lanesra 3,961 Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 My 20 year marriage ended 3 years ago , to be honest it was a weight off my shoulders , the last 3 years have been an immense struggle to keep my head above water on my own, but I rather have the daily struggles than live a lie & be unhappy & have to keep faking a smile Now I am smiling for real , just do whats right for you in your personal circumstances & things will get better Secret Is Kay Don't Get Married . . 28yrs & Still Not Married . . I Rush into Fukc All !! Well I have tried it twice & wont be bothering again Never Say Never Kay . . Now some On Here Know Your Single we May Have a H.L. Wedding !! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kay 3,709 Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 My 20 year marriage ended 3 years ago , to be honest it was a weight off my shoulders , the last 3 years have been an immense struggle to keep my head above water on my own, but I rather have the daily struggles than live a lie & be unhappy & have to keep faking a smile Now I am smiling for real , just do whats right for you in your personal circumstances & things will get better Secret Is Kay Don't Get Married . . 28yrs & Still Not Married . . I Rush into Fukc All !!Well I have tried it twice & wont be bothering again Never Say Never Kay . . Now some On Here Know Your Single we May Have a H.L. Wedding !! Frank I met someone in May after 3 years on my own I was sat cross legged on the floor in amongst the swan shit taking pics & he asked me if i would like a coffee , 6 weeks later we moved in , I guess my gut reaction was right , so I have gone with it can honestly say its the best thing to happen to me apart from my kids I was adamant I would remain single & I sure as hell wasnt having any bloke living with me, I liked my space & freedom to much , how wrong was I 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 30,007 Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 The grass aint always as green as we think it might be ! 11 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
lanesra 3,961 Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 My 20 year marriage ended 3 years ago , to be honest it was a weight off my shoulders , the last 3 years have been an immense struggle to keep my head above water on my own, but I rather have the daily struggles than live a lie & be unhappy & have to keep faking a smile Now I am smiling for real , just do whats right for you in your personal circumstances & things will get better Secret Is Kay Don't Get Married . . 28yrs & Still Not Married . . I Rush into Fukc All !!Well I have tried it twice & wont be bothering again Never Say Never Kay . . Now some On Here Know Your Single we May Have a H.L. Wedding !! Frank I met someone in May after 3 years on my own I was sat cross legged on the floor in amongst the swan shit taking pics & he asked me if i would like a coffee , 6 weeks later we moved in , I guess my gut reaction was right , so I have gone with it can honestly say its the best thing to happen to me apart from my kids I was adamant I would remain single & I sure as hell wasnt having any bloke living with me, I liked my space & freedom to much , how wrong was I Good Things Come To Those Who Waite Kay . . 3rd Time Lucky Hopefully Quote Link to post Share on other sites
raymond1 262 Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 has anyone ended a long term relationship, and how much does it hurt ? iv been in mine for near on 14 years this january coming, and i cant take no more, ill put an lol but it is'nt funny at all anyone got any experiencenses, or words of wisdom ? Yes!.....Best advice I could give is. Don't bare your soul on THL coz they will rip the piss out of you for sport. TC take no notice of tierce mate and tell us what has happened Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bird 9,848 Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 The grass aint always as green as we think it might be ! maybe not Gnash, but somtimes things just happen when you aint looked for it. Funny thing you can be real unhappy, and looking at that green grass, and it dont work. But dont look for it and just happens, i think its passed me by now lol, wish i could turn the clock back, but with my mind i have now. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
raymond1 262 Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 I bet she is having an affair and giving you shit for it and that's why she is always a miserable cow Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WoodsmanJim 160 Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 (edited) I must say having seen previous 'relationship advice' type threads in here I'm amazed this has got to 2 pages with only genuine and caring replies! You're warming my cockles THL! Good on you all. OP- as has been said, life's to short to be miserable. You say you've made your decision, which is good. It'll hurt for sure, but if you're really not in love, then it's the right thing to do for both of you. Most of the pain will probably be in starting new routines, new social circles etc. As humans we're mostly creatures of habit and value the familiar, adjusting will take time and sustained effort, but you'll get there. And you'll be better off for it when you do. Good luck. Jim Edited October 16, 2013 by WoodsmanJim 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
RubyTex 1,957 Posted October 16, 2013 Report Share Posted October 16, 2013 My advice - don't make rash decisions that you might live to regret. Other than that stay single and dip your wick in as many as you can Quote Link to post Share on other sites
dare 1,103 Posted October 17, 2013 Report Share Posted October 17, 2013 After 14 years can I ask what makes you like fall out of love? Being with the person for that long I'd image they become part of you. What sort of thing causes you to fall out of love? Surely as they change as we all do you being with them you don't even see it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wxm 1,638 Posted October 17, 2013 Report Share Posted October 17, 2013 The best way to get over one is to get on another and if that done work try it with another and another and another and so on. But don't stay with someone just for the sake of kids pal it's the biggest mistake you can make I did it with my ex and it was a nightmare. Me and my Missus now has had our fair share of tiffs and I've packed my stuff several times but we've ended up sorting things out. Do you not think a break away may help, fishing / hunting trip or even just afew days with an old mate or something ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
zx10mike 137 Posted October 17, 2013 Report Share Posted October 17, 2013 well i have been with my wife anna for nearley 14 years,we never fall out and she is still my best friend.my point here is get out and find who your meant to be with.don't settle for second best.good luck with it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
wi11ow 2,657 Posted October 17, 2013 Report Share Posted October 17, 2013 ring Jeremy Kyle have a free night on him 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
paulus 26 Posted October 17, 2013 Report Share Posted October 17, 2013 fook who needs the Jez Kyle show when we have THL Quote Link to post Share on other sites
wi11ow 2,657 Posted October 17, 2013 Report Share Posted October 17, 2013 fook who needs the Jez Kyle show when we have THL will you give a free bar food and a bed for the nite and the next day talk to the aftercare team Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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