Nik_B 3,790 Posted March 25, 2010 Report Share Posted March 25, 2010 Might have to call it a day with the missus. My daughter is my first concern but she will be looked after by the wife allthough she'll no doubt try to make my life miserable by restricting access or preventing my folks seeing her when they want. One thing I am worried about though is what will happen to my dog. I wouldn't be supprised if she deliberately ruins my dog or doesn't train him when I am away. I work overseas and so when I'm out of the country I rely on her to look after him. I was thinking an option could be to use a kennel on a regular basis, I work 4 weeks away and then get 4 weeks at home. Could a dog handle this kind of routine? I would be very upset if I had to lose my dog Any other ideas? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
tb25 4,627 Posted March 25, 2010 Report Share Posted March 25, 2010 HARD ONE MATE LET THE DOG GO SO U DONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT IT AS LONG AS YOUR KID IS SOUND AND SAFE THATS ALL WHAT MATTERS PAL Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Swampy 147 Posted March 25, 2010 Report Share Posted March 25, 2010 What dog have you got Nik? Swampy one mistake ning Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jimmy100 48 Posted March 25, 2010 Report Share Posted March 25, 2010 (edited) Might have to call it a day with the missus. My daughter is my first concern but she will be looked after by the wife allthough she'll no doubt try to make my life miserable by restricting access or preventing my folks seeing her when they want. One thing I am worried about though is what will happen to my dog. I wouldn't be supprised if she deliberately ruins my dog or doesn't train him when I am away. I work overseas and so when I'm out of the country I rely on her to look after him. I was thinking an option could be to use a kennel on a regular basis, I work 4 weeks away and then get 4 weeks at home. Could a dog handle this kind of routine? I would be very upset if I had to lose my dog Any other ideas? ay up mate thats bad news!! i dont no what you do for a job but couldnt you get a job that is full time over here??? i really dont think the dog would bond with you if you only see for a month then a month off. hope you get sorted whatever you do and remember you only live once and you dont want to regret letting the dog go in a few years time Edited March 25, 2010 by jimmy100 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Nik_B 3,790 Posted March 25, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 25, 2010 I guess the lesser of the two evils would that she looked after him when I was away if I gave her some financial incentive and maybe paid for some dog walking or something. It would truely gut me to lose him. I've only had him for a couple of months but we've spent every minute of the day together and bonded really well. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Swampy 147 Posted March 25, 2010 Report Share Posted March 25, 2010 What dog have you got Nik? Swampy one mistake ning Ning? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Nik_B 3,790 Posted March 25, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 25, 2010 He's a Black Lab, pics are in the gundog forum. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Swampy 147 Posted March 25, 2010 Report Share Posted March 25, 2010 He's a Black Lab, pics are in the gundog forum. Just wondering whether you could have a mate look after him. If he works well I'm sure there are folk who would treat him well without spoiling. Would consider it myself if the wife would allow it. Shite situation mate,really hope things work out. Been there kids have to come first I'm afraid. Soft arsed b'stards when it comes to dogs tho' eh? Sincere best wishes mate rgds Swampy a ning without a home Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Attack Fell Terrier 864 Posted March 26, 2010 Report Share Posted March 26, 2010 Might have to call it a day with the missus. My daughter is my first concern but she will be looked after by the wife allthough she'll no doubt try to make my life miserable by restricting access or preventing my folks seeing her when they want. One thing I am worried about though is what will happen to my dog. I wouldn't be supprised if she deliberately ruins my dog or doesn't train him when I am away. I work overseas and so when I'm out of the country I rely on her to look after him. I was thinking an option could be to use a kennel on a regular basis, I work 4 weeks away and then get 4 weeks at home. Could a dog handle this kind of routine? I would be very upset if I had to lose my dog Any other ideas? Don't meen to sound like a sh!t head but if you're away for that amount of time, and you fear your missus/ex hasn't got the time for it then re-home it. Get a dog when you've got the time for one. If it's a working dog even more so. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Nik_B 3,790 Posted March 26, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 26, 2010 Think I'll take my chances with her looking after him, I rather anything than let him go. She wouldn't be cruel to him but I imagine she would deliberately not follow the training I set down. He's smart fella and I might be able to pick up where I left off when I'm on leave and I would rather him not be a working dog that getting rid of him all together. Its a crap situation but I am starting to think it might be best just putting up with her, at least I would still get a say over important things to do with my daughter. If I did that I could keep an eye on the dog as well. It's not like I'm desperate to meet another woman any time in the next century. Even though things between us are worse my life has never been so good I now have my own car a companion and some hobbies, before last year I had nothing because all my money was spent on the house etc while my missus kept most of hers to her self. One thing I've learned is that having a wife that works makes a massive difference if the slip really happens as I would ONLY have to pay maintenance and she would have to pay for the mortgage and bills unlike if she was a house wife, thank god she didn't give up her job when I suggested it after my daughter was born!!! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
littlefish 585 Posted March 26, 2010 Report Share Posted March 26, 2010 That's tough. How old is your daughter? Is she a wee baby or old enough to have the dog as her pet? Maybe you could give the dog to someone decent you know who could use it as a worker and then you would know it had a good permanet home? Good luck. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Nik_B 3,790 Posted March 26, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 26, 2010 She's 4 but we have a 17 year old which isn't really mine but I raised her as my own for 13 years so I treat her as my own daughter. She's a bit lazy but with enough encouragement she might pick up the gauntlet when I go to work. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
crackpot 29 Posted March 26, 2010 Report Share Posted March 26, 2010 Might have to call it a day with the missus. My daughter is my first concern but she will be looked after by the wife allthough she'll no doubt try to make my life miserable by restricting access or preventing my folks seeing her when they want. One thing I am worried about though is what will happen to my dog. I wouldn't be supprised if she deliberately ruins my dog or doesn't train him when I am away. I work overseas and so when I'm out of the country I rely on her to look after him. I was thinking an option could be to use a kennel on a regular basis, I work 4 weeks away and then get 4 weeks at home. Could a dog handle this kind of routine? I would be very upset if I had to lose my dog Any other ideas? Don't meen to sound like a sh!t head but if you're away for that amount of time, and you fear your missus/ex hasn't got the time for it then re-home it. Get a dog when you've got the time for one. If it's a working dog even more so. sad as it may be for ya i have to agree with AFT Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hannah4181 260 Posted March 26, 2010 Report Share Posted March 26, 2010 I'd consider finding a dog savvy person who would have the dog whilst you are away. A few years back i had an arrangement with a local lady to me, her working conditions changed and she needed the dog looked after for 2 weeks in every 6. I found a friend of mine who was willing to have the dog stay with him, and the arrangement still stands. The dog was a working pointer and it was only 10 months when the "shared care" thing started. Served no ill effects and the dog has gone on to make an excellent worker. The lady gives my friend a small monetary offering to make it worth his while. However i'm pretty sure he'd do it for nothing now, as i would if i had the time and room. Best of luck with it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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