Grief

[baw 4,360]

Pmsl the bible says, slanty eyed c**ts will end the world, I'm paraphrasing of course lol. Not that I believe a word in that collection of fabricated stories.......

[Attack Fell Terrier 864]

Losing a child is enough to crush anybody ...........

It certainly does, I just tried putting my own emotions to the back of my mind when my son died, to be there for my Missus. But the fact was/is that I was just a 17 year old kid without a clue on how to deal with it, and still to this day at the age of 33 I still haven't dealt with it.

[socks 32,253]

 

Losing a child is enough to crush anybody ...........

It certainly does, I just tried putting my own emotions to the back of my mind when my son died, to be there for my Missus. But the fact was/is that I was just a 17 year old kid without a clue on how to deal with it, and still to this day at the age of 33 I still haven't dealt with it.

It's something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy mate ...........

[Attack Fell Terrier 864]

 

 

Losing a child is enough to crush anybody ...........

It certainly does, I just tried putting my own emotions to the back of my mind when my son died, to be there for my Missus. But the fact was/is that I was just a 17 year old kid without a clue on how to deal with it, and still to this day at the age of 33 I still haven't dealt with it.

It's something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy mate ...........

Same here mate.

[Carraghs Gem 1,675]

 

Losing a child is enough to crush anybody ...........

It certainly does, I just tried putting my own emotions to the back of my mind when my son died, to be there for my Missus. But the fact was/is that I was just a 17 year old kid without a clue on how to deal with it, and still to this day at the age of 33 I still haven't dealt with it.

It is a very different kind of grief to losing anybody else... I cant control the grief i feel from losing my son... I barely knew him yet im inconsolable over losing him. Ive lost a brother, nephew and grandparents and friends yet it is nothing like how i feel over losing eden.

[sussex 5,777]

How strange this topic is on here today......my niece lost her battle with brain tumor this morning, grief seems an inadiquate word ...!

[Attack Fell Terrier 864]

How strange this topic is on here today......my niece lost her battle with brain tumor this morning, grief seems an inadiquate word ...!

Oh mate, I can't express how sorry I am to hear that.

 

RIP.

[gnasher16 30,112]

 

 

 

 

Everybody is definitely different I don't do grief ... I am a pretty unemotional person and that got nothing to do with being in the army I have always been that way even as a kid ... I can't even remember the last time I cried if I ever have ... One of my girls is the same ... We call her the ice queen ... She can sit in a room with 10 other people and watch a sad film and whilst the other nine are sobbing she just sits there stoned faced ?. And like me she just shuts down to things ... You can be my best mate forever but if you do me a bad turn I can cut you out forever without a blink ... And I am the same with death ...........

Thats interesting........ive been around some pretty fearless and probably quite intimidating people over the years but im yet to meet a man who had no weakness.......................its just a matter of finding it.................Please god it doesnt happen for a long while yet but whatever your weakness turns out to be Socks id almost guarentee you have emotion just like the rest of us.

Me....Watership Down still gets me every time

Gnash I can tell you now that my Achilles heel is my kids I would be a broken crushed man if something happened to one of My angels ... I really don't know where I would go In my head or what state i Would be in ...........

 

I'm similar socks. I've cried though, f**k I've cried lol. Can't do it infront of anyone though, not being macho, just always had to show strength I suppose to help others grief. I've found I can file shit away at the back of my head and let it out gradually in bite size portions I can cope with. I've went through a lot of shit over last year or 2 with the ex. A lot of you will be saying, yea we know ya boring b*****d but I've only said what I could cope with plus I ain't the type to tell any c**t my business especially strangers on a forum lol. I'll tell little white lies to protect myself like the 8ft caterpillar at Christmas being for my niece, it wasn't, that was for my 14 year old daughter. Wasn't all I gave her before I get called a tight scot lol, got iPad and other stuff. Just couldn't cope with saying it on here. I get her weekends, that's why I don't come on here then. I said to mochara I wasn't on cos I was bored, partly true but it was more to do with being in a dark place at the time. I put a brave face on, no c**t whether on here or friends and family know when I'm up or down, I'm the same way all the time. But that file at the back of the head gets mighty full sometimes and I need to release it how I can. I don't cry or any of that shit, just go quiet thinking of stuff. It mostly comes out in anger, just explode at fuckall then i think, oh oh lol. It's just how I cope I suppose. Why am I telling you this now? f**k knows, maybe cos I'm in a place now I can cope with talking about it. I know there will be folk on here thinking I probably f****d the ex about that's why we split, hand on heart it wasn't. She just didn't want me to have a life and I love going out with the dogs. Think she was also jelous that my daughter loved going out with them too and I'd spend more time with the daughter because of this than I did with the ex. Ex wasn't into hunting. Shit happened with the dogs and pretty much gave them up but it didn't make no difference. That's when I realized the dogs were just an excuse to nip my head, she'd just find other shit to moan about. That's when I knew I had to get out for all our sakes. Anyhow, I know it ain't grief as such but it hurts like f**k and still does. Not breaking up with her, that was the best thing I ever did but being a weekend dad, its f***ing the pits. I'm lucky I make good money and can make our time together special but I'd go on the dole if it meant I could get her 24/7. The ex is an excellent mother though and I'd never jeopardize their relationship. I'll just keep my filing system going lol.

