Just When You Make Your Decision !

[gnasher16 30,056]

Congrats to your daughter and son in law mate ... The thing is he is not in a job where you know where they are going to be living ... He could get posted next week to Scotland Yorkshire Kenya Canada any where really so where you live is immaterial ... You have to live for yourself in this world not for your kids ... As sure as shit stinks you will decide not to move and they will get a posting to half way across the world .........

 

He,s being medically discharged mate....think i told you before about that injury he had,they put him through 2 operations and its still not right......they would of found something for him but thats not what he went in for so taking a nice little pay out....he,s got a few engineering qualifications and plans to set up in a little business they,re staying down that area as they love it there and got friends/work there.....my daughters not the sort to be a stay at home mum and im not being a full time childminder so is a 2 hour drive much different to a 4 hour flight ..... the for and against columns are pretty equal might end up flicking a coin

[Qbgrey 4,088]

congrats on the the grand dad news.id go mate,its not far away and they can visit,swimming,sun,cool beers,real holiday only grandads thier too.you could come home xmas etc etc,ive done 10 yrs abroad almost witout coming back,around 3 times i recall.you do get bored of sun,beaches and sometimes wish for a frost one morning,im seriosly looking at going somewhere later on.

[WILF 46,683]

First off, congratulations.....that's tidy news for you mate

 

Second of all, I have just bought myself a little place with 6 acres in Ireland so I am off, bit different for me as I am taking my brood (including my old mum of 83 !!) with me.......but as I always say, the first decision is always the best decision

 

The bonus for me is that the agents who I have cracked on well with is also chairman of the local football club (they call it soccer out there !!......don't , I know, I know !!)

Took me up there when I was over and they have a good set up so I can get a mini team started for the boy which is nice !

 

I won't be getting as much sunshine as you though !!

 

God bless your girl in her pregnancy mate, wish you all the best.

[gnasher16 30,056]

Nice words there thankyou Wilf....so you are off to potato land thats excellent.......visited plenty of times but never spent a lot of time there your a bit younger than me so brave move in all fairness....i know you have youngsters,if its not rude to ask how did they take to the idea ?.....anything you think you,ll miss enough to have second thoughts about it ?....You are out of the same sort of manor as me did the way London/the area has gone come into your decision making process at all ?.....or not.

 

For me its the stupid things i,ll miss like Qbgrey says the nice crisp morning air.....a saturday down the Hammers.......bit of a wander round the gyms,walks in the countryside,east end boozers etc...... funny you talking about a football club me and my pal with the bar made enquiries about the local non league club Atromitos Geroskipou,they went bust a few years back so we thought that would be a nice interest to get involved in but they wont sell to foreign investors so thats out..... nice 2000 capacity ground,trouble is the last game there was 27 people there apparently ..........think its what im leaving behind thats keeping me on the back foot at the moment if i could take friends/family/the Boleyn with me id be off like a shot

 

Edited November 5, 2014 by gnasher16

[WILF 46,683]

Well mate, after it taking me 3 hours to do the 24 odd miles into London this morning it's probably the wrong day to ask what I will miss!! Haha

 

Seriously, you can't change what you are so I am sure there will be things I miss, but I know there will be new things and people that I didn't have before so it's swings and round a bouts.

Most of all, I have just got the bollock ache of having my pants pulled down by every c**t when all I want to do is earn a living so I basically said to myself "f**k ya's, I'm not playing any more" ! Lol

 

I didn't want the kids to be in a position where they are getting put on the wheel from the get go either by having bundles of university debt etc.......there's a blinding school near there (like f***ing Hogwarts !!) better than I could afford over here

They were made up and they are quiet used to having Dad come home with some mad scheme or the other, they are not exactly used to the "2.4 kids" life

 

I won't have enough to do nothing for the next 20 years but I will be comfortable enough and just have to fly over now and then for business to keep things topped up.

 

I am flying them all over to see the house and land in 10 days time, they can't wait.

 

Till I'm walking in the door with the keys I won't count my chickens but so far so good.......no ones in a rush which is nice.

They are already arguing about what one is going to look after the sheep, pigs, chicken blah blah

 

Me?......I will be like Forrest Gump riding round on my quad all day with my dogs and quiet a bit of shooting and fishing thrown in I would imagine.

[nans pat 2,575]

Well mate, after it taking me 3 hours to do the 24 odd miles into London this morning it's probably the wrong day to ask what I will miss!! Haha

 

Seriously, you can't change what you are so I am sure there will be things I miss, but I know there will be new things and people that I didn't have before so it's swings and round a bouts.

Most of all, I have just got the bollock ache of having my pants pulled down by every c**t when all I want to do is earn a living so I basically said to myself "f**k ya's, I'm not playing any more" ! Lol

 

I didn't want the kids to be in a position where they are getting put on the wheel from the get go either by having bundles of university debt etc.......there's a blinding school near there (like f***ing Hogwarts !!) better than I could afford over here

They were made up and they are quiet used to having Dad come home with some mad scheme or the other, they are not exactly used to the "2.4 kids" life

 

I won't have enough to do nothing for the next 20 years but I will be comfortable enough and just have to fly over now and then for business to keep things topped up.

 

I am flying them all over to see the house and land in 10 days time, they can't wait.

 

Till I'm walking in the door with the keys I won't count my chickens but so far so good.......no ones in a rush which is nice.

They are already arguing about what one is going to look after the sheep, pigs, chicken blah blah

 

Me?......I will be like Forrest Gump riding round on my quad all day with my dogs and quiet a bit of shooting and fishing thrown in I would imagine.

wat county wilf

[j j m 6,536]

Congrats on becoming a grandad bud

[WILF 46,683]

Roscommon matey

[Tiercel 6,986]

Roscommon matey

Sure you will be neighbours with ditch shitter / Outlaw pete then, he lives there. But serously, well done I wish I had the balls to do it years ago.

