Grief

[gnasher16 30,279]

No......i,ll hold my tongue.

Edited February 11, 2013 by gnasher16

[gonetoearth 5,144]

sorry but id find it hard to disscuss such matters on here

[gnasher16 30,279]

Well dont then.....but the fella might feel more at ease telling strangers than telling friends/family.....................i can half understand that.....but then everyones different.

[socks 32,253]

Everybody is definitely different I don't do grief ... I am a pretty unemotional person and that got nothing to do with being in the army I have always been that way even as a kid ... I can't even remember the last time I cried if I ever have ... One of my girls is the same ... We call her the ice queen ... She can sit in a room with 10 other people and watch a sad film and whilst the other nine are sobbing she just sits there stoned faced ?. And like me she just shuts down to things ... You can be my best mate forever but if you do me a bad turn I can cut you out forever without a blink ... And I am the same with death ...........

[TUFFTY 1,476]

No......i,ll hold my tongue.

 

 

edited to say GNASHER didnt you just say fella?

Edited February 11, 2013 by TUFFTY

[Astanley 11,575]

In the last few years my missus has lost 7 (seven) brothers and sisters , each time she goes through all the stages of grief ,followed by a slow recovery ,because she goes through the full "grieving process "mentally she is as well balanced and mentally sorted as anyone I know . Me on the other hand , after a life time of suppressing emotion and acting "like a man "am completly feked up .

[lanesra 3,994]

Lost my parents before I was 19 , 2 sisters , 3 real close friends and my 18yr old son . . . Parents , sisters and friends I dealt with had bad times but learned to get on with things . . My son was and is a Different story I don't only grieve for him you also grieve for your Mrs & other kids going through Hell , some things I believe you'll never come to terms with but you have to keep going , my Daughter had her baby last Thursday Another boy so that's 2 Grandsons Sonny & now Little Archie and they proved to me life has to go on and the joy off them helps when the bad days happen .

[LaraCroft 863]

Lost my parents before I was 19 , 2 sisters , 3 real close friends and my 18yr old son . . . Parents , sisters and friends I dealt with had bad times but learned to get on with things . . My son was and is a Different story I don't only grieve for him you also grieve for your Mrs & other kids going through Hell , some things I believe you'll never come to terms with but you have to keep going , my Daughter had her baby last Thursday Another boy so that's 2 Grandsons Sonny & now Little Archie and they proved to me life has to go on and the joy off them helps when the bad days happen .

Sorry to hear about your lad - it isn't acceptable for a parent to bury a child. Glad you have a couple of grandsons to look at when the sky is black

[socks 32,253]

Losing a child is enough to crush anybody ...........

[scothunter 12,609]

my granny wow did she have it hard. lost a 3year old daughter,then 3month later my grrandad.then her 2 daughters emigrated to the states.she lost one over there.then her son then my dad.she died when she was 98 few later her last daughter in the states died.so all bar one she lived through all her family going before her.

[The one 8,495]

They say times a great healer but its no you still think of your lost ones every day you just have to handle it in your own way

[lanesra 3,994]

my granny wow did she have it hard. lost a 3year old daughter,then 3month later my grrandad.then her 2 daughters emigrated to the states.she lost one over there.then her son then my dad.she died when she was 98 few later her last daughter in the states died.so all bar one she lived through all her family going before her.

That must of been really tough for her Scot , shows there's always someone who's had it worse than yourself !

[gnasher16 30,279]

Everybody is definitely different I don't do grief ... I am a pretty unemotional person and that got nothing to do with being in the army I have always been that way even as a kid ... I can't even remember the last time I cried if I ever have ... One of my girls is the same ... We call her the ice queen ... She can sit in a room with 10 other people and watch a sad film and whilst the other nine are sobbing she just sits there stoned faced ?. And like me she just shuts down to things ... You can be my best mate forever but if you do me a bad turn I can cut you out forever without a blink ... And I am the same with death ...........

Thats interesting........ive been around some pretty fearless and probably quite intimidating people over the years but im yet to meet a man who had no weakness.......................its just a matter of finding it.................Please god it doesnt happen for a long while yet but whatever your weakness turns out to be Socks id almost guarentee you have emotion just like the rest of us.

Me....Watership Down still gets me every time

[Kay 3,709]

I think everyone deals with a loss very differently, I remember the very public display when Diana princess of wales was killed & how the public slated the queen for not making an appearance for days , she was simply being a grandmother to the boys , in private which was exactly how it should have been , her public came second & quite rightly so

 

Seems today with places like Facebook people are almost expected to grieve in public , not my way , but clearly a lot of people use social;l media to air there feelings

[Born Hunter 17,797]

I don't believe that you neccessarily have to cry to suffer grief, ultimately anger is the most important emotion to get you through emotional hurt. Everybody deals with it differently from those that sob their hearts out, those that get angry and hatefull to those that give it the 'meh, f**k ya then' blasse attitude. It's all dealing with emotional hurt.

 

If you open your heart to anything or anybody, or even just grow fond, then ya putting it on the chopping block.......