Hypothetical Question

[walshie 2,804]

Should always stick a rubber on...Lab is a walking advert for that

 

Or abstain from sex altogether. Tarquin is a walking advert for that.

[Malt 379]

 

My brother demanded a dna test after a ex started demanding money saying she was pregnant. With his child he wouldn't give her a penny till the babes was born and only then after a test she hit the roof and wouldn't agree so went through the court demanding it turned out the

Child was his so now pays his way.

 

think that's what i'm going to have to do, to be honest she's not asked for a penny off me but she's got a new partner I think they think they are just going to play happy families........

In your situation mate, I'd weigh up a few things before doing anything drastic..

 

1. What sort of bloke is he? Will the woman in question and him stay together long enough to provide that kid a happy and stable upbringing?

 

2. Are you in a position to give that kid the time and financial support required if it did turn out to be yours, and are you ready to step up and be a parent?

 

Being a dad is more than genetic and if you ain't ready to step up and make huge sacrifices in your life maybe it would be better to leave the kid grow up in a stable environment with two loving parents..

 

Only you can answer that to yourself mate, and good luck with whatever you decide to do..

[keepdiggin 9,561]

 

 

My brother demanded a dna test after a ex started demanding money saying she was pregnant. With his child he wouldn't give her a penny till the babes was born and only then after a test she hit the roof and wouldn't agree so went through the court demanding it turned out the

Child was his so now pays his way.

think that's what i'm going to have to do, to be honest she's not asked for a penny off me but she's got a new partner I think they think they are just going to play happy families........

In your situation mate, I'd weigh up a few things before doing anything drastic..

 

1. What sort of bloke is he? Will the woman in question and him stay together long enough to provide that kid a happy and stable upbringing?

 

2. Are you in a position to give that kid the time and financial support required if it did turn out to be yours, and are you ready to step up and be a parent?

 

Being a dad is more than genetic and if you ain't ready to step up and make huge sacrifices in your life maybe it would be better to leave the kid grow up in a stable environment with two loving parents..

 

Only you can answer that to yourself mate, and good luck with whatever you decide to do..

 

Cheers Mal, to be honest the lads not a bad kid I've always got on with him. I'll be man enough to look after my responsibilities without a doubt.

[willum 89]

Good luck mate in what ever happens my brothers ex is evil I've not seen my niece ever and she's coming up to 4 now my brother has seen here abouts 3 times since she was born buys her cards and presents writes dates on them and places them in a box ready for theday she comes looking for him

[keepdiggin 9,561]

Good luck mate in what ever happens my brothers ex is evil I've not seen my niece ever and she's coming up to 4 now my brother has seen here abouts 3 times since she was born buys her cards and presents writes dates on them and places them in a box ready for theday she comes looking for him

cheers mate

[ChrisJones 7,975]

Can a woman be made to have a DNA test regarding a new born baby?

 

Is your name on the birth certificate?

[keepdiggin 9,561]

 

Can a woman be made to have a DNA test regarding a new born baby?

 

Is your name on the birth certificate?

 

no mate

[Lab 10,979]

So this is serious then, you've potentially fathered a child?

Well my advice is to find out for certain or it's sure going to f**k with your head. You can still find out and take a back seat if you think your not ready mate.

But there will come a time when that wee one will no longer be a wee one and might come looking for answers and it would be nice to say you done all you can and done the correct thing at the time.

Get it sorted.

And just to cover myself...... If this is bullshit your a c**t!! lol

[ChrisJones 7,975]

You need to actual legal advice here. It might cost a couple of quid but could save you a lot in the long run.

 

I've seen what the CSA can do, later down the line. Everything might be peaches, and cream, now but may not be in the future.

[keepdiggin 9,561]

So this is serious then, you've potentially fathered a child?

Well my advice is to find out for certain or it's sure going to f**k with your head. You can still find out and take a back seat if you think your not ready mate.

But there will come a time when that wee one will no longer be a wee one and might come looking for answers and it would be nice to say you done all you can and done the correct thing at the time.

Get it sorted.

And just to cover myself...... If this is bullshit your a c**t!! lol

No wind up mate, not even told my mum about all whats going on.

[keepdiggin 9,561]

You need to actual legal advice here. It might cost a couple of quid but could save you a lot in the long run.

 

I've seen what the CSA can do, later down the line. Everything might be peaches, and cream, now but may not be in the future.

will seek advice tomorrow after work, thanks you've been a great help.

[Huan72 687]

So this is serious then, you've potentially fathered a child?

Well my advice is to find out for certain or it's sure going to f**k with your head. You can still find out and take a back seat if you think your not ready mate.

But there will come a time when that wee one will no longer be a wee one and might come looking for answers and it would be nice to say you done all you can and done the correct thing at the time.

Get it sorted.

And just to cover myself...... If this is bullshit your a c**t!! lol

Lab is right, get it sorted and if you don't want to get involved leave her to raise the child. I personally know some one close to me who is now 41 years old and she dosen't know who her biological father is for shore. It has caused her a lot of pain through her life, its always on the back of her mind and she will probably never know now. Having seen what this type of thing can do to a person, if you are on speaking terms with her, it will be worth having a word with her, just remember none of us ask to come in to the world If the baby's not yours you will have done the child a favour anyway, everyone wants to know where they come from

[Lab 10,979]

 

 

So this is serious then, you've potentially fathered a child?

Well my advice is to find out for certain or it's sure going to f**k with your head. You can still find out and take a back seat if you think your not ready mate.

But there will come a time when that wee one will no longer be a wee one and might come looking for answers and it would be nice to say you done all you can and done the correct thing at the time.

Get it sorted.

And just to cover myself...... If this is bullshit your a c**t!! lol

No wind up mate, not even told my mum about all whats going on.

Well time you did tell her before some nosey b*****d does.

[perthshire keeper 1,239]

You need to actual legal advice here. It might cost a couple of quid but could save you a lot in the long run.

 

I've seen what the CSA can do, later down the line. Everything might be peaches, and cream, now but may not be in the future.

yep they are f***ing brutle if they get their claws in and once they do they will no let go! leagle advce is they way forward!

[ChrisJones 7,975]

yep they are f*****g brutle if they get their claws in and once they do they will no let go! leagle advce is they way forward!

 

Defo! If they get involved they will chase you, and your family. They don't stop.