Just When You Make Your Decision !

[gnasher16 30,062]

Maybe I will throw a spanner in the works with this one, but here go's......lol

 

Now this is only how I think so I'm not saying it's for everyone, but I look at things like this, your time on earth is finite and there's a small amount of things in life that money can't buy.......time is one of them.

 

I am only gonna have the joy of my kids and maybe grand kids for a short-ish number of years till I die, out of everything in the world my kids love me without question.......they don't give a f**k if I drive a roller or a skateboard, they don't care if I have a million quid or £2.50......all they know is that I love them and I will protect them and that's all they need.

 

My pal has a massive house, a Lambourghini, flys planes, has a racing car, water skis, plenty of dough.......he chose working for the company and getting all this over time spent with his kids.......now one of them has f****d off and is in a bedsit with a baby and a drug habit and his boy (who by the way is a lovely lad) punched him in the face the other week and basically has zero respect for him.

 

Was that a price worth paying for the toys?.......personally, not to me it wasn't

 

Kids know, they know who gives them time and they know who don't .......and they will form a relationship with you based purely on that fact and nothing else.

 

JMHO

 

Ive always thought you had a good outlook on things Wilf without sounding patronising i imagine you,d be an interesting chap to know in everyday life ......without getting into too much of a Jeremy Kyle show i probably dont have the " normal " relationship with my kids most folk have.... i spent big chunks of their upbringing elsewhere and never really put them first till it was too late and so spent years trying to play catch up its a love hate relationship i love them they hate me .....not quite hate but the damage is done i accept that and like i say maybe part of me is thinking being a good gr parent heals a wound but shes a smart lass and my boys a chip off the old block he cracks on doing his own thing and slings me a bone now and then so i guess in some ways im thinking if i move away now they,ll see that as a white flag and the chase is over.........complicated old things families............but yes you are definately right in terms of paying the price for selfishly chasing your own goals !

 

Blimey 83 years old and the ol girls ready to up sticks and move to a foreign land they got something about them these olduns......sounds like my sorta girl fair play to her !

Edited November 7, 2014 by gnasher16

[WILF 46,687]

Thank you mate, much appreciated

[Tiercel 6,986]

Fair enough although I never said money did come into it, my point was everything has a price (IMHO) but that's not always monetary.

 

There are 365 days in a year, do you think kids prefer 300 or 10 in your company, that's my point.

 

"Boring" don't come into it either, my other point is kids don't think about that kind of thing, especially young kids.

 

My kids phone their nan up and say, we are coming round to sleep nan......my old mum is 83 so they ain't exactly going Bungy jumping, what they do is sit, talk, listen, learn about the olds days and their history, they ask advice about things that they may not want to say to mum and dad, they get wisdom, love and above all they get whatever they want to eat, drink and they don't get told off !!! Lol lol

 

"We are taking nan with us" was the first thing out my kids mouth when I told them I had bought the little smallholding in Ireland ( I wouldn't have left her anyway) so at 83 she is moving country.......she never batted an eyelid because the kids are her world and she wouldn't be parted from them either.

 

 

As I said, it's only how I look at life and I would never look down on a man for not seeing the world through my eyes.

Wilf, I am not a sentimentalist by any means but that gave me a lump in my throat.

 

TC

[marky b 309]

Bought a gaff over in Cyprus a few years ago,me being a sucker for a bit of scenery its in the middle of nowhere but had it tarted up with all the mod cons,there was a bit of land across the way that we,d started work on for family/friends etc........trouble is we,d only ever been there a handful of times and with the mrs breathing down my neck and pestering me to move out there for good a decision had to be made......so with a bit of a health scare recently and orders from the doc to slow down we had a few weeks out there to talk it all over and a decision was made......sell up and buy a little gaff here for visits,and take the plunge and move out there no messing about..........

 

Then gets back home at the weekend in a positive frame of mind and bang my daughter hits me with " your going to be a grandad " !!!..................not only that West Ham 4th in the league ....a 95/1 bet comes in saturday......lovely crisp autumn weather ............now how can a man walk away from all that its almost like a message from above.........so back to sitting scratching our cannisters again its a funny ol world anyone else believe life is mapped out for us before we get here ?....thats how im starting to think.

i think your right about life being mapped out for us......... The Only problem is I could never read a bloody map lol good luck on whatever you decide mate

[frazdog 252]

Stay with family lad,your family is your world your most precious,sun an sea would not compare for me not being there for my children or grandchildren,jmo tho,i would not put working away or anything else for that matter in front of my kids,i couldnt bare being away from.them it would drive me bananas,just my way,atb whatever you choose