socks 32,253 Posted January 14, 2014 Report Share Posted January 14, 2014 Hitting her, conning money or gifts out of her, abandoning her somewhere, allowing somebody to hurt her whilst he is with her, mental abuse, forcing some sort of sexual behaviour etc, if they split so be it if he dumps her that's life ........... 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
perthshire keeper 1,239 Posted January 14, 2014 Report Share Posted January 14, 2014 at what point does the you upset my daughter and your in for it come into action , I see time and again things like this and wonder what its all about I have 3 sons and oldest 11 i know there probably going to have a few heartbreaks more than likely and i can only be there for them when it happens its a learning curve of life i think . Does your daughter coming home crying because her boyfriend has ended the relationship warrant it or are you talking about things like a fella laying his hands on them or cheating on them ?? im just intrigued as to what you think is acceptable as obviously if your thinking about when a relationship ends i think that's a bit over the top good question! the last two "girlfrends" ive had have both had bad relationships previously now granted ones parents dont know and its not my place to tell...but the other one parents and brother knew about her last boyfriends laying hands on her and they havent done a thing and yet her dad has that very T-shirt picture on his FB Quote Link to post Share on other sites
RossM 8,149 Posted January 14, 2014 Report Share Posted January 14, 2014 It's bad enough with little sisters, missus little sisters, wee cousins, lol when first introduced and shaking hands I ALWAYS pull them in and whisper in their ear, "f**k her around and I'll pull your f***ing toenails off" had my wee cousins now ex boyfriend tied in a chair with his shoes and socks off a few years ago, and she always uses that as an example now 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 30,591 Posted January 14, 2014 Report Share Posted January 14, 2014 (edited) at what point does the you upset my daughter and your in for it come into action , I see time and again things like this and wonder what its all about I have 3 sons and oldest 11 i know there probably going to have a few heartbreaks more than likely and i can only be there for them when it happens its a learning curve of life i think . Does your daughter coming home crying because her boyfriend has ended the relationship warrant it or are you talking about things like a fella laying his hands on them or cheating on them ?? im just intrigued as to what you think is acceptable as obviously if your thinking about when a relationship ends i think that's a bit over the top Id say anything apart from violence are just the rules of life we all have to learn.....protecting a kid from the rules of life i think you could be on dangerous ground as you cant hold their hand forever....if the lad hurts my daughter in an emotional way,out of her pocket,cheating etc......then to me thats a lesson in life.......but any violence then thats where me and him fall out. Edited January 14, 2014 by gnasher16 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Huan72 687 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 I think that as a parent of a boy you have to set an example to him of what's right and wrong in a relationship, so that he can treat someone's daughter with the respect they deserve. You cant go around cheating with every women going and then expect him to be a loyal, dependable partner, that's just hypocrisy. If my lad treated a girl with disrespect he would need to be as much worried about me as anyone. If you want daughters to be treated with respect, set a good example to your sons 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 at what point does the you upset my daughter and your in for it come into action , I see time and again things like this and wonder what its all about I have 3 sons and oldest 11 i know there probably going to have a few heartbreaks more than likely and i can only be there for them when it happens its a learning curve of life i think . Does your daughter coming home crying because her boyfriend has ended the relationship warrant it or are you talking about things like a fella laying his hands on them or cheating on them ?? im just intrigued as to what you think is acceptable as obviously if your thinking about when a relationship ends i think that's a bit over the top Id say anything apart from violence are just the rules of life we all have to learn.....protecting a kid from the rules of life i think you could be on dangerous ground as you cant hold their hand forever....if the lad hurts my daughter in an emotional way,out of her pocket,cheating etc......then to me thats a lesson in life.......but any violence then thats where me and him fall out. Gnash are you saying if some scrote took her for every penny you would do nothing ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
neems 2,406 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 Doesn't being an overbearing parent defeat the object? Constantly unnecessarily interfering in your childs life making them uncomfortable and embarrassed and probably unable to figure relationship problems out for themselves....to protect them from being made uncomfortable or embarrassed. And then what about when they move away or you die,and they've come to rely on you? They now don't know a good man from a bad one because,the decent and proud lads wouldnt tolerate an annoying old man breathing down their neck. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
tb25 4,627 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 (edited) AND SOME WOMAN SEEN TO LOVE A BAD BOY WHO SLAPS THEM ABOUT ,TREATS THEM LIKE SHIT SO ON AND SO ON.. MOST WOMAN ARE THERE OWN WORST ENERMYS....FACT. SAYING THAT I AGRRE WITH MOST WHATS PUT....HIT MY GIRL..YOU WILL WISH YOU DIDENT...BUT MOST YOUNG GIRLS NOW DAYS SEEM TO LIKE THE THUGS,THE WIGGERS AND THE LOW LIFE. SHOW THEM A DESENT HARD WORKING MATE THEY RUN A MILE LOL. Edited January 15, 2014 by tb25 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 30,591 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 at what point does the you upset my daughter and your in for it come into action , I see time and again things like this and wonder what its all about I have 3 sons and oldest 11 i know there probably going to have a few heartbreaks more than likely and i can only be there for them when it happens its a learning curve of life i think . Does your daughter coming home crying because her boyfriend has ended the relationship warrant it or are you talking about things like a fella laying his hands on them or cheating on them ?? im just intrigued as to what you think is acceptable as obviously if your thinking about when a relationship ends i think that's a bit over the top Id say anything apart from violence are just the rules of life we all have to learn.....protecting a kid from the rules of life i think you could be on dangerous ground as you cant hold their hand forever....if the lad hurts my daughter in an emotional way,out of her pocket,cheating etc......then to me thats a lesson in life.......but any violence then thats where me and him fall out. Gnash are you saying if some scrote took her for every penny you would do nothing ? I have faith in that her mother brought her up well enough for that to never happen..........if it did happen id blame myself/her mother as much as id blame the boy for not wising her up..... i just think me smashing f**k out of the kid and getting her money back would be the easy way out......her learning a hard fast lesson wouldnt be easy but it would be better.........not saying im right and again i dont think that would ever happen so who knows till your in that position. