Life , is it all worth the stress ?

[THE STIFFMEISTER 15,736]

I’ll start with an apology to anyone I’ve offended as of late I’ve been a bit brusque lately and I’m sorry for any offence I’ve caused 

I don’t really know what I’m doing writing this here in a forum of public strangers but I suppose this is the closest thing I have to social media and access to a group of people I share viewpoints with. 

Today I may have shot myself in the foot, I was due to start a degree  level course in January, something that is feted and grabbed for in my line of work. It’s two years long and Would mean I’d be hanging up the tools I’ve used for over a decade for a laptop and a cushy number for my vocation with a seamless transition to civilian life. 

I cancelled that today face to face with the college and I’ve just got back from the a12 to home. 

In early October , we experienced something as a family no one should , I won’t go further into detail but I’ve had some great advice from members on here to sit on my hands and let the authorities deal with it . We have and due to one thing or another we haven’t reached the conclusion we hoped for. 

Last week I came in and looked at my wife . She looked tired and fed up. We’re a long way from home and we don’t really have a support network here. My kids are growing fast and I don’t think I’d want to miss the next two years in a classroom and with a laptop in the corner at night. 

We have a good life here, we’re settled , we both work, but it’s not home.

So we sat down and had a serious chat .

Financially we’ll be worse off , I’ll probably end up going abroad again at some point. It will mean new schools , a new motor probably , yet another job change for her , I’ve spoken before about my girls adhd and it will mean she’s uprooted from her school etc 

But sometimes it’s not enough having just a few extra quid left at the month.

Not when you think of what that is really costing you. 

Lifes too short for them not to know their grandparents or where I grew up . 

So we made the decision to up sticks in the new year and instead of heading to the south east , we’ll be going home. Possibly back to Cumbria , possibly to North York’s. 

I don’t feel great about this , or what I’ll do . But as I write this , I’m sat outside looking at the sky. I can hear the ferret rattling around in the cage, my little lad snoring in bed and my lab is sat with his head on my knees. 

I suppose last few years I’ve been that focused on the future that I’ve forgotten what’s important. 

We live in a here and now world , it’s hard not to want to strive for a better future. 

I suppose  what I’m trying to say is that time is the most important element in the world.

you can make more money , you can replace stuff, but you can never get time back. 

I feel like I’ve had a load lifted from my shoulders today knowing that my life will once more be in the lands just under the border. 

Sometines it’s just nice to go home and know what’s important 

 

 

[Phil Lloyd 10,738]

Follow your heart fellah,....life is so short, and after a certain stage , time really does begin to fly past,..and there really is,... no going back..

 

 

[socks 32,253]

Money comes and money goes but your family are there forever and are the most important thing in life. I lost a lot of time with my kids and they grew up fast without me knowing them properly ... luckily my missus is the glue that binds us all together and that’s helped massively ... a career lasts for a very short part of your life and when it’s done nobody gives a fukc about you ... your family and kids will always be there and will always love you ... honestly nothing else on this planet matters compared to your family and the best you can do is to do the best by them ......

[D Lloyd 2,790]

Same here mate I don't do social media only come on here and pritty much only this section of the forum.

Often thought of venting on here but normally get ripped to bits by people that have never met me and sertantly don't now me so I don't.

But glad you did there is far more to life than ones job, family aspcely the kids and your fiscal and mental health and as sed time . money is not always easy to come by but your kids ones old enough will now there is nothing more important in life than quality time with a mam and dad that loves the bones of them.

Family is important for the kids I moved back to Wales after 7 wonderful years in far north of Scotland so my baby boy at the time could now his grand parents.

Hope all goes well for you mate

Atb

[fireman 10,869]

When you move can i have your hunting permission?.

[THE STIFFMEISTER 15,736]

Fireman , just start at Felixstowe and head north till you hit Great Yarmouth 

tell em gallelio doesn’t apply as long as you say “oh my god , it’s coming straight for us !” 

Apologies in the maudlin post , opened a bottle of captain morgans and remembered why I don’t drink 

 

[joe ox 2,574]

Fcuk the rat race am going out lamping, going lamping 4+ nights a week and lying in bed all day is normal isn't it?

[dogmad riley 1,343]

29 minutes ago, joe ox said:

Fcuk the rat race am going out lamping, going lamping 4+ nights a week and lying in bed all day is normal isn't it?