 

Wow that was deep ! ............fair do,s for sticking at it with the youngster...............i certainly wouldnt go into that much detail but suffice to say im probably the exact opposite to you lads im the sort to go to the extremes of emotion be it good or bad.......when im happy i,ll make sure everyone else is happy but when im miserable i,ll drag every other c**t down as well ...........Those extremes of emotion dont help in many ways i was never able to do the weekend dad thing i had to have the lot or nothing at all......much to my regret now ! .....It must be nice to be unemotional sometimes.....but it just aint in my nature.

Anyway,admire your honesty Baw and wish you well with your situation

[gnasher16 30,112]

How strange this topic is on here today......my niece lost her battle with brain tumor this morning, grief seems an inadiquate word ...!

Very sorry to hear that my heart go,s out to you and yours.

[baw 4,360]

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Everybody is definitely different I don't do grief ... I am a pretty unemotional person and that got nothing to do with being in the army I have always been that way even as a kid ... I can't even remember the last time I cried if I ever have ... One of my girls is the same ... We call her the ice queen ... She can sit in a room with 10 other people and watch a sad film and whilst the other nine are sobbing she just sits there stoned faced ?. And like me she just shuts down to things ... You can be my best mate forever but if you do me a bad turn I can cut you out forever without a blink ... And I am the same with death ...........

Thats interesting........ive been around some pretty fearless and probably quite intimidating people over the years but im yet to meet a man who had no weakness.......................its just a matter of finding it.................Please god it doesnt happen for a long while yet but whatever your weakness turns out to be Socks id almost guarentee you have emotion just like the rest of us.

Me....Watership Down still gets me every time

Gnash I can tell you now that my Achilles heel is my kids I would be a broken crushed man if something happened to one of My angels ... I really don't know where I would go In my head or what state i Would be in ...........

I'm similar socks. I've cried though, f**k I've cried lol. Can't do it infront of anyone though, not being macho, just always had to show strength I suppose to help others grief. I've found I can file shit away at the back of my head and let it out gradually in bite size portions I can cope with. I've went through a lot of shit over last year or 2 with the ex. A lot of you will be saying, yea we know ya boring b*****d but I've only said what I could cope with plus I ain't the type to tell any c**t my business especially strangers on a forum lol. I'll tell little white lies to protect myself like the 8ft caterpillar at Christmas being for my niece, it wasn't, that was for my 14 year old daughter. Wasn't all I gave her before I get called a tight scot lol, got iPad and other stuff. Just couldn't cope with saying it on here. I get her weekends, that's why I don't come on here then. I said to mochara I wasn't on cos I was bored, partly true but it was more to do with being in a dark place at the time. I put a brave face on, no c**t whether on here or friends and family know when I'm up or down, I'm the same way all the time. But that file at the back of the head gets mighty full sometimes and I need to release it how I can. I don't cry or any of that shit, just go quiet thinking of stuff. It mostly comes out in anger, just explode at fuckall then i think, oh oh lol. It's just how I cope I suppose. Why am I telling you this now? f**k knows, maybe cos I'm in a place now I can cope with talking about it. I know there will be folk on here thinking I probably f****d the ex about that's why we split, hand on heart it wasn't. She just didn't want me to have a life and I love going out with the dogs. Think she was also jelous that my daughter loved going out with them too and I'd spend more time with the daughter because of this than I did with the ex. Ex wasn't into hunting. Shit happened with the dogs and pretty much gave them up but it didn't make no difference. That's when I realized the dogs were just an excuse to nip my head, she'd just find other shit to moan about. That's when I knew I had to get out for all our sakes. Anyhow, I know it ain't grief as such but it hurts like f**k and still does. Not breaking up with her, that was the best thing I ever did but being a weekend dad, its f***ing the pits. I'm lucky I make good money and can make our time together special but I'd go on the dole if it meant I could get her 24/7. The ex is an excellent mother though and I'd never jeopardize their relationship. I'll just keep my filing system going lol.

Wow that was deep ! ............fair do,s for sticking at it with the youngster...............i certainly wouldnt go into that much detail but suffice to say im probably the exact opposite to you lads im the sort to go to the extremes of emotion be it good or bad.......when im happy i,ll make sure everyone else is happy but when im miserable i,ll drag every other c**t down as well ...........Those extremes of emotion dont help in many ways i was never able to do the weekend dad thing i had to have the lot or nothing at all......much to my regret now ! .....It must be nice to be unemotional sometimes.....but it just aint in my nature.

Anyway,admire your honesty Baw and wish you well with your situation

Cheers gnash, you don't know half of it mate but i won't bore you with the details. Life's a bitch then you die

[socks 32,253]

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Everybody is definitely different I don't do grief ... I am a pretty unemotional person and that got nothing to do with being in the army I have always been that way even as a kid ... I can't even remember the last time I cried if I ever have ... One of my girls is the same ... We call her the ice queen ... She can sit in a room with 10 other people and watch a sad film and whilst the other nine are sobbing she just sits there stoned faced ?. And like me she just shuts down to things ... You can be my best mate forever but if you do me a bad turn I can cut you out forever without a blink ... And I am the same with death ...........

