j1985 1,984 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 how can anyone on here answer that mate??? there must be a reason she is using against you............ He's just said why she's f***ing doing it, she's being a horrible bitch!! Wouldn't be the first and definitely not the last. The mans being denied access to his kids and your mugging him off saying it must be his fault. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
twobob 1,497 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 solicitor mate it may cost you abit but what the fxcks money compared to your own flesh and blood hope it turns out well for you 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
day worker 296 Posted July 29, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 It's always the mans fault even if it isn't! Every avenue I've been down CSa. Cab or anything else you can see what they are thinking! It must be me mustn't it? That poor poor woman all on her own looking after those kids! Well it isn't like that at all! Everytime she gets a new fella she suddenly grows a pair and starts throwing her weight around and I'm just supposed to bite my lip and do as I'm told! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
torchey 1,328 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 Problem is now she has clouded there judgment and they are saying they don't want to come over! I can't afford to go to court now that legal aid has stopped. And even if I did go to court and won she could still make life awkward! I wouldn't mind but I truly have done nothing wrong other than say no to her mental demands! They,re all f***ing mental mate,just different levels 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
baw 4,360 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 Ex's are b*****ds. I lost the lot to mine so I could see the daughter. I walked out left her with the lot, took all the debt. The house is in joint names so when the daughter turns 16 next year, I'll move back in and buy her half. Funny how they demand joint mortgage even though I'm paying it yet debt went in my name, funny that. Only funny bit and what really does your nut in is, do they plan this from the start or just a coincidence Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kay 3,709 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 My blokes going through the same thing with his ex .... I have found this info that may help you understand why she is doing it ... I hope you get it sorted because its a nightmare situation for the kids to be in .. good luck http://www.coeffic.demon.co.uk/pas.htm Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NEWKID 27,276 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 Some woman would rather risk the happieness of their child just to get one over on their ex... It's completely wrong, the laws an ass in situations like this, there are as many shite mothers as there are shite fathers yet the law is always in their favour.. I hope you can get it resolved mate, not just for yourself but your kids as well.. Atb 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bracken boy 584 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 law says it came out if their hole not yours end off which aint right. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ady-b 94 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 get yourself a good female lawyer that specialises in family law and fight tooth and nail to see your kids mate Quote Link to post Share on other sites
rob190364 2,594 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 Some woman would rather risk the happieness of their child just to get one over on their ex... It's completely wrong, the laws an ass in situations like this, there are as many shite mothers as there are shite fathers yet the law is always in their favour.. I hope you can get it resolved mate, not just for yourself but your kids as well.. Atb I know it's extreme, but when I hear some stories related to the way some women act when it comes to divorce/seperation, I can genuinely understand how some perfectly normal blokes resort to murder. My divorce didn't involve kids....apart from her trying to get me to pay maintenance for a kid that wasn't even mine! but all the other money stuff that went on and her refusal to just draw a line under it all got me thinking along them lines, bizarre when I think about it now but if I could have popped her off and knew I would get away with it I wouldn't have given it a second thought! I even had it planned in my head how I could do it!!!! how bad is that! Back to this case though, my mrs works in that field, and even blokes that have abused their partners aren't stopped from seeing their kids.....even blokes that have (non-sexually) abused their kids aren't!!! It's a very very extreme case when the law stops you seeing your own kids! Keep fighting for it, you'll find the money some how. Once you've missed out on those years you'll never get them back and you'll always regret it! 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
bendrover 556 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 Ex's are b*****ds. I lost the lot to mine so I could see the daughter. I walked out left her with the lot, took all the debt. The house is in joint names so when the daughter turns 16 next year, I'll move back in and buy her half. Funny how they demand joint mortgage even though I'm paying it yet debt went in my name, funny that. Only funny bit and what really does your nut in is, do they plan this from the start or just a coincidence get in there baw . Dont let lab have the house to himself .heeeeee 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
baw 4,360 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 Ex's are b*****ds. I lost the lot to mine so I could see the daughter. I walked out left her with the lot, took all the debt. The house is in joint names so when the daughter turns 16 next year, I'll move back in and buy her half. Funny how they demand joint mortgage even though I'm paying it yet debt went in my name, funny that. Only funny bit and what really does your nut in is, do they plan this from the start or just a coincidence get in there baw . Dont let lab have the house to himself .heeeeee just biding my time mate then once I'm settled back in, I'll be looking for a pup aff yea you got that T shirt yet Quote Link to post Share on other sites
day worker 296 Posted July 29, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 And to top off an already fantastic week I've just had a rusty nail fly off and stick in my eye! I can't see feck all out of it! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
rob190364 2,594 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 And to top off an already fantastic week I've just had a rusty nail fly off and stick in my eye! I can't see feck all out of it! no wonder she ditched you...always feckin moaning!! 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Astral 253 Posted July 29, 2013 Report Share Posted July 29, 2013 Your entitled to see your kids under law. The Children Act states the opinion of the child MUST be valued, your kids will want to see their dad, the Act also states that the welfare of the child is paramount, that means it is in their best interests to have a strong, supportive bond with their father. Fathers have a lot more rights than they know about, go down to SS and state if there are issues seeing the kids, you want to set up a formal, regular contact at a contact centre. You also can use SS to support you. I know this is not ideal as you'll be mostly under supervision but seriously grit your teeth, smile and bare it. Don't miss an appointment and if she trys to go down the legal route she hasn't a leg to stand on. This is all based on if she is giving them malicious information or outright lying about you being a bad dad for whatever reasons. Don't let her wind you up and do not shout/be confrontational or get mad at any point. Always smile, be polite and there can be no possible reason she can stop you, plus it will look very good on you if she tried to up the anti and go for sole custody. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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