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[Jonjon79 13,358]

There's nothing wrong with a smack when it's called for - I think the Scottish government needs to keep it's nose out.

 

I earned every wallop I got as a kid - I even got a few that I hadn't asked for

 

As well as teaching me not to get caught, it taught me respect and, I love both of my parents dearly.

 

Now, the funny thing is, I'm the oldest of 3 boys. There's quite an age gap between us all. The old man mellowed with age - he was quite the disciplinarian when I was young but, not so much with the youngest.

I've been in a stable job, in a position of responsibility for years and, I'm raising a family.

My youngest brother is a tearaway who's currently enjoying a break at her majestys pleasure.

None of us were easy kids to raise but, is that just coincidence

[mackem 27,435]

My mum stamped,kicked,punched me often,she was sadistic,my dad was pretty much the same,never bothered with either of them since I was 16,my old man died last year,brain cancer,didnt bother going to his funeral,f**k them.I don't agree with hitting kids,not condemning those who do however,we all parent different,theres no step-by-step guide book.

[Jonjon79 13,358]

My mum stamped,kicked,punched me often,she was sadistic,my dad was pretty much the same,never bothered with either of them since I was 16,my old man died last year,brain cancer,didnt bother going to his funeral,f**k them.I don't agree with hitting kids,not condemning those who do however,we all parent different,theres no step-by-step guide book.

Sorry to hear that mate.

[mackem 27,435]

 

My mum stamped,kicked,punched me often,she was sadistic,my dad was pretty much the same,never bothered with either of them since I was 16,my old man died last year,brain cancer,didnt bother going to his funeral,f**k them.I don't agree with hitting kids,not condemning those who do however,we all parent different,theres no step-by-step guide book.

Sorry to hear that mate.

 

Its ok mate,product of their times I think,just how it was then,loads of kids had it the same,it just makes us better parents to our own kids I hope

[The one 8,506]

Im so glad feck all happens here that smacking kids is top of there priorities

[walshie 2,804]

Will parents be able to take their kids for a day trip to England for a good walloping?

[keepdiggin 9,561]

The world gone mad theyll say its wrong to share a bath with my 15yr okd daugter next

[WILF 47,547]

I personally think there is a world of difference between a short sharp smack on the bum and giving a kid a beating.

[Accip74 7,112]

I'm four & half years in & I haven't felt the need to do it yet, hopefully I can keep it that way?

 

My old man was beaten from pillar to post & he never laid a finger on us.............so I'm hoping I can carry that on ;-)

[walshie 2,804]

It has to be taken in the context of why it was administered. If the smack is because the parent has lost their temper it's bad. If it's for (say) poking a dog in the eye and the alternative was getting bitten, it's a good thing.

 

As Wilf said, a quick smack and a beating are nothing alike and shouldn't be compared.

[NEWKID 27,402]

Times have certainly changed, my mum was strict but fair bought me and my brother up through some rough times and gave us a good wallop at times, also rubbed a bar of soap in my brothers mouth when he lied to her... he was sat in the bath crying his eyes out with bubbles coming out of his mouth lol... my old man was brought up rough and was quick tempered.. it was a case of shout then whack then feel sorry and want to make up... I was a bit too stubborn for that... it would kill him I wouldn't want to talk for hours after lol..

 

I've smacked my kids on the ass, very rarely and only as a quick shock...they have led a very different childhood to mine, and beating was certainly not something I was prepared to do to them

[WILF 47,547]

I'm four & half years in & I haven't felt the need to do it yet, hopefully I can keep it that way?

My old man was beaten from pillar to post & he never laid a finger on us.............so I'm hoping I can carry that on ;-)

Likewise mate.....my old man was bought up very harsh and yet never laid a hand to me.

I can count the number of times I have felt the need to smack my kids backside on one hand over 15 years and that for all 4 of them.

The only time I have done it is when they were nasty rude (as opposed to cheeky rude) to their mother, once to the mother in law and a couple of times when they were throwing their weight about (all part of growing up I know).......that's my girls 14 & 15

My older boy I have never had to smack ever in 10 years........a couple of incidents where he has had a serious bollocking when he was impolite to a waitress and once when he was rude to his mother.

Luckily enough knowing he has disappointed me and let himself down is enough for him.

 

My youngest got his first tap on the bum the other week when he lost his rag and decided he was going to smash things up.

 

I have one rule that would warrant a smack and that is "don't behave like an animal".......that's the only smacking rule.

I don't see much need for it otherwise and maybe there's no need for it at all but that my red line.

 

If I see someone actually beating a kid then I'd intervene and have done a couple of times over the years.

[WILF 47,547]

When my old man was a kid in the late 20s early 30s he was scared of the dark so my grandads cure was to tie him to a gatepost all night when they were down hopping in Kent..........can you imagine that?.....seems unbelievable in today's world.

[South hams hunter 8,926]

Completely agree with most of these posts

[Blackbriar 8,569]

 

Provided it's used judiciously, I have no problem with smacking kids. As many have already said, it didn't do me any harm !

 

We got one warning from my mum, and a clout if we did it again. We soon learnt that one warning was all you got, and the number of clouts received went down accordingly ! When we misbehaved, she'd pose us a riddle - "What begins with come here, and ends in Ow ?"......

 

I despair of the lack of respect kids have for their parents, who seem unable or unwilling to punish bad behaviour. When I was 14 or 15, I swore at my mum.....in the intervening 40 years, I've never done it again !