shaun 0 Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 (edited) THEY HAVE NOWT BETTER TO DO THEY DONT EVEN GO IN THE GARDAN HALF THE TIME ANY WAY TELL HER YOU PAY HER TO KEEP THEM SHE CHANGE HER MIND THEN Edited March 28, 2007 by shaun Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Frank Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 Not a bad idea at all shaun. Frank. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 frank you have been puting these types of posts up for a fair old while now ... do your self a favoure and get the feck out ... i stayed in an abusive marriage with a fecking lazy bitch for 14 years and all we done was argue infront of the kids and believe me the older they get the more it effects them ... i was away a lot and she did f**k all i had to sort evrything bills kids clothes the f*****g lot in the short time i was home before going away again ... it came to head when i heard a rumore she was seeing some fella ... it stopped when he fell out of a window .... i am now married to an angel i dont lift a f*****g finger in the house and i am treated like a king ... but more importantly all my kids see now is stability and love and that makes them a lot more stable ................ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Frank Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 Thank you socks. I know, i have been giving out about it for a wee while, i suppose im a sad fecker coming on here, but it does help and it will get sorted soon. Thanks all very much for all your experinces and comments, your all a great bunch of folks. Frank. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Macnas Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 Well, I'm no-one to give advise on things like this, make your decision and stick with it. Shakespeare had a point though, didn't he? when he said: "This above all: to thine own self be true." Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gaz 284 Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 (edited) Frank i misunderstood you here i was thinking you were hoping to give it another go with the wife and hoping it would sort itself out But how wrong i was.You seem to be stuck in really unhappy relationship with no going back with what i read on here.As im no marriage counciler but have been stuck on the same boat before,i can only say what i would do here which would part company with hopefully some kind of friendship and a better enviroment for the young yin to be growing up in,staying together just for the bairn will do no favours for anybody here, id be well gone But bear in mind this is only what i would do,so frank best of luck tae you whatever road you take (ya sad fecker) Edited March 29, 2007 by gaz Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mole trapper 1,693 Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 Frank everyone has put in their two penneth, so i think i will give mine hope you dont mind, Iwas with a girl for seven years after our first boy was born she started to treat me like a dog, she would say terrible things, debt collectors were always calling, she stabbed me and many times attacked me with various instruments of warfare, she would then stand there screaming for me to hit her, believe me i wanted to, but thankfully never did. Her favourite put down was that i was a poor provider, i was a courier at the time driving six and a half days a week, then i started doing the night trunk as well three times a week to earn a little more, anyway you get the picture, i desperatly wanted to leave for years and as mad as it would seem i couldnt do it, everyone was offering to help me because they saw what it was doing to me, i was just hanging on to the hope she would change, she didnt and one day i left, the moment i got to the bottom of the road i felt like i had been carrying the world on my shoulders and it was now gone, it was unbelievable. The things i learnt from this were that if you arent happy now it wont change no matter how much you would like it to. You always think it,s easier to stay than go, The kids do not resent you, they actually thank you even though she will try to poison their minds. You only get one life, this isnt a dress rehersal, Make that change, it will be hard BUT you will get through it and you will find peace again. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
whin 463 Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 old granny used to say to me, broad scottish aye wumen are like fish you get a few cod before ye catch the salmon , your still going through the cod stage , its hard to get awomen who loves the dogs saw afew but were not for me even tho thye were dog lovers , id feel it hard to leave my kids bairns as by fech i couldnaye leave my dug , as they say , i would have them strapped tae my back oot hunting fishing , all the best frank ,there plenty good females, its just your luck frank , Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jasper65 6 Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 I have been married 17 years now Frank and the missus 99% of the time puts up and shuts up but now she has reached 40 I'm getting the impression she wants a bit more from me not only in comitment but also a better life. I struggle year in and year out with these birds just to make a living, people think I do well on it but Honestly mate I just about tick over, I always promise her the earth each year if I buy any new birds in trying to convince her the more birds I breed from the more the cash flows in! I'll be Honest mate just about all have been false promises. I'm not trying to say you're in the same prediciment mate in any way. but I now feel that perhaps I need to look to a new venture and hopefully start giving