Helping People

[Rabbit Hunter 6,613]

I'll help out anyone if I can, but like has been said if I get shit on that's it, no second chances.

[jetro 5,349]

Helped out a lot people in my time.

When I fell on hard times not one was to be seen. Never asked how I was doing.

but I would and still help anyone who asks.

atb j

[northern lad 2,292]

Helped many people many times,and will do again.Before the wife got ill she worked as a teaching assistant,more than a few times over the years come the school leavers prom we have chipped in to help some of the less fortunate kids(obviously cant go into details,but it would break the hardest of hearts)get to the prom,shoes,dresses,corsages we chipped in, even limos ,allways felt it was a bad way to end school...magnifies the haves/have nots in life (the kids are far more aware of this than they let on).Anyway this June my youngest has her prom....we knew shed get there,with a struggle,what we didn't expect was the amount of friends who over the last month or so have called in for a brew and casually mentioned the young uns prom," Oh we will pay for her hair/make up/nails etc etc".I allways hoped when we gave to the other kids/parents who struggled they didn't feel patronised or inferior in any way,and I can honestly say although I always paid my and never needed assistance financially it really has been fantastic knowing theres folks around us who are there for us at a difficult time Socks ,what you and your wife did for that fella was fantastic I know I,l sound a soppy cnut ,but you may have given him more than a pasty and a sleeping bag,the realisation over recent times that we are now for the first time "have nots" is quite daunting,but knowing someone can be arsed enough to help out in any way really does give you a boost (just in case ,I like the Ginsters steak and pepper ones )

[bird 9,926]

Helped out a lot people in my time.

When I fell on hard times not one was to be seen. Never asked how I was doing.

but I would and still help anyone who asks.

atb

good man, where I lived before I was walking my dog one day, and seen young couple at the top of the lane, as got closer could see young bloke was sitting down. when I got by them I could see the girl looked, worried , I aske if everything was ok, she said her boyfriend had gone over on his ankle, and couldn't put any weight on his leg. she said she phoned her mom , but didn't really know how to get to lane from the main road , as there was few fields etc. . So I said I know short cut to get to the main road, and phone your mom from there if you want, so she said yeh . Told them the only way we get down there and across the field is if I carry her boyfriend , so give him a piggyback across the field, down another lane then to the main road. t he lad was only slim prob only 10st , but fook me he felt like 20 st carrying him across the full length of the field , not so bad down the lane , but the field nearly killed me .lol got to the main road and the mother and her other daughter where there put the lad in the back of the motor , was funny site with me carrying the lad on me back and her walking Bryn .lol The mother was very grateful offered me some money , told her no just buy me drink if she ever goes in the pub by me, never ever seen them again , but I think most people would have done the same thing as me that day , well you hope so don't you .

[iworkwhippets 12,600]

brings back some memmories does this, but the best help i ever received was when my wife passed on, only in her 30s, christmas morning, to cut a long story short, because of the circumstances of her death, my house was full of police, i was befriended by a police lady, prior to this, id already lost, mother, father, brother , sister and i was in a right state, left with 2 young chidren, if it wasnt for that police lady, and im not afraid to mention her name, policewoman cribbins bolton cid, i dont think i would be sat here now, im now with a lady who isnt in the best of health, and i do the lot here, plus if the neighbours want out, they no weer i am,

[jetro 5,349]

 

 

Helped out a lot people in my time.

When I fell on hard times not one was to be seen. Never asked how I was doing.

but I would and still help anyone who asks.

atb

good man, where I lived before I was walking my dog one day, and seen young couple at the top of the lane, as got closer could see young bloke was sitting down. when I got by them I could see the girl looked, worried , I aske if everything was ok, she said her boyfriend had gone over on his ankle, and couldn't put any weight on his leg. she said she phoned her mom , but didn't really know how to get to lane from the main road , as there was few fields etc. . So I said I know short cut to get to the main road, and phone your mom from there if you want, so she said yeh . Told them the only way we get down there and across the field is if I carry her boyfriend , so give him a piggyback across the field, down another lane then to the main road. t he lad was only slim prob only 10st , but fook me he felt like 20 st carrying him across the full length of the field , not so bad down the lane , but the field nearly killed me .lol got to the main road and the mother and her other daughter where there put the lad in the back of the motor , was funny site with me carrying the lad on me back and her walking Bryn .lol The mother was very grateful offered me some money , told her no just buy me drink if she ever goes in the pub by me, never ever seen them again , but I think most people would have done the same thing as me that day , well you hope so don't you .

goof on you ray.

not many would do that. A lot of people today won't do a good turn for anyone unless they get some thing out of it for them self. The goodness is going out of people now days.

atb j

[bird 9,926]

 

 

Helped out a lot people in my time.

