LIKKIY LIKKIY LA LA 9 Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 Im wondering who would really put hunting 1st and foremost before family illness and the needs of their 3 kids? I for one wouldnt even consider it, yes I love getting out, but have been struck with a rather tough 2 years of hospitals, and no one apart from me to look after the kids. either that or get a total starnger in soi can get out more than i already have done. No stupid comments like i would def. put the dogs first. I used to think that way, but when faced with the sitation first hand, you realise whats important. Comments or experiences welcome. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
paulus 26 Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 when my mother in law was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer a good few years ago me and the wife took the decision to care for her ourselfs, in the begining things were fine and i really just carried on with the dogs as normal but as time went by and her condition deteriorated. looking after her took up more and more of both our time, in the end i had to make a decision about the dogs, luckily for me a keeper mate of mine stepped in and offered to look after them for me until i was in a position to have them back. 6 months he had them for and i will be always in his debt for what he did. so to answer your quesstion anybody who says they would put their dogs before family would be a very self centred sad individual who has no thought for anyone else but themself. 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TOMO 26,284 Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 i dont think anyone on here would put there dogs befor there family,,, 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malt 379 Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 i dont think anyone on here would put there dogs befor there family,,, Aye it's a bit of a no contest really, or should be.. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
tomano1 80 Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 life is just a test mate ive had two kids both in and out off hospital for over four years ive done nothing much in them me. kids came first now im just getting to have a life at 40 but it was one thing or the other it has been a big test on my life but i think im nearly out of that hole i hpoe son still will need to go to hospital for life but its not as bad as it was at first so there is light at end but some times its seems so far away at times life will get better its just a matter of time ATB no1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
simonrocco 175 Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 family first no doubt my partner has been ill through this season and i havent been getting out as much as id like shes getting better now so im getting out a bit more but the seasons nearly over with hope next seasons a better one but family will always come first for me atb 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LIKKIY LIKKIY LA LA 9 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 Looking back on here, somelads said that they actually left the family and stayed with the dogs. its a lifetime commitment to both, but the family comes first always. READ, a Lesson was learnt the hard way with agood outcome. I nearly lost my famly over an argument and was told the dogs werent going to the new house, so in the heat of the moment i left, she was 2 weeks pregnant and imaginge the stress. i had my head in bits and so was hers. I was so stupid,but thats how much the dogs mean to me. Eventually we got back together and Ive got the dogs and ferrets LOL up with me, and my lass understands how much they mean to me, I hope this puts things in perspective for some in similar situation,as i know there will be some. think before you open your mouth. To add ive got it all, loving family and some world beating dogs. LOL. Since then my lass has been in and out of hospital over 35 times in ayear and a half, most were 5-7 day stays, and ive managed with 3 kids, 5 dogs and been a carer for my mother. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest cookiemonsterandmerlin Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 I think you need to strike a balance give up your hobby be hunting or golf. in a situ where all parties are suffering from stress. I would not expect my wife to give up hobbies to soley care for me. But your asking a question with members who think hunting is more important than active job seeking. So dont be surprised if some of the replies are shocking. ATB Cookie hope all goes well for you and your family this year. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malt 379 Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 Looking back on here, somelads said that they actually left the family and stayed with the dogs. its a lifetime commitment to both, but the family comes first always. READ, a Lesson was learnt the hard way with agood outcome. I nearly lost my famly over an argument and was told the dogs werent going to the new house, so in the heat of the moment i left, she was 2 weeks pregnant and imaginge the stress. i had my head in bits and so was hers. I was so stupid,but thats how much the dogs mean to me. Eventually we got back together and Ive got the dogs and ferrets LOL up with me, and my lass understands how much they mean to me, I hope this puts things in perspective for some in similar situation,as i know there will be some. think before you open your mouth. To add ive got it all, loving family and some world beating dogs. LOL. Since then my lass has been in and out of hospital over 35 times in ayear and a half, most were 5-7 day stays, and ive managed with 3 kids, 5 dogs and been a carer for my mother. Giving up because you haven't got the time due to pressing family matters is one thing, but I think it's unfair to expect someone to give up the game in the context you described above. It's a two way street and I've got no time for control freak women who expect blokes to bend to their will for petty reasons. It would suggest a deeper problem in a relationship if that sort of thing was accepted all the time by one partner. Issues like that should be sorted out early on if a couple are to make a real go of it and stay the distance. I'm speaking from experience though, not meaning to say anything about your relationship.. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BEARINATOR 2,871 Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 But your asking a question with members who think hunting is more important than active job seeking. :laugh: Likkiy you and T have had it pretty bad though mate Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LIKKIY LIKKIY LA LA 9 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 My lass is more than giving in letting e go out, and she isnt a control freak by any means. I mentioned she was pregnant, so we all had that, plus other family illnesss to cope with and accept. what as said was in the heat of the moment. my sitiuation was just my experience when times where at their worst or soi hope. When she is fully fit she is coming dogging with me,and only yesterday said she is looking forward to getting an airrifle and taking the kids out. she even has her own Lurcher. So its not a case of control freak. when we first got togeter it was agreed that she takes me and the dogs on, as i took her and her 1st son on. Fair do's. Its a funny old life, all different situations, and i for one wouldnt give the dogs up it would have to be extreme circumstances if I did. Im lucky forwhat ive got. Give and take springs to mind. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LIKKIY LIKKIY LA LA 9 Posted March 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 im liking the rpilies, all sensible and wise. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
lurcher330 2,300 Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 (edited) there is a difference in having to and the missus saying get rid of the dogs or we break up just because she is a bit pissed off with you going out now and then. if i had to because of the well being of my kids ,yeah without a doubt but if so the missus can put her foot down ,no i would keep my dogs and see my kids as much as possible Edited March 13, 2012 by lurcher330 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest cookiemonsterandmerlin Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 (edited) Looking back on here, somelads said that they actually left the family and stayed with the dogs. its a lifetime commitment to both, but the family comes first always. READ, a Lesson was learnt the hard way with agood outcome. I nearly lost my famly over an argument and was told the dogs werent going to the new house, so in the heat of the moment i left, she was 2 weeks pregnant and imaginge the stress. i had my head in bits and so was hers. I was so stupid,but thats how much the dogs mean to me. Eventually we got back together and Ive got the dogs and ferrets LOL up with me, and my lass understands how much they mean to me, I hope this puts things in perspective for some in similar situation,as i know there will be some. think before you open your mouth. To add ive got it all, loving family and some world beating dogs. LOL. Since then my lass has been in and out of hospital over 35 times in ayear and a half, most were 5-7 day stays, and ive managed with 3 kids, 5 dogs and been a carer for my mother. Giving up because you haven't got the time due to pressing family matters is one thing, but I think it's unfair to expect someone to give up the game in the context you described above. It's a two way street and I've got no time for control freak women who expect blokes to bend to their will for petty reasons. It would suggest a deeper problem in a relationship if that sort of thing was accepted all the time by one partner. Issues like that should be sorted out early on if a couple are to make a real go of it and stay the distance. I'm speaking from experience though, not meaning to say anything about your relationship.. Are you Jeremy kyle MALT with that sort of advice ATB Cookie Edited March 13, 2012 by cookiemonsterandmerlin 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 30,217 Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 (edited) Women come and go....good dogs come and go....hobbies,friends,money and dreams all come and go..................You dont get a second chance with your kids ! Dont be like some of us who simply have to learn to live with the regrets Edited March 13, 2012 by gnasher16 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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