gnasher16 30,425 Posted July 24, 2012 Report Share Posted July 24, 2012 Ok.....Ive never really been around or even known any Army lads,so i dont really have anyone to ask..........but my daughter married a lad in the Fusiliers on saturday and yesterday moved down to a house at Bulford Barracks to start life together............now im first to admit i was a complete f**k up as a parent and i probably dont have any right to dictate who she sees and who she dont,but her first few boyfriends being a little bit too much like me were eventually shown the red card,fighting conning cheating wankers !..............but about 18 months ago she met a lad who i must say is a really exceptional young man....a completely straight living lad with more moral fibre and character in his little finger than someone like me has ever had in their entire body.......very few people these days can really make an impression on me,but this boy at 25 years old just has so much about him that i have total confidence he will treat my daughter right and be a fantastic son in law................. But my big doubt is the life she will have as " a soldiers wife "......shes always been a very independant young lady,has a good job etc and a good head on her shoulders..........i just wonder how hard the adjustments to that kind of life are,the place is right out in the sticks and i wonder how she,ll cope when he,s away etc.......he,s already been told he,s likely to be called up for Afghanistan at some stage over the next year he only passed out at Catterick 6 months ago so its all new for him not just her....... I know theres a few army sorts on here i just wondered what your thoughts are as regards the life itself.....im just a dumb city boy what would i know ....anyway thankyou for your time. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest cookiemonsterandmerlin Posted July 24, 2012 Report Share Posted July 24, 2012 (edited) My wife hated it and she is like your daughter strong minded and very postive good job etc but it will be hard for some to belive on THL she missed me I nice of you to be concerned for your daughter but only they will know if it works some women love it other hate the long lonely times that a army wife can be and all the social activties can you replace your partner if you miss them dearly. ATB Cookie Edited July 24, 2012 by cookiemonsterandmerlin Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Greengrass 202 Posted July 24, 2012 Report Share Posted July 24, 2012 I have a cousin who is married to a soldier who has been all over the place on tours of duty, at the moment they are based in Germany and although she hated it at first she is now the first to admit that loneliness aside she loves being married to a squad die. Listening to her I think that interacting with the other wives plays a huge part in adapting to the way of life, as in "we're all in this together". To be honest I would have thought she would have been the last person attracted to army life but as I say she loves it, I genuinely hope your daughter does too. Best of luck to your daughter and her husband. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted July 24, 2012 Report Share Posted July 24, 2012 Gnasher army life has changed drastically over the last decade and the support for army wives especially young wives new to a battalion is the best it's ever been encourage her to intergrate fully with the other wives and attend a few coffee mornings where the welfare officer and some of the more experienced wives can help her to understand the army way. Being independent is a good thing encourage her to go out and get a job and make a career for herself apart from the much needed money it will give her something to focus on when her husband is away on exercise and tours. Bulford is a nice quiet village but it is central to amesbury Salisbury Andover and not a million miles from Basingstoke so there is plenty of places to go if she is bored. The most difficult thing for a young bride to learn is that the army owns her husband and no matter she or they may think or plan if the arm calls he has to go. Once she comes to terms with this she will have a rich and enjoyable life in the protection of the regiment. 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
reddawn 2,173 Posted July 24, 2012 Report Share Posted July 24, 2012 young or new army wifes are treated better now than ever before, they are offered allsorts of help, in saying that tho, it was meeting a girl an setlling down that put the finalnail in the coffin of my army carrer, i didnt have it in me to ask her to live that life.. atb to your daughter an son in law gnash, i wish them all the best for the future 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
littlefish 587 Posted July 24, 2012 Report Share Posted July 24, 2012 Good luck to them. I went to school with army kids, well, they came and went at my school I went to, also I have worked with army wives over the years, the ones who seemed happiest were the outgoing ones who seemed to mix well both 'on camp' and with us 'locals', making the most of it while the partners were away. The moving around would be tough though. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 30,425 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 (edited) Thanks for the comments chaps......shes a strong minded girl but i think shes got enough of a disciplined mind to understand what shes got herself into and isnt the sort to jump in feet first without thinking it through.Workwise she wont have problems my only doubt is it all seems lovely at the moment in the height of summer,nice new house just got married etc....whats it going to be like on a dreary Thursday aftenoon in winter while her husbands away for 6 weeks........but she knew what she was getting into. Your right Socks Bulfords a lovely place he,s actually been stationed up the road at Tidworth the last few months so knows the area reasonably well. Must admit i have a new found respect for these army lads i guess they are people we just take for granted most of the time......it was a massive wedding he had 6 other army lads all in their number 2,s looked fantastic really made me very proud not just of the occasion but just to be British !..........might of even shed a tear ......each one of them were top notch lads the likes of which ive never really met or been around......im sure theres the odd arsehole amongst them but it really brought home for me the qualities these lads seem to have even at such a young age.......its an old cliche but ive certainly gained a great son in law.....hopefully my daughter will make the necessary adjustments and it all turns out good............thanks for your input Edited July 25, 2012 by gnasher16 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
christian71 3,187 Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 conning cheating wanker So gnasher your a conning cheating wanker?? Your words Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stewie 3,387 Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 if he is in afghan mate she may aswell live at home hadnt she???... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 Gnasher he sounds a sensible lad ... As long as he stays away from the trouble makers and keeps his head down he will steadily climb the promotion ladder and to do that you need a good woman behind you as when your up for promotion as a married man the way your wife conducts herself impacts on his promotion scoring ... For example an RSM will not want a trouble maker or a wife that dresses or acts like a tart in his Sgts mess no matter how good her husband is as a soldier ..... It's that age old saying ...... Your only as good as the woman behind you ....... 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 if he is in afghan mate she may aswell live at home hadnt she???... That's the worst thing she can do she needs to make a life for herself and going home to mummy's will not help that ... The whole regiment will be away and so there will be hundreds of wives in the same boat ... The family's office will lay lots of trips on and get togethers for the wives at this difficult time and this will help her to realy get to know lots of people and intergrate herself into the regiment. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stewie 3,387 Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 if he is in afghan mate she may aswell live at home hadnt she???... That's the worst thing she can do she needs to make a life for herself and going home to mummy's will not help that ... The whole regiment will be away and so there will be hundreds of wives in the same boat ... The family's office will lay lots of trips on and get togethers for the wives at this difficult time and this will help her to realy get to know lots of people and intergrate herself into the regiment. fair enough mate,,,, but what about earning a wage???? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 30,425 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 conning cheating wanker So gnasher your a conning cheating wanker?? Your words Once upon a time yes..........im an honest chap and wish id had even half the character these lads have at that age. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
christian71 3,187 Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 conning cheating wanker So gnasher your a conning cheating wanker?? Your words Once upon a time yes..........im an honest chap and wish id had even half the character these lads have at that age. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 30,425 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 (edited) if he is in afghan mate she may aswell live at home hadnt she???... That's the worst thing she can do she needs to make a life for herself and going home to mummy's will not help that ... The whole regiment will be away and so there will be hundreds of wives in the same boat ... The family's office will lay lots of trips on and get togethers for the wives at this difficult time and this will help her to realy get to know lots of people and intergrate herself into the regiment. Thats exactly what shes been told..........Socks you know your shit and i appreciate your input Id suggested the same as Lurcher1 said.......but even the lad himself said pretty much whats written above......besides which,for some wives its simply not possible,Bulford is 2 hours away from us but thats a trot up the road for some who are from all corners of the country....apparently some of the wives can kind of alienate themself by " going home to mum " rather than sticking it out with the others......i can understand and respect that. Edited July 25, 2012 by gnasher16 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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