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 at what point does the you upset my daughter and your in for it come into action , I see time and again things like this and wonder what its all about I have 3 sons and oldest 11 i know there probably going to have a few heartbreaks more than likely and i can only be there for them when it happens its a learning curve of life i think . Does your daughter coming home crying because her boyfriend has ended the relationship warrant it or are you talking about things like a fella laying his hands on them or cheating on them ?? im just intrigued as to what you think is acceptable as obviously if your thinking about when a relationship ends i think that's a bit over the top Id say anything apart from violence are just the rules of life we all have to learn.....protecting a kid from the rules of life i think you could be on dangerous ground as you cant hold their hand forever....if the lad hurts my daughter in an emotional way,out of her pocket,cheating etc......then to me thats a lesson in life.......but any violence then thats where me and him fall out. Gnash are you saying if some scrote took her for every penny you would do nothing ? I have faith in that her mother brought her up well enough for that to never happen..........if it did happen id blame myself/her mother as much as id blame the boy for not wising her up..... i just think me smashing f**k out of the kid and getting her money back would be the easy way out......her learning a hard fast lesson wouldnt be easy but it would be better.........not saying im right and again i dont think that would ever happen so who knows till your in that position. The way I see it is that even the most clued up and intelligent people can get ripped off by somebody and even more so when blinded by love ... If it happened she would have already learned the lesson ... But I couldn't just sit back and leave the fukcing scum all get away with it ... Or if he did it to any of my family come to think of it ....... 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 30,591 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 The way I see it is that even the most clued up and intelligent people can get ripped off by somebody and even more so when blinded by love ... If it happened she would have already learned the lesson ... But I couldn't just sit back and leave the fukcing scum all get away with it ... Or if he did it to any of my family come to think of it ....... Im not saying personal vengeance is not a tempting prospect it is from a selfish point of view.....what part it plays in parenting though im not sure.....but parenting is certainly not something id make any claims about so like anything else mate you do as you see fit. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 Your right mate it plays no part in parenting and she will have learned the lesson for herself the hard way ... But as a father there is no way I could sit and watch my daughter break her heart over being deceived robbed and left shattered by the person she loved and trusted and do nothing about it .............. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NEWKID 27,698 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 Doesn't being an overbearing parent defeat the object? Constantly unnecessarily interfering in your childs life making them uncomfortable and embarrassed and probably unable to figure relationship problems out for themselves....to protect them from being made uncomfortable or embarrassed. And then what about when they move away or you die,and they've come to rely on you? They now don't know a good man from a bad one because,the decent and proud lads wouldnt tolerate an annoying old man breathing down their neck. There's a difference in constantly interfering and looking out for them, especially when they are still a child...My girls growing up fast, I know that I'm not stupid, but at 15 she is still a child, and my responsbility, I've told her to stay a child as long as she can, because your a long time an adult... I don't want her out roaming the streets all night ( as some of her friends do), I wont let her and her boyfriend up in her room together ( I was 15 and to me that would of been green light).... I'm far from smothering and as long as the trust is there I wont prevent her from doing the things she enjoys ( I drove 7 hrs up and back to Brixton with her and her friend to watch the 1975 last week) My wife is so close to her though, generally she is quite open with my wife and that is good..... I'm drip fed info as and when they think I need to know lol 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 30,591 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 Your right mate it plays no part in parenting and she will have learned the lesson for herself the hard way ... But as a father there is no way I could sit and watch my daughter break her heart over being deceived robbed and left shattered by the person she loved and trusted and do nothing about it .............. I dont think that comes down to being a decent parent i think thats just about being a decent human being......like you say " any of my family "......forget parenting....my family or your family id take a great interest in seeing that person suffer 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted January 15, 2014 Report Share Posted January 15, 2014 Your right mate it plays no part in parenting and she will have learned the lesson for herself the hard way ... But as a father there is no way I could sit and watch my daughter break her heart over being deceived robbed and left shattered by the person she loved and trusted and do nothing about it .............. I dont think that comes down to being a decent parent i think thats just about being a decent human being......like you say " any of my family "......forget parenting....my family or your family id take a great interest in seeing that person suffer Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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