When I fell on hard times not one was to be seen. Never asked how I was doing.

but I would and still help anyone who asks.

atb

good man, where I lived before I was walking my dog one day, and seen young couple at the top of the lane, as got closer could see young bloke was sitting down. when I got by them I could see the girl looked, worried , I aske if everything was ok, she said her boyfriend had gone over on his ankle, and couldn't put any weight on his leg. she said she phoned her mom , but didn't really know how to get to lane from the main road , as there was few fields etc. . So I said I know short cut to get to the main road, and phone your mom from there if you want, so she said yeh . Told them the only way we get down there and across the field is if I carry her boyfriend , so give him a piggyback across the field, down another lane then to the main road. t he lad was only slim prob only 10st , but fook me he felt like 20 st carrying him across the full length of the field , not so bad down the lane , but the field nearly killed me .lol got to the main road and the mother and her other daughter where there put the lad in the back of the motor , was funny site with me carrying the lad on me back and her walking Bryn .lol The mother was very grateful offered me some money , told her no just buy me drink if she ever goes in the pub by me, never ever seen them again , but I think most people would have done the same thing as me that day , well you hope so don't you .

goof on you ray.

not many would do that. A lot of people today won't do a good turn for anyone unless they get some thing out of it for them self. The goodness is going out of people now days.

atb j

 

your prob right , its bloody shame though, i am prob of that generation were you would help somebody , and younger people today don't look at it like that , maybe it how they been brought up , ?

[jetro 5,349]

 

 

 

 

Helped out a lot people in my time.

When I fell on hard times not one was to be seen. Never asked how I was doing.

but I would and still help anyone who asks.

atb

good man, where I lived before I was walking my dog one day, and seen young couple at the top of the lane, as got closer could see young bloke was sitting down. when I got by them I could see the girl looked, worried , I aske if everything was ok, she said her boyfriend had gone over on his ankle, and couldn't put any weight on his leg. she said she phoned her mom , but didn't really know how to get to lane from the main road , as there was few fields etc. . So I said I know short cut to get to the main road, and phone your mom from there if you want, so she said yeh . Told them the only way we get down there and across the field is if I carry her boyfriend , so give him a piggyback across the field, down another lane then to the main road. t he lad was only slim prob only 10st , but fook me he felt like 20 st carrying him across the full length of the field , not so bad down the lane , but the field nearly killed me .lol got to the main road and the mother and her other daughter where there put the lad in the back of the motor , was funny site with me carrying the lad on me back and her walking Bryn .lol The mother was very grateful offered me some money , told her no just buy me drink if she ever goes in the pub by me, never ever seen them again , but I think most people would have done the same thing as me that day , well you hope so don't you .

goof on you ray.

not many would do that. A lot of people today won't do a good turn for anyone unless they get some thing out of it for them self. The goodness is going out of people now days.

atb j

your prob right , its bloody shame though, i am prob of that generation were you would help somebody , and younger people today don't look at it like that , maybe it how they been brought up , ?

it's the same every where ray.

people today are to busy to stop and help anybody. young ones today won't do a thing unless they see the coin out of it.

sad really. Never know when they might need help themselves.

Atb j.

[nans pat 2,575]

the oul fella always told me,the only time you should look down on somebody is when your giving them a hand up,,stick with that be a better world.

[jetro 5,349]

the oul fella always told me,the only time you should look down on somebody is when your giving them a hand up,,stick with that be a better world.

that's a true saying. Pity the world wasn't like that.

atb j

[dare 1,103]

Always buy anyone whos homeless something to eat if i pass em. Remember coming back from london on the tube and bloke asked if anyone had any lunch they havent eaten. Load of blokes all in their suits n not one offered the bloke anything. Only had scores on me but got up and gave him one and gave the rest of em a head shake lol. Also always put a few quid in the tins in shops but read where its going first. Charity starts at home n all that.

 

Worst people to help out in my experience hasnt beenn strangers but mates. I never borrow money if i cant afford it i go without. Have been out n borrowed money and always paid back as soon as ive got it. You wont have to call me ill be calling you. Saddly dont work like that the other way round. Dunno how people can owe money and avoid the person or think they can go out or buy stuff when they owe money. Never came to blows over money but probably only thing ive had to argue with mates over. Once bitten twice shy and wouldnt let so much as a fiver to em now but think theyd know not to ask.

[tb25 4,627]

Its nice to be nice as they say..

[gnasher16 30,121]

Ive come to realise that the true favours you do people are not about the money you give but the time you give.......anyone can throw a note at someone i think thats often more about helping ourself than the other person....ive done it myself where ive given money away thinking im doing a good turn but really its just to make myself feel better about what an arsehole i was !

A few years ago i used to go to a gym in Canning Town every week for a bit of a chinwag there would always be this old boy dossing down round by the garages,id give him a cup of tea and a sarnie from time to time then one day thought id have a chat with him,turned out he wasnt as old as id thought and from chatting a few times over the weeks it was obvious he had been through a lot in life....he kept talking about this sister he had down on the south coast it was the only person he spoke of with any fondness but admitted he was too ashamed to go and visit her.......it played on my mind over the weeks so i ended up taking him and kitting him out with some decent clobber,ran a razor over his face and took him down to the address he had for the sister......as luck would have it she was delighted to see him and he stayed down there and apparently now has his own little flat and a job he seems to be doing ok........i guess some folk just need a gentle nudge in the right direction from time to time.......so one day out of my life helped in a small way to hopefully shape the rest of his life....not a big sacrifice is it !!

Edited April 18, 2015 by gnasher16

[walshie 2,804]

I like to help people who CAN'T help themselves in whatever way I can, but people who WON'T help themselves...nah.

[MoChara 1,632]

I like helping people, makes you feel that little bit better about yourself I think. if I can then I will. But as previously said when it gets thrown back in your face it knocks the heart out of you.

Was only lately I had said to someone, sometimes it seems people get further in life just being a complete bitch, and here's ourselves trying to do good getting no where.

 

Tried the bitch thing didn't suit me I'll stick to helping folk if I can and who will appreciate it.