested for a few different reasons.. but who knows 

Some one said about number plates ..I could remember number plates of customers cars and knew what they'd be getting soon as I seen the number plate in the car park .

I'm extremely switched on if something interests me .. to the point I become almost manic searching for information about the said thing .

I also have a good attention to detail on remembering things to the point I could tell you what colour jumper you had on 7 years ago

 

 

 

I would say there's a bit there mate

[tatsblisters 9,762]

Just wish their was more help in getting some with autism into the workplace everybody comments on how polite my 20 year old grandson is and has a few good mate's around him .

[Blackmag 6,095]

9 minutes ago, WILF said:

One of the things I find hard is that my little lad can’t do team sport.

He just can’t deal with all the people and the demands that just naturally come from getting coached at team sport.

He says to me “I’d like to dad but I can’t” , feel so sorry for him in those moments.

However, I take him every now and again and ask him if he wants to join in, he never does but you never know one day he just might.

I once took Tom to football practice Blackburn rovers had a few coaches there a goalkeeping coach with the same name took him under his wing at a corner a another coach was telling this kid stand on the keeper block him anyway Tom had a jens lehmanns moment and threw him in to the back of the net we had to stop him after that he didn't want to go back yet he's totally different in the boxing gym he takes money at the desk chats with all the other lads it's like he's totally comfortable there 

[gnipper 6,472]

8 minutes ago, king said:

I would say there's a bit there mate

I think everyone has a bit of it in their own quirky ways.

[king 11,972]

10 minutes ago, sid g said:

excuse my ignorance  lads but is this a life long thing or can/does/will it change 

My knowledge of it is.as they got older they manage it better themselves.probably likened to learning something like an instrument.the more you are dealing or learning something the better you get at it.

But seem to blend in a bit almost mimicking the behaviour of normal folk around them.

My lad is 19 now.he came off medication 2yrs ago.and has really surprised me and the wife with how he's relaxed in every day life..

Won't look me in the eye though or anyone else.talking to people I seem to get the feeling they think he's ignorant.but he's not. 

[tatsblisters 9,762]

21 minutes ago, WILF said:

One of the things I find hard is that my little lad can’t do team sport.

He just can’t deal with all the people and the demands that just naturally come from getting coached at team sport.

He says to me “I’d like to dad but I can’t” , feel so sorry for him in those moments.

However, I take him every now and again and ask him if he wants to join in, he never does but you never know one day he just might.

My grandson joined the cubs when he was younger that helped him no end .

[king 11,972]

1 minute ago, gnipper said:

I think everyone has a bit of it in their own quirky ways.

They have.and me and the wife agree that no one is perfect everyone has certain flaws.if you can call them that..nobody is normal..