Thats interesting........ive been around some pretty fearless and probably quite intimidating people over the years but im yet to meet a man who had no weakness.......................its just a matter of finding it.................Please god it doesnt happen for a long while yet but whatever your weakness turns out to be Socks id almost guarentee you have emotion just like the rest of us.

Me....Watership Down still gets me every time

Gnash I can tell you now that my Achilles heel is my kids I would be a broken crushed man if something happened to one of My angels ... I really don't know where I would go In my head or what state i Would be in ...........

I'm similar socks. I've cried though, f**k I've cried lol. Can't do it infront of anyone though, not being macho, just always had to show strength I suppose to help others grief. I've found I can file shit away at the back of my head and let it out gradually in bite size portions I can cope with. I've went through a lot of shit over last year or 2 with the ex. A lot of you will be saying, yea we know ya boring b*****d but I've only said what I could cope with plus I ain't the type to tell any c**t my business especially strangers on a forum lol. I'll tell little white lies to protect myself like the 8ft caterpillar at Christmas being for my niece, it wasn't, that was for my 14 year old daughter. Wasn't all I gave her before I get called a tight scot lol, got iPad and other stuff. Just couldn't cope with saying it on here. I get her weekends, that's why I don't come on here then. I said to mochara I wasn't on cos I was bored, partly true but it was more to do with being in a dark place at the time. I put a brave face on, no c**t whether on here or friends and family know when I'm up or down, I'm the same way all the time. But that file at the back of the head gets mighty full sometimes and I need to release it how I can. I don't cry or any of that shit, just go quiet thinking of stuff. It mostly comes out in anger, just explode at fuckall then i think, oh oh lol. It's just how I cope I suppose. Why am I telling you this now? f**k knows, maybe cos I'm in a place now I can cope with talking about it. I know there will be folk on here thinking I probably f****d the ex about that's why we split, hand on heart it wasn't. She just didn't want me to have a life and I love going out with the dogs. Think she was also jelous that my daughter loved going out with them too and I'd spend more time with the daughter because of this than I did with the ex. Ex wasn't into hunting. Shit happened with the dogs and pretty much gave them up but it didn't make no difference. That's when I realized the dogs were just an excuse to nip my head, she'd just find other shit to moan about. That's when I knew I had to get out for all our sakes. Anyhow, I know it ain't grief as such but it hurts like f**k and still does. Not breaking up with her, that was the best thing I ever did but being a weekend dad, its f***ing the pits. I'm lucky I make good money and can make our time together special but I'd go on the dole if it meant I could get her 24/7. The ex is an excellent mother though and I'd never jeopardize their relationship. I'll just keep my filing system going lol.

Wow that was deep ! ............fair do,s for sticking at it with the youngster...............i certainly wouldnt go into that much detail but suffice to say im probably the exact opposite to you lads im the sort to go to the extremes of emotion be it good or bad.......when im happy i,ll make sure everyone else is happy but when im miserable i,ll drag every other c**t down as well ...........Those extremes of emotion dont help in many ways i was never able to do the weekend dad thing i had to have the lot or nothing at all......much to my regret now ! .....It must be nice to be unemotional sometimes.....but it just aint in my nature.

Anyway,admire your honesty Baw and wish you well with your situation

Cheers gnash, you don't know half of it mate but i won't bore you with the details. Life's a bitch then you die

Thank f**k for that ...,you need to man up baw you fukcing fanny .........?

[baw 4,360]

c**t

[skycat 6,173]

What a sad thread. I imagine that most of us have hooked up with someone (at one time or another) who wanted to change us into what they saw as the perfect partner. To me the crazy thing is that they must have liked what they initially saw in us, but then didn't want to live with it. I could never work that one out

[R.A.W 1,987]

What a sad thread. I imagine that most of us have hooked up with someone (at one time or another) who wanted to change us into what they saw as the perfect partner. To me the crazy thing is that they must have liked what they initially saw in us, but then didn't want to live with it. I could never work that one out

 

my mrs is still at it. i have to keep reminding her that i've always done what i've done and that at no point did i say i'd change. she'll probally give up when were in our sixties .

 

she does come home with clothes she'd like me to wear and i must say my wardrobe does look trendy but i'm only comfortable in mole skins and shirt or work clothes. i suppose it comes with old age

[Attack Fell Terrier 864]

 

What a sad thread. I imagine that most of us have hooked up with someone (at one time or another) who wanted to change us into what they saw as the perfect partner. To me the crazy thing is that they must have liked what they initially saw in us, but then didn't want to live with it. I could never work that one out

my mrs is still at it. i have to keep reminding her that i've always done what i've done and that at no point did i say i'd change. she'll probally give up when were in our sixties .

 

she does come home with clothes she'd like me to wear and i must say my wardrobe does look trendy but i'm only comfortable in mole skins and shirt or work clothes. i suppose it comes with old age

How do you think my Missus feels when I take her out for dinner in my favourite hat lol -