gnasher16 30,470 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 Depends how far on it was, what I do know is, you love them all the same..........my niece is downs, but my brother has always treated her normally and taken her everywhere with him. Shes a young woman now, has a job and too all intents and purposes leads a normal life. Yes, there are certain things you have to consider that you wouldnt have to with a "normal" young woman, but we all love her dearly and our world would be poorer without her.........sometimes, you have to make the best job of what god gives you Cracking post that A pal of mines young brother is downs syndrome we have taken him all over the country as he loves his football.....he,s a lovely kid but certainly hard work....little f****r has the strength of a lion and always wants to arm wrestle me every 5 minutes........i have nothing but admiration for my pal as the kid lives with him,his wife and teenage son......he,s a lot of fun to be around and we,re all very protective of him but as guilty as i often feel,in my heart i know i couldnt do it......it takes a strong willed and dedicated parent to bring up a downs syndrome kid where maybe love just isnt enough..... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
blan89 159 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 I used to work with disabled kids/young adults and the downs lads are very hard work,very strong and when they get to a certain age have the same urges as the rest of us which can be hard especially on their families. I've got a lot of respect for anyone who has had and raised any disabled kid. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
asanley 1,009 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 I think we all have our doubts on wether we would cope as parents of a disabled /Downs /impaired child , but parental love is a powerful thing that can cope and overcome almost any problem , any right thinking , decent person may doubt themselves ,but that love would give you the strength. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Moll. 1,770 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 Never in a million years. It was my profession and i have seen just how a child/adult with a LD can affect a family, not all families of course......i have just seen the worst scenarios i suppose. Many people do not realise downs syndrome are not all the same, they always think of them as happy chatty podgy kids. When in reality they can have all the different personalities/disorders of any 'normal' person, and their levels of intelligence can vary from that of a baby to nearly normal IQ's. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fcuktheban 140 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 How did midgets end up in the same category as down syndrome? I think midgets are sexy Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mushroom 13,256 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 Both my parents have cerbal palsy to some degree. I have grown up seeing and living with this, truthfuly it is coming to the point now where my brother and I will have to look after my mum (she's 61) in the near future yes she's had a great but also a traumatic life and it's terrible that she is degenerating faster and faster each year, But she is lucky to have me and my brother who will be able to be there for her until the end. Most children with severe disabilities aren't so lucky to have healthy children to look after them when the time comes, as when the parents die who's still there for them the social???? fuuck that. I had tests done on both my daughters before they were born and I would not of hesitated.... As horrible as it sounds. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
martnmagik 68 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 Both my parents have cerbal palsy to some degree. I have grown up seeing and living with this, truthfuly it is coming to the point now where my brother and I will have to look after my mum (she's 61) in the near future yes she's had a great but also a traumatic life and it's terrible that she is degenerating faster and faster each year, But she is lucky to have me and my brother who will be able to be there for her until the end. Most children with severe disabilities aren't so lucky to have healthy children to look after them when the time comes, as when the parents die who's still there for them the social???? fuuck that. I had tests done on both my daughters before they were born and I would not of hesitated.... As horrible as it sounds. i see exactly where your coming from and what yor saying. my mum has M.S and going down hill fast,my old man is no longer around so its just myself and brother that will be taking care of her. but unlike yourself there are no tests i can do to see if myself or kids will end up with m.s as they dont know if it is hereditory (spelling) or not. i just hope to god it isnt Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mushroom 13,256 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 Both my parents have cerbal palsy to some degree. I have grown up seeing and living with this, truthfuly it is coming to the point now where my brother and I will have to look after my mum (she's 61) in the near future yes she's had a great but also a traumatic life and it's terrible that she is degenerating faster and faster each year, But she is lucky to have me and my brother who will be able to be there for her until the end. Most children with severe disabilities aren't so lucky to have healthy children to look after them when the time comes, as when the parents die who's still there for them the social???? fuuck that. I had tests done on both my daughters before they were born and I would not of hesitated.... As horrible as it sounds. i see exactly where your coming from and what yor saying. my mum has M.S