delboy_187 902 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Misery be the answer your not happy an want strange my op is to move on don't cause someone else to be feel betrayed and miserable . I for one wouldn't do it I'd rather sit in my hand till was num with pins an needles an wank away as if it was bit strange ha ha could you picture yourself in same situation.id kill a man slowly that broke my family cause that can't be fixed not a tool available or part . would have nothing to live for I'd feel .i bet I'm not alone either that mo . Thankfully things are good at home. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nothernlite 18,077 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Each to there own what ever floats your boat enjoy life Quote Link to post Share on other sites
blackmaggie 3,376 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 i wouldnt put my kids or mrs through the heartbreak for the sake of a knee jerk mines a brilliant mother and my best friend we have been through some rough times but she has always stood by me when i quess it would of been easier to walk away at times plus i dont think another woman is the answer to any problems you need to sort your own house out first because cheating only brings pain an sorrow to all concerned especially your kids 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnipper 6,426 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 One lunatic is enough for anyone 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lab 10,979 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Hunting Men.......bunch of big pussies by the sounds of things... And that's why your still single. If your lucky you will find the right one in the end. But will you have the nounce to recognise him? TC I'm not single sweetheart.......the girl has just moved in this weekend actually. She knows her role though.......? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
perthshire keeper 1,239 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Me? Nope, not with this one, she is the ONE....... On the flip side.......I've personally known quite a few of the 'I've got it all out of my system blah blah blah, blissfully married, 100% faithful lads.......' Only for them to find out the their 'tolerant' mrs was getting 'it' else where all along...... Never take anything for granted......;-) its not just the shag , why women look else where , they like this feeling of being wanted , as you say not took for granted , so when they don't get treated how they want , they make it dull for there husbands /boyfriends regards sex , that's why men look else where in the 1st place just think back to when you 1st met you be shagging like to rabbits wouldn't you lol, but women are fickle creatures and deep down only thinking of there selves , to make a relationship work both have got put the effort in, anything over time comes boring , even rich people get bored lol, it must be great being rich , there's not much money carnt do in this world you never be short of women for a start , as long as you got your health+strength fook'um i agree.their horrid creatures and in my few years on this earth ive come to the strong conclsion that they use sex as a tool or weapon to get and lever what they want out of a situation/relationship/ life!...give it..withhold it..sex bans ect ect they will be a c**t with you,then when you get dishearten and maybe your eyes look else where to the grass on the other side of the fence..that way it becomes your fault for being a c**t and looking at other women not their for being (not sure of the word ime looking for hear so ile use "frigid" thou i suspect "emotionally frigid" would be better" name me a man who is happy with his wife spouse girlfreind ect and still wanders away?? they dont same for women if the man is lacking then she will eventually wander! see for me theirs 2 kinds of sex...theirs the sex with some drunken tart/massive polish woman (who was like trying to move a fridge round the room on your own ) that is just realy a wank with no hands then theirs the sex with some one your quite fond of/love and its more about bonding,passion....its not sex its making love. now i may sound to a lot as a typical c**t of a man who only thinks with his dick and wants a relationship to evolve around a motive of the more carnal kind but its not so... you see ime hopelessly utterly in love with a terribly complicated young woman and her two little girls and have been for years but we have as close to a sexless relationship as its possible to have. mainly due to her lack of sex drive and willingness to make time for "us" now this is a prime example of earlier...she is happy with this set up because she has some one utterly devoted to her and waiting on her hand and foot (jump=how high) her girls have some one to fill the other role, so for her the lack of sex isnt a problem because on the very rare occasion she dose want it then its their. but for me its terribly hard always wanting a little more and not just the sex eather any kind of intimacy. devoting yourself in all ways to some one and only getting a fraction back. but do you let this ruin the rest of a other wise happy set up? just because of the lack of sex or would it be understandable if i got my needs (cringe!) else where? and come home much happier and less frustrated to a girl i love and 2 little girls ive brought up as my own and a other wise very happy life? 