 

TC

[neil82 1,075]

no brainer for me, footie on sky, easyjet for family visits either way, sun shine and good grub out there, where`s my passport, god knows there are a lot of things I`d miss about this country but if I had the chance now to move I would be gone tomoz, the only thing that has kept me where I am now is I know the arseholes and the good guys, if I moved would have to learn who was who again but god I regret not trying it years ago

[gnasher16 30,056]

Well mate, after it taking me 3 hours to do the 24 odd miles into London this morning it's probably the wrong day to ask what I will miss!! Haha

 

Seriously, you can't change what you are so I am sure there will be things I miss, but I know there will be new things and people that I didn't have before so it's swings and round a bouts.

Most of all, I have just got the bollock ache of having my pants pulled down by every c**t when all I want to do is earn a living so I basically said to myself "f**k ya's, I'm not playing any more" ! Lol

 

I didn't want the kids to be in a position where they are getting put on the wheel from the get go either by having bundles of university debt etc.......there's a blinding school near there (like f***ing Hogwarts !!) better than I could afford over here

They were made up and they are quiet used to having Dad come home with some mad scheme or the other, they are not exactly used to the "2.4 kids" life

 

I won't have enough to do nothing for the next 20 years but I will be comfortable enough and just have to fly over now and then for business to keep things topped up.

 

I am flying them all over to see the house and land in 10 days time, they can't wait.

 

Till I'm walking in the door with the keys I won't count my chickens but so far so good.......no ones in a rush which is nice.

They are already arguing about what one is going to look after the sheep, pigs, chicken blah blah

 

Me?......I will be like Forrest Gump riding round on my quad all day with my dogs and quiet a bit of shooting and fishing thrown in I would imagine.

 

Fair do,s mate sounds like you know what you want and where your going and seems like the family are making it easy which is nice.....reason i asked is im still trying to convince myself i really want to stay here after all what is there to miss .....i think my days of trying to change the world have come to an end i always had faith that the country would bounce back ..........i still have great fondness for the area and people etc but i guess sometimes you just have to hold your hands up and admit it aint gonna be like it used to be no more !

 

The fact you will still be making your mark work wise keeps the hunger and desire up thats why i fancied throwing myself into something if we did go.....my brain needs stimulation that im not sure sun and sea alone can quite fulfill

 

Sounds like your falling on your feet mate i wish you well

 

Congrats Gnash you definatly returned to getting the treble up

Gramps lol making you sound old

The toddler will be here in No time and will give you and new lease of life and focus.

I'd stick around in Ole Blighty for 10-15 more yrs till your Bones really need the Sunshine and the future grand bairn is mature enough to board a plane at Gatwick to come see you's.

You can always hoo on a Plane when you feel the need and have a few weeks in the Sun.

 

Cheers Max,yep this youngster is certainly making his/her presence felt already !......Bit more thinking time needed,i reckon if i can spin this out another year i might even get to see the last season at the Boleyn ........not sure about 10 -15 years we,ve been toying with the idea long enough its pretty much now or never i wouldnt fancy going there at an age i couldnt enjoy it and the ol woman will have left me by then anyway

[WILF 46,683]

Seem to have hijacked Gnashers thread a bit so sorry for that mate.

 

All I will say more is that you won't catch me giving it the "Englands f****d" speech or slagging off my area.......my area has been very kind to me and I love it.

"My" England is passing I feel, but the people still make it a damn fine place to me........shame our politicians don't seem to hold it or it's people in the same regard.

Just I need to "live" and I need something for my soul and I think that's what this will give me

 

Gnash I reckon you will have to stay until the babies born and you know everyone is the right way round.......then think again in 18 months or something

Your health will be right, it's got to be or Max won't have anyone to argue with !

 

Some of the boys I know who have hatched up in Northern Cyprus will keep your brain stimulated alright !! Haha.......I'm sure you can say the same mate .

Edited November 5, 2014 by WILF

[Waz 4,252]

A nice conundrum to have, & the heart should rule the head in matters like this in my opinion. I reckon if you dont move before the baby arrives then theres a very good chance you might never......! Best of health to the expecting family.

[blackmaggie 3,376]

congratulations on your good news gnash i understand your dilemma but i think the longer you leave it the harder it will be to go but once the grandchild arrives i know that it will become even harder to go just follow your heart mate and give it a go and good luck with whatever you decide and your only a short flight away if you needed to come back

[robbo 828]

First of all congratulations on your news. I myself had this same decision to make just over two years ago. My mrs was adamant she wanted to move to cornwall but we had just received the the news that i was going to be a grandad twice. my head was a shed for weeks. the only saving grace was that one of my grandkids was going to be in cornwall for the time being[son in law is in the navy] but i still felt guilty for thinking about leaving the other one. We did eventually move and i cant say it was/is easy to be honest . i now have the life of riley , dont work just fish ,do allotment walk dogs etc.[ and housework and make the wifes tea.] but i still really miss the grand-daughter whos up in yorkshire. i also really miss my mate who i went rabbiting with for the last twenty years.[ son visits us and we visit them so we do see her 4 or 5 times a year]. i cant tell you it will be easy but if your health is suspect you need to do whats best for you. you will be dead a lot longer than youre going to be alive mate. It will probably take you less time to get home from cyprus than it takes me to travel from cornwall to yorkshire. and im sure you wil get plenty of visits.[ first thing my son said when i told him i was leaving, me nearly in tears and he says oh good free holidays.] good luck in what ever you decide to do.