I wish it was 

[sandymere 8,263]

The only way to make tomorrow right is to do whats right today and to my mind that means putting your family first.

But don't give up on progressing your own career, I did shite a school , was a brickie, but at 39 went to uni and qualified as a nurse at 42 so it's never to late  whether your in Suffolk or the far north . 

[poxon 5,724]

It’s good to read that there are actually normal sensible people on here 

the rat race is a mugs game it’s something we’ve all been duped by with schooling in a sequence telling us what we need to do with our lives like all the good sheeple with no thought for happiness in mind 

We’re a short time living a long time dead we come in to the world with nothing an leave with nothing an it doesn’t matter how much money you’ve got or how hard you work in what career time spent with family is priceless always family first 

 

[abrasivewheel 53]

Al the best in what you do it's TRUE your a long time dead make the most of what you have and family is the most important thing especially wife and kids .follow your heart and I am sure you have made the right decision in the long run .life is full of if onlys . And to be honest Cumbria or north Yorkshire are cracking places to live .as long as the family are happy and it's a unanimous decision then go for it . Hopefully I will be in a situation similar to yourself with my long term goal being france .

[Penda 3,341]

Home is where the heart is when you've grew up some where it's hard to leave the place good memories etc work will be here long after were all dead and buried good luck 

[bird 9,870]

9 hours ago, W. Katchum said:

 Iv said it before in here an I’ll say it again an again if needs be, I learnt at 6 year ole when my ole man dropped dead at 28 whilst working that life ain’t forever, sure money makes it a bit easier an if you ain’t got none then it does seem like the end of the world, best thing i ever did was get out the rat race, constantly trying to earn more, swapping job for job, none of which I liked or wanted. Got to a point I started thinking I was just lazy,  unhappy or what ever, but was sure it was my own fault, me missus sat me down an put me right at one point, made me remember the important things in life, so I quit me job, applied for a couple a jobs I thought id like but had no clue about ( god loves a trier right? ) a couple a knock backs an I met a farmer who took a chance on me, best thing I ever done, was on a serious pay drop to start with an wife ended up going back to work, slowly but surely after doing few courses an grafting like a fcuker I worked me way up, now on decent pay an honestly never once thought about pulling a sicky or quitting or nowt, loads a time with me kids which is all I wanted at the start, but now I’m seriously happy, the job I got means I’ll never get rich, but for now, who cares, I pay the bills, got some extra to treat me kids, making loads a memories with them, Cos truth being told. Even at 6 I knew I’d rather have had more memories of me ole man than the poxy insurance settlement my ma got

 

Do wat will make your kids happy mate, Cos if they are happy you an the wife won’t be far behind them, they are the only thing that really matters

good thread above , respect to you mate

[bird 9,870]

57 minutes ago, abrasivewheel said:

Al the best in what you do it's TRUE your a long time dead make the most of what you have and family is the most important thing especially wife and kids .follow your heart and I am sure you have made the right decision in the long run .life is full of if onlys . And to be honest Cumbria or north Yorkshire are cracking places to live .as long as the family are happy and it's a unanimous decision then go for it . Hopefully I will be in a situation similar to yourself with my long term goal being france .

spot on mate, as prob one of the older lads on here, yep your long time dead, and by god does it go fookin  fast. yeh your family come 1st deff mate, ive got 2 lovley grand kids, top class son who i love , he better man than i ever be, i am glad he took after his mother and not like thick fecker  like. i never got on with my old man, were were like to pits having a go. but i made sure that me and my son got on better in life. i will say onething about my old man though he always made sure we had enough food and money on the table, we fell out as i got older with my boozing  chasing skirt, i was living at home at time and he  didnt like my life style, suppose looking back fair enough i was mid twenty s . if you got your health/strenght , and somebody that you love and they feel the same about , well you won the lottery  in life      Fact

[D Lloyd 2,790]

2 hours ago, poxon said:

It’s good to read that there are actually normal sensible people on here 

the rat race is a mugs game it’s something we’ve all been duped by with schooling in a sequence telling us what we need to do with our lives like all the good sheeple with no thought for happiness in mind 

We’re a short time living a long time dead we come in to the world with nothing an leave with nothing an it doesn’t matter how much money you’ve got or how hard you work in what career time spent with family is priceless always family first 

 

Ones of the reasons we home educat  Ower youngest boy mate