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WILF 46,646 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Me? Nope, not with this one, she is the ONE....... On the flip side.......I've personally known quite a few of the 'I've got it all out of my system blah blah blah, blissfully married, 100% faithful lads.......' Only for them to find out the their 'tolerant' mrs was getting 'it' else where all along...... Never take anything for granted......;-) its not just the shag , why women look else where , they like this feeling of being wanted , as you say not took for granted , so when they don't get treated how they want , they make it dull for there husbands /boyfriends regards sex , that's why men look else where in the 1st place just think back to when you 1st met you be shagging like to rabbits wouldn't you lol, but women are fickle creatures and deep down only thinking of there selves , to make a relationship work both have got put the effort in, anything over time comes boring , even rich people get bored lol, it must be great being rich , there's not much money carnt do in this world you never be short of women for a start , as long as you got your health+strength fook'um i agree.their horrid creatures and in my few years on this earth ive come to the strong conclsion that they use sex as a tool or weapon to get and lever what they want out of a situation/relationship/ life!...give it..withhold it..sex bans ect ectthey will be a c**t with you,then when you get dishearten and maybe your eyes look else where to the grass on the other side of the fence..that way it becomes your fault for being a c**t and looking at other women not their for being (not sure of the word ime looking for hear so ile use "frigid" thou i suspect "emotionally frigid" would be better" name me a man who is happy with his wife spouse girlfreind ect and still wanders away?? they dont same for women if the man is lacking then she will eventually wander! see for me theirs 2 kinds of sex...theirs the sex with some drunken tart/massive polish woman (who was like trying to move a fridge round the room on your own ) that is just realy a wank with no hands then theirs the sex with some one your quite fond of/love and its more about bonding,passion....its not sex its making love. now i may sound to a lot as a typical c**t of a man who only thinks with his dick and wants a relationship to evolve around a motive of the more carnal kind but its not so... you see ime hopelessly utterly in love with a terribly complicated young woman and her two little girls and have been for years but we have as close to a sexless relationship as its possible to have. mainly due to her lack of sex drive and willingness to make time for "us" now this is a prime example of earlier...she is happy with this set up because she has some one utterly devoted to her and waiting on her hand and foot (jump=how high) her girls have some one to fill the other role, so for her the lack of sex isnt a problem because on the very rare occasion she dose want it then its their. but for me its terribly hard always wanting a little more and not just the sex eather any kind of intimacy. devoting yourself in all ways to some one and only getting a fraction back. but do you let this ruin the rest of a other wise happy set up? just because of the lack of sex or would it be understandable if i got my needs (cringe!) else where? and come home much happier and less frustrated to a girl i love and 2 little girls ive brought up as my own and a other wise very happy life? Me? Nope, not with this one, she is the ONE....... On the flip side.......I've personally known quite a few of the 'I've got it all out of my system blah blah blah, blissfully married, 100% faithful lads.......' Only for them to find out the their 'tolerant' mrs was getting 'it' else where all along...... Never take anything for granted......;-) its not just the shag , why women look else where , they like this feeling of being wanted , as you say not took for granted , so when they don't get treated how they want , they make it dull for there husbands /boyfriends regards sex , that's why men look else where in the 1st place just think back to when you 1st met you be shagging like to rabbits wouldn't you lol, but women are fickle creatures and deep down only thinking of there selves , to make a relationship work both have got put the effort in, anything over time comes boring , even rich people get bored lol, it must be great being rich , there's not much money carnt do in this world you never be short of women for a start , as long as you got your health+strength fook'um i agree.their horrid creatures and in my few years on this earth ive come to the strong conclsion that they use sex as a tool or weapon to get and lever what they want out of a situation/relationship/ life!...give it..withhold it..sex bans ect ectthey will be a c**t with you,then when you get dishearten and maybe your eyes look else where to the grass on the other side of the fence..that way it becomes your fault for being a c**t and looking at other women not their for being (not sure of the word ime looking for hear so ile use "frigid" thou i suspect "emotionally frigid" would be better" name me a man who is happy with his wife spouse girlfreind ect and still wanders away?? they dont same for women if the man is lacking then she will eventually wander! see for me theirs 2 kinds of sex...theirs the sex with some drunken tart/massive polish woman (who was like trying to move a fridge round the room on your own ) that is just realy a wank with no hands then theirs the sex with some one your quite fond of/love and its more about bonding,passion....its not sex its making love. now i may sound to a lot as a typical c**t of a man who only thinks with his dick and wants a relationship to evolve around a motive of the more carnal kind but its not so... you see ime hopelessly utterly in love with a terribly complicated young woman and her two little girls and have been for years but we have as close to a sexless relationship as its possible to have. mainly due to her lack of sex drive and willingness to make time for "us" now this is a prime example of earlier...she is happy with this set up because she has some one utterly devoted to her and waiting on her hand and foot (jump=how high) her girls have some one to fill the other role, so for her the lack of sex isnt a problem because on the very rare occasion she dose want it then its their. but for me its terribly hard always wanting a little more and not just the sex eather any kind of intimacy. devoting yourself in all ways to some one and only getting a fraction back. but do you let this ruin the rest of a other wise happy set up? just because of the lack of sex or would it be understandable if i got my needs (cringe!) else where? and come home much happier and less frustrated to a girl i love and 2 little girls ive brought up as my own and a other wise very happy life? To try and take this a little seriously for a minute........ Now, let's start from this basic fact.......when it comes to having a role women are no different to men at all in what they want and how much they want it......so now we have that little know bit of information out the way let's move along.......... If your old woman is giving you the cold shoulder then there may be a deeper thing going on........also, women are more cerebral about things like this so it may take a lot of talking and digging to get to the root of the problem or simply that they have a different "drive" to you.........if you truly value your partner then you get round these things. It has to be more than "what about ME, I need a bit more?"...........in simple terms it's called being a man and not a boy about things 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
