pesky1972 5,447 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Mine have had a couple of skelps, but only when they've really been pushing their luck and neither me or her are getting through. The threat now is usually more than enough. I've always then given them a bit of time to think about what's happened and then gone and talked to them so that they understand that it's done with. That's pretty much how I was brought up. I guess the need to legislate is because there are fcukwits out there who will lift their hands as a first, rather than a last resort, and beat their kids black & blue because "that's how they were brought up, and it didn't do them any harm". For me being able to administer a smack in the right circumstance is a useful tool in bringing up a disciplined and respectful child, but one never to be over used, and in my experience only tends to be lazy parents. Teaching your kid that if you dick someone around enough they're going to hit you, is a key lesson in life..., and shouldn't be under valued. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malt 379 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 I have given all my kids a smack over the years when I thought they needed it. I'm not talking about battering f**k out them, and as they each get older and can understand more and be reasoned with a bit, I find it happens less and less. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
perthshire keeper 1,239 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Plenty of african kids are beaten almost like a cultral thing and they joke n brag about how bad the beatings were. They mostly grow up into fine examples of society. I think let people raise kids how they want. There is no one size fits all. Long as the kid aint being abused keep your nose out. If as a parent you feel ok with it then carry on who cares about opinions or laws if you dont feel youve done anything wrong. ive yet so meet a white african who was anywhere near wired up right haha Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nans pat 2,575 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 I think it's a bit dramatic to say that slapping your child means you have failed as a parent. Failed to control them through non violent means, but not failed as a parent. Plenty of children have been raised using physical discipline to become good respectable young adults..... their parents being failures? LOL some kids need it .some don't I reckon , I got hit few times like said on my thread, but never hit my own son, as he never needed it , my mouth was enough for him . But looking back at my childhood , my parents did try but lacked patience really, mom was stressed out with 4 kids, and young baby , and my dad worked 2 jobs to look after us lot, both were suppose on a knife edge really. I only got 1 child 2 would have been maximum , better for parents+ kids long term I think, unless you got meger patience , and I aint lol 1 or 2 kids plenty you say.....litters they have here ffs, Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mushroom 13,455 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Jesus I had my arse handed to me several times by my dad, once infront of the police who had brought me home My mum was the one to watch, sly with a spinning back fist that could fuuck up Tyson. Even now if I slip up and swear in front of her she'll bring out the Thai moves lol. My kids have had a clap on the bum or back of the hand but never a "good hiding" although it has been promised on a couple of occasions lol 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malt 379 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Jesus I had my arse handed to me several times by my dad, once infront of the police who had brought me home My mum was the one to watch, sly with a spinning back fist that could fuuck up Tyson. Even now if I slip up and swear in front of her she'll bring out the Thai moves lol. My kids have had a clap on the bum or back of the hand but never a "good hiding" although it has been promised on a couple of occasions lol My nan was the one! Me and my cousin went on a massive bike ride, way further than we said we were going. My nan was out looking for us when we got back so we knew we were in proper trouble! My cousin said "put toilet paper down your pants, I do it all the time when I know my mum's after me it works really well!" So there we were waiting quietly in the shed for when my nan got back, and she comes steaming out the back door towards the shed with that look on her face that only a fiery old, chapel going Welsh woman can wear! We knew we were for it, as she came closer my cousin nervously said "now make sure you cry to make it look good!" Well, the shed door was nearly torn from its hinges as she opened the door, and we were hauled out one at a time and belted.. ....right round the top of the thighs where we hadn't padded out! :laugh: Think we were both wearing shorts at the time and all.. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TOMO 27,344 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Love story's like that malt,,,,pissing myself here,,lol 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malt 379 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Love story's like that malt,,,,pissing myself here,,lolHer sister was the same and all mate, we were playing in her garden and one of her grand kids fell through the glass on a cold frame. Auntie Dot came flying out the kitchen in a panic, picked my cousin up, checked her over frantically and then belted her arse good and proper for giving her such a fright when she found she wasn't cut! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Blackbriar 8,569 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 When mam was REALLY mad, she'd hit you in time with the words.......... "How...many....times....have...I....told...you...." etc etc I'd be thinking "Talk quicker FFS !" 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malt 379 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 When mam was REALLY mad, she'd hit you in time with the words.......... "How...many....times....have...I....told...you...." etc etc I'd be thinking "Talk quicker FFS !" Oh yeah, you had to be brave even thinking it! :laugh: Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Slippery_Weasel 460 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 I think it has a place but there's better ways of handling it. Sometimes the shock of it works better than shouting though. Any of you Scottish lads heard anything about the 'named person' thing that's just been passed in Scotland? Where each child before birth gets assigned a social worker type sort to oversee child welfare etc throughout their childhood, be a point of contact for the kids etc. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Blackbriar 8,569 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 I'm making my mam out to be awful, but she wasn't really. My dad was pretty useless, so she had 3 jobs at one stage - with 4 kids, 2 of them in nappies at once (no disposable nonsense either !). She worked hard and sacrificed a lot for us, but bought us up to respect our elders, never answer back and have some manners. One time, I'd be about 14 or 15, and I'd left shoes and clothes all over my bedroom, as usual. She kept telling and telling me to tidy up, but I didn't. Eventually, she lost her rag and chucked one of my Adidas Bamba trainers at me. With balletic grace, I dodged it, only for said shoe to smash clean through the middle of the window...... She chased me round the house, knocked 7 bells out of me and stopped my pocket money to pay for the window ! We only got pocket money if we helped round the house, so I had to work for nowt for 2 months...........another valuable life lesson learned and never forgotten! 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
tb25 4,627 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 What was the reason they needed a smack though? Find that out and you won't have to do it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mickey Finn 3,052 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Smacking as punishment isn't needed and I think if you have to resort to it to control your brats you've failed as a parent but if your kid is say reaching for the hot stove or about to pick up something dangerous the short sharp shock of a clip round the ear is very effective... We don't smack our dogs when training them because we know it usually does more harm than good so why resort to using violence to "train" our children? Saying all that though I don't see why it needs to be banned, educate parents giving them the tools to raise their kids without smacking and we can still punish the real b*****ds under existing child abuse laws. I think just like dogs it depends on the individual. Personally, I'd like to smack some of the parents I see. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wales1234 5,568 Posted July 1, 2015 Report Share Posted July 1, 2015 Always had a clip if messed up and was a hell of a lot as a kid !! I was just saying the other day my old use to go mental regular on me but last couple of years seems to just laugh at me don't know weather it's age and the stuff I do know is pretty funny or I was a proper litter fuckwit as a kid lol but my nan wouldn't mess with that woman told her f**k off one day and by f**k there was a bar of soap in my mouth lol also smashed her green house with a football beat f**k into me lol 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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