and going down hill fast,my old man is no longer around so its just myself and brother that will be taking care of her. but unlike yourself there are no tests i can do to see if myself or kids will end up with m.s as they dont know if it is hereditory (spelling) or not. i just hope to god it isnt there ain't no tests for cerbal palsy neither mate, it's lack of oxygen at birth usually coz some cuunt doctor f****d up it nearly happened with my youngest when she got stuck God bless the surgeon who literally pushed the paki midwife out of the way and said I'm taking her (the ex) to surgery for an emergency section she was born with bruising all over her head where the silly bitch had been trying to drag her out with forceps. The tests we had done were for downs and other disabilities that you can be born with, but cerbal palsy is a gamble taken during the birth. MS is another mother fuucker I'm scared of for myself as two members of my non immediate family have it tbh I would commit Hari Kari once I've seen my mum out But that's my personal cowadice Quote Link to post Share on other sites
martnmagik 68 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 Both my parents have cerbal palsy to some degree. I have grown up seeing and living with this, truthfuly it is coming to the point now where my brother and I will have to look after my mum (she's 61) in the near future yes she's had a great but also a traumatic life and it's terrible that she is degenerating faster and faster each year, But she is lucky to have me and my brother who will be able to be there for her until the end. Most children with severe disabilities aren't so lucky to have healthy children to look after them when the time comes, as when the parents die who's still there for them the social???? fuuck that. I had tests done on both my daughters before they were born and I would not of hesitated.... As horrible as it sounds. i see exactly where your coming from and what yor saying. my mum has M.S and going down hill fast,my old man is no longer around so its just myself and brother that will be taking care of her. but unlike yourself there are no tests i can do to see if myself or kids will end up with m.s as they dont know if it is hereditory (spelling) or not. i just hope to god it isnt there ain't no tests for cerbal palsy neither mate, it's lack of oxygen at birth usually coz some cuunt doctor f****d up it nearly happened with my youngest when she got stuck God bless the surgeon who literally pushed the paki midwife out of the way and said I'm taking her (the ex) to surgery for an emergency section she was born with bruising all over her head where the silly bitch had been trying to drag her out with forceps. The tests we had done were for downs and other disabilities that you can be born with, but cerbal palsy is a gamble taken during the birth. MS is another mother fuucker I'm scared of for myself as two members of my non immediate family have it tbh I would commit Hari Kari once I've seen my mum out But that's my personal cowadice well they say you learn something new every day, and i just have atb mart Quote Link to post Share on other sites
smithie 2,443 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 id keep the baby...just got to cope Quote Link to post Share on other sites
unlacedgecko 1,466 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 I couldn't raise a disabled child... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mushroom 13,256 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 I couldn't raise a disabled child... I could just couldn't bare leaving the child alone in a fuucked up world when I'm gone 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
smithie 2,443 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 I couldn't raise a disabled child... I could just couldn't bare leaving the child alone in a fuucked up world when I'm gone i do have a disabled child that depends on us for everything and i have often pondered on what happens when we are gone.. the other option is we out live our child and its a heart breaker either way... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mushroom 13,256 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 I couldn't raise a disabled child... I could just couldn't bare leaving the child alone in a fuucked up world when I'm gone i do have a disabled child that depends on us for everything and i have often pondered on what happens when we are gone.. the other option is we out live our child and its a heart breaker either way... I've seen this too mate it's a heartbreaker. Good luck to you and your family and I truley mean that Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Attack Fell Terrier 864 Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 My youngest son is Type 1 diabetic and has Coeliac disease. It might not seem like a big deal to some people who haven't go to deal with it because it's manageable, but knowing your kid has this f*cking curse to deal with for the rest of his life and what can happen if he doesn't lead a strict and healthy lifestyle is f*cking heartbreaking. I've already had to bury one son so I can only hope I don't have to deal with seeing another ones life ruined by health issues or (dare I say it) die before I do, due to any complications. I'm really lucky in that my youngest lad is a proper nice well mannered, well natured and intelligent young chap, who is doing me so proud at school and just how he has taken to the difficulties he's had to deal with early in his life, I really am proud of him. I do find it very difficult though and in all honesty I don't think I'd have the strength to deal with a severely disabled child. I'd probably hate myself for the rest of my life but honestly, I couldn't deal with the heartbreak. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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