antg 1,765 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 fecking hell some of you should think about writing a mills n boon book . Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mushroom 12,878 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Play with their clitty more... They like that and tend to put out afterwards 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WILF 46,646 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 fecking hell some of you should think about writing a mills n boon book . I know, it great isn't it.......to see so many blokes confident enough in themselves as men to speak openly and honestly about how they feel about their partner and not worry about the silly schoolboy "macho man" crap 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bird 9,868 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Me? Nope, not with this one, she is the ONE....... On the flip side.......I've personally known quite a few of the 'I've got it all out of my system blah blah blah, blissfully married, 100% faithful lads.......' Only for them to find out the their 'tolerant' mrs was getting 'it' else where all along...... Never take anything for granted......;-) its not just the shag , why women look else where , they like this feeling of being wanted , as you say not took for granted , so when they don't get treated how they want , they make it dull for there husbands /boyfriends regards sex , that's why men look else where in the 1st place just think back to when you 1st met you be shagging like to rabbits wouldn't you lol, but women are fickle creatures and deep down only thinking of there selves , to make a relationship work both have got put the effort in, anything over time comes boring , even rich people get bored lol, it must be great being rich , there's not much money carnt do in this world you never be short of women for a start , as long as you got your health+strength fook'um i agree.their horrid creatures and in my few years on this earth ive come to the strong conclsion that they use sex as a tool or weapon to get and lever what they want out of a situation/relationship/ life!...give it..withhold it..sex bans ect ectthey will be a c**t with you,then when you get dishearten and maybe your eyes look else where to the grass on the other side of the fence..that way it becomes your fault for being a c**t and looking at other women not their for being (not sure of the word ime looking for hear so ile use "frigid" thou i suspect "emotionally frigid" would be better" name me a man who is happy with his wife spouse girlfreind ect and still wanders away?? they dont same for women if the man is lacking then she will eventually wander! see for me theirs 2 kinds of sex...theirs the sex with some drunken tart/massive polish woman (who was like trying to move a fridge round the room on your own ) that is just realy a wank with no hands then theirs the sex with some one your quite fond of/love and its more about bonding,passion....its not sex its making love. now i may sound to a lot as a typical c**t of a man who only thinks with his dick and wants a relationship to evolve around a motive of the more carnal kind but its not so... you see ime hopelessly utterly in love with a terribly complicated young woman and her two little girls and have been for years but we have as close to a sexless relationship as its possible to have. mainly due to her lack of sex drive and willingness to make time for "us" now this is a prime example of earlier...she is happy with this set up because she has some one utterly devoted to her and waiting on her hand and foot (jump=how high) her girls have some one to fill the other role, so for her the lack of sex isnt a problem because on the very rare occasion she dose want it then its their. but for me its terribly hard always wanting a little more and not just the sex eather any kind of intimacy. devoting yourself in all ways to some one and only getting a fraction back. but do you let this ruin the rest of a other wise happy set up? just because of the lack of sex or would it be understandable if i got my needs (cringe!) else where? and come home much happier and less frustrated to a girl i love and 2 little girls ive brought up as my own and a other wise very happy life? Me? Nope, not with this one, she is the ONE....... On the flip side.......I've personally known quite a few of the 'I've got it all out of my system blah blah blah, blissfully married, 100% faithful lads.......' Only for them to find out the their 'tolerant' mrs was getting 'it' else where all along...... Never take anything for granted......;-) its not just the shag , why women look else where , they like this feeling of being wanted , as you say not took for granted , so when they don't get treated how they want , they make it dull for there husbands /boyfriends regards sex , that's why men look else where in the 1st place just think back to when you 1st met you be shagging like to rabbits wouldn't you lol, but women are fickle creatures and deep down only thinking of there selves , to make a relationship work both have got put the effort in, anything over time comes boring , even rich people get bored lol, it must be great being rich , there's not much money carnt do in this world you never be short of women for a start , as long as you got your health+strength fook'um i agree.their horrid creatures and in my few years on this earth ive come to the strong conclsion that they use sex as a tool or weapon to get and lever what they want out of a situation/relationship/ life!...give it..withhold it..sex bans ect ectthey will be a c**t with you,then when you get dishearten and maybe your eyes look else where to the grass on the other side of the fence..that way it becomes your fault for being a c**t and