my missus a little back instead of me taking all the time! my problem is if I see birds I want or dogs and there is money in the kitty I'll have it! never mind if its for kids school clothes or things for the house I just go out and blow the lot . Its a funny one as through the years I sit back with my head in the clouds carrying on as normal but now I'm comprimiseing to try and give her somthing back, to put it another way my missus says nothing about any Hobbies I take up or what I spend on them, but if the Boot was on the other foot and she was blowing the same sort of cash I do on herself I would blow my lid and tell her to sort it of f**k Off. I hope you get it sorted though Frank! you can always mend bridges no matter what! its up to you now bud if you want to rekindle it or start afresh, either way take care and all the best with which ever path you take.... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest markbrick1 Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 well ive read your replies frank and can personally relate to socks and mole trapper,i worked 11 hours a day laying bricks with approx 16 trowels workin for me and 3 nights a week on the doors ok the doors wernt for the money but to get out as i needed a i provided very well but that didnt stop my ex wife ,i never raised a hand to her she did to me even stabbed me.and she had me took away twice for mentall abuse why cause i didnt talk to her that was 1989 in aus they were heavy on that shit over there never mind what she did to me ,this is now gettin into a dear deidre thread Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Lurcherbitch Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 Hi Frank, I cant be arsed reading all reply's, but why dont you have the balls to tell her how you feel, instead of putting it on here . (I hope nobody knows her) I am sure if you showed her this thread the desition would be made for you. May sound harsh, but i cant cope with whiny men who profess to stay with women cause of the kids, Is it cause your too scared? dont be...it is tough to start again but us woman and the odd man do it all the time with kids in tow. Life sometimes is a bag of shit but it is worse to be in a loveless relationship, than be on your own. I wish i was your wifes mate....would love to hear her side . Make the jump mate or for god sake try and make a go of it . Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Simoman 110 Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 Hi Frank, I cant be arsed reading all reply's, but why dont you have the balls to tell her how you feel, instead of putting it on here . (I hope nobody knows her) I am sure if you showed her this thread the desition would be made for you. May sound harsh, but i cant cope with whiny men who profess to stay with women cause of the kids, Is it cause your too scared? dont be...it is tough to start again but us woman and the odd man do it all the time with kids in tow. Life sometimes is a bag of shit but it is worse to be in a loveless relationship, than be on your own. I wish i was your wifes mate....would love to hear her side . Make the jump mate or for god sake try and make a go of it . Your not a woman i'd cross LB Quote Link to post Share on other sites
snoopdog 1,256 Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 Hi Frank, I cant be arsed reading all reply's, but why dont you have the balls to tell her how you feel, instead of putting it on here . (I hope nobody knows her) I am sure if you showed her this thread the desition would be made for you. May sound harsh, but i cant cope with whiny men who profess to stay with women cause of the kids, Is it cause your too scared? dont be...it is tough to start again but us woman and the odd man do it all the time with kids in tow. Life sometimes is a bag of shit but it is worse to be in a loveless relationship, than be on your own. I wish i was your wifes mate....would love to hear her side . Make the jump mate or for god sake try and make a go of it . :thumbs-up: here here... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest WILF Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 but more importantly all my kids see now is stability and love and that makes them a lot more stable ................ Spot on Socks.......thats all they need to see Allways baffles me how some people go through life carring a big cart full of issues about, they then meet someone and want to pile those issues on to them........at the end of the day, I cant and wont do issues......I have seen to much heavy shite in my life and realise its all just a waste of time. Staying put for the sake is not living, and if your not living then the wee lad isnt either. No one can tell you what to do Frank, unfortunaley you just have to hit rock bottom to get some clarity......only then will the path become clear. I sincerley wish you all the best.......its going to be a hard road mate. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Dubai expat 0 Posted March 29, 2007 Report Share Posted March 29, 2007 Frank, Get the hell out of it! As you can see from my forum name, I moved 6,000miles to get the fcuk away from a bitch who got my guns taken away for no reason, I got them back after 6 months and decided, I am out of here got a job in Dubai, sadist thing was giving my dogs away, but they all went to good homes. I never ran away just decided a new job new country and new woman, major change, still I can clay shoot and fish over here and I know that some time in the future I will return to the UK and get back what I have lost, my life in the countryside, my dogs and guns. Dubai expat formerly Bodach! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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