Life is so unfair

[bigmac 97kt 13,807]

As some of you know my daughter had cancer a year ago now she went though a life threatening op to remove the 6lb tumor  

she had a 80to 20 chance of coming threw the op but she did and her life started again

all ways full of smiles even before the op she is a very strong woman and only 35yrs old three kids

and a loving husband that i think the world of .

so many plans so many things to do and get on with she had sold her business a cafe that they had taken a year to set up as she would be to unwell to keep on going  this cafe was her dream but had to let it go .

Then this virus hit and she could not leave the house or any one that lived there that included her husband who is a partner in our business

so i set about running it my self but did not mind better him indoors and my daughter safe and the grand kids ,

she had to have a scan every month and she would not get the all clear until 5yrs had passed the NHS were spot on and sent her to a private hospital for her scans in this crisis we are having at the moment payed for by them

she was told at the beginning it was a cancer that would come back and a very rare cancer so after her scan she had to go and see her consultant for the results .

And thats when my would and hers and family fell apart

Its back and its terminal nothing we can do for you you she is going to have the chemo but this will make her very ill 

she is the apple of my eye nothing i would not do for her

if an angel come down to this earth and sayd to me she can stay but i have to take you id stand up and say take me now i dont need to say goodby to any one just take me .

We are very very close and it will break me when she is gone i can feel it even now lads

it hurts so much

im 6foot 1 and very strong ,,,strong hands and there is nothing i can do to help her nothing

i held her in my hands when she was born only a few mins old   and made a promise to her that nothing or no one would hurt her  

as i have done with all my kids and i cant keep that promise.

Your kids are not supposed to go before you  there just not and i know it dose not go that way

We had just layed my youngest sister to rest the day before we found out the cancer was back iv lost my mother my sister and two aunts

in a year and now this i dont know how im going to cope when she go,s i see her every day .

But i have to be strong for her I lay on her bed the other night  and held her in my arms she layd her head on my big chest and broke her heart and i had to fight back the tears as i dont want her to worry about me there is a time and a place for that

when im alone with no one about .

Life is not fair all them wrong uns about all those wankers and he takes my little girl

They cant even give her a how long as the cancer is aggressive and its secondary cancer

im not looking for sympathy just needed to get it off my chest

well lads im going to leave it there cant see the screen any more

so im going to grab my rifle and my lamp and hit the fields for a few hours

just me my rifle and my thoughts

atvbmac

 

 

[Pirate 9000 676]

I can't possibly emagin the pain you and your family are going through at this moment,cancer is such a wicked disease,I hope you and your family will support each other through this difficult time,

[Arry 22,317]

My greatest sympathy mate and I do know how you feel having lost one of my own. It's hard trying to be hard and put up that front all the time. All I can say mate is try and be what your Daughter would want you to be. It's very hard but got me through. 

All the very best

Arry

[Qbgrey 4,124]

Very sad reading mate,it does seem so unfair this life were in.having had a similar tragedey its really tough,but time and memories will pull you threw mate.

[jigsaw 11,875]

So sad and sorry to read, we take things for granted.. No words can ease your pain, to your family, may you all find strength from each other.. You will all need each other in the future to deal with the situation... God bless you all... 

[Meece 1,958]

36 minutes ago, jigsaw said:

So sad and sorry to read, we take things for granted.. No words can ease your pain, to your family, may you all find strength from each other.. You will all need each other in the future to deal with the situation... God bless you all... 

This just about sums it up. What are the positives that can be taken.?  At least you can talk about things before the end,. Unlike someone goes out the door and has a heart attack or a road accident. The ones that need your support and strength are firstly her husband who will bear the loss  most and her children. Just doing the day to day things.  Don't forget your wife,  the mother of her daughter who will feel the loss more than you, even if she doesn't show it. My wife still mourns the loss of a stillborn that she never held after many many years.

[walshie 2,804]

I've got no words. So sorry Jimmy.

[bell 3,606]

That’s a sad read mate, I wish you and yours all the best over the coming months.

[VOON 1,317]

That’s really tough.....that she may have the best of care now.......God Bless her and your family...I’m sure your words have struck a chord with all fathers on here....

[iworkwhippets 12,657]

Look mate I dunna no you from Adam, but cancer is one evil that has hit members of my family, so look, you ever need a shoulder, you ever need a knock on your door, you ever need to knock on my door, im going nowhere ,  speaks volumes to me about you does that topic sorry isn't good enough but it comes from the heart

[DIDO.1 22,844]

Nno words mate. Sorry 

[lurcherman 887 13,250]

Sorry to hear that mate 

[mushroom 13,198]

I'm crying here for you mate. We lost my auntie to cancer, she was young too... as my gran says, it's always the good ones

[martyn2233 2,645]

I’m so sorry to hear your bad news I don’t no you but happy to talk any time 24/7 I’m here

i Lost  my big brother 2 weeks ago to cancer @ 41 yrs old 

so young just remember the good times 

atb martyn 

[Jonjon79 13,358]

There's not much that anyone can say to this mate - all you can do now is to be there for her.

 

Good luck to you all - I'll be thinking of you and Ethan.