looking at other women not their for being (not sure of the word ime looking for hear so ile use "frigid" thou i suspect "emotionally frigid" would be better" name me a man who is happy with his wife spouse girlfreind ect and still wanders away?? they dont same for women if the man is lacking then she will eventually wander! see for me theirs 2 kinds of sex...theirs the sex with some drunken tart/massive polish woman (who was like trying to move a fridge round the room on your own ) that is just realy a wank with no hands then theirs the sex with some one your quite fond of/love and its more about bonding,passion....its not sex its making love. now i may sound to a lot as a typical c**t of a man who only thinks with his dick and wants a relationship to evolve around a motive of the more carnal kind but its not so... you see ime hopelessly utterly in love with a terribly complicated young woman and her two little girls and have been for years but we have as close to a sexless relationship as its possible to have. mainly due to her lack of sex drive and willingness to make time for "us" now this is a prime example of earlier...she is happy with this set up because she has some one utterly devoted to her and waiting on her hand and foot (jump=how high) her girls have some one to fill the other role, so for her the lack of sex isnt a problem because on the very rare occasion she dose want it then its their. but for me its terribly hard always wanting a little more and not just the sex eather any kind of intimacy. devoting yourself in all ways to some one and only getting a fraction back. but do you let this ruin the rest of a other wise happy set up? just because of the lack of sex or would it be understandable if i got my needs (cringe!) else where? and come home much happier and less frustrated to a girl i love and 2 little girls ive brought up as my own and a other wise very happy life? To try and take this a little seriously for a minute........ Now, let's start from this basic fact.......when it comes to having a role women are no different to men at all in what they want and how much they want it......so now we have that little know bit of information out the way let's move along.......... If your old woman is giving you the cold shoulder then there may be a deeper thing going on........also, women are more cerebral about things like this so it may take a lot of talking and digging to get to the root of the problem or simply that they have a different "drive" to you.........if you truly value your partner then you get round these things. It has to be more than "what about ME, I need a bit more?"...........in simple terms it's called being a man and not a boy about things a better word is selfish mate, a women if she carnt get her own way, will make a bloke life hell, moaning and and then look else where for another man to try dominate , sex as always been there weapon with using there body's , see a nice pair of tits, nice arse , pretty face most men give in, I know I do and always have lol . you should be on level footing with your partner very true mate, and treat them as equals , but after 30 years being married, and being honest I had lot of women before I met my wife , didnt get married till 30 , good god did I play the field before , was engaged twice pretty /ugly / fat/thin/ any colour as long as they said yes I would shag them lol , so I deff know how women tick , and take it from me, deep down they are very selfish people , who if can't have things how they like, will mess a good bloke up long term either to his face or behind his back 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MoChara 1,632 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Flip sake. Thread needs renamed "dear john for THL" If your not happy or satisfied then leave before you do get your head turned.. if you are happy then stay with the one your with. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 30,046 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 wow this is a funny ol topic certainly makes for interesting reading.....theres clearly some good stand up chaps around who are good husbands/fathers and hats off to them....but a lot of us are not perfect as a younger man i wanted pretty much every woman in the world and had spells of living double even treble lives at times thinking i was the bees knees not caring who i was hurting.....yet if truth be told the main person i was hurting was myself.....not just what you ultimately lose but the arse ache of keeping secrets on a daily basis its just not worth the stress as much as it seems worth it at the time i could never go back to that shit again ! Not that im perfect today but certainly not if there was a chance the ol woman would find out.......i think the older you get the more relaxed you become about straying my mrs is a gorgeous sexy woman im not vain enough to think im her ultimate fantasy !.... but as long as i cant find out if shes done anything and as long as no feelings are involved our relationship isnt effected ....and vice versa she knows im no saint and its not something we ever discuss i couldnt be around a bird who was constantly questioning me......at the end of the day this is the best relationship with a woman ive ever had,we havent got kids together,we,re both realistic,both very much in love and enjoy each others company.....and it works !.....i think sometimes relationships can become so draining by this constant obssession with monogamy it can spoil what could be a meaningful and enjoyable partnership. .........anyone needs any Dear Deirdrie type advice just pm me 8 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AKA-BRINDLE 879 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 I been with the same woman 31 yrs married for 26 of them...i look upon myself as a loyal person...couldnt be doing with all the lies and secrets...plus i am one ugly cnut! 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Blackbriar 8,569 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Flip sake. Thread needs renamed "dear john for THL" If your not happy or satisfied then leave before you do get your head turned.. if you are happy then stay with the one your with. In other words "suck it up, buttercup !". 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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