hi all i really need some advise.

[dawnraider09 75]

keep ya chin up n ya nose clean,be the responsible adult and play it by the book,YOU HAVE AS MUCH RIGHT AS SHE DOES,if anything what she is doing now will go against her so let her play the silly games but try and document all the goings on times dates etc.be ready and organised for court(they like that)and make as much effort as possible to get themoney to her and some access with a couple of reliable witnesses,someone who could stand up in court if it comes to it,where abouts in the country are ya as i know a very good brief who deals in these cases.atb and good luck.

[monkjack 0]

  On 29/12/2009 at 16:16, dawnraider09 said:

keep ya chin up n ya nose clean,be the responsible adult and play it by the book,YOU HAVE AS MUCH RIGHT AS SHE DOES,if anything what she is doing now will go against her so let her play the silly games but try and document all the goings on times dates etc.be ready and organised for court(they like that)and make as much effort as possible to get themoney to her and some access with a couple of reliable witnesses,someone who could stand up in court if it comes to it,where abouts in the country are ya as i know a very good brief who deals in these cases.atb and good luck.

im in st albans mate ive already got a brief sorted through my cousin. its the brief he used in the same sort of thing she got him joint custody and then after more crap with his ex she finally got him full custody. cheers anyway. monk

[Wxm 1,638]

hi all

 

just a up date i seen my daughter just after xmas and thought everything was going ok until i told her that in feb that at the start of march i was moving to the same village she's in ... so she started being funny again.

and i havn't seen my daughter since the end of feb.

so i went 2 my solicitor the next day and started and we arranged a date for court .... the fcukin wench sent a letter from her midwife to my solicitor the day before court saying that my ex did'nt feel up to going to court and to put it off for a few months.

 

not being funny but i have every right to see my daughter ... aswell as my daughter has every right to see me and her brother.

 

anyway he sent me to cafcas to talk with them about building bonds with my daughter again so 2 weeks a go i had a letter for time and date.

my ex had the same letter and the same happened again .. she got her auntie to phone cafcas to tell them her new baby wern't well and she could'nt make it.

so on friday i had a phone call off cafcas to arrange to see my daughter today ... im just trying to hold down the excitement incase she pulls another excuse.

 

but i really cant wait its been over 6 months and hope she's as excited as i am

[Leewx 2]

Best off luck mate!! I'm sure see is every bit as excited as you are! In years to come when she is older and starts to ask questions i'm pretty sure she will see what a bag her mother is being! I went out with a girl from Manchester a few years ago who had originally come from London with her mother to "get away" from her dad. A very similar story to yours in fact, but when it all came out in the wash and she could see what a c&*t her mother had been towards her dad, she moved straight back to London to be with him. Chin up though mate i know it cant be easy but keep your side of the street clean and it will all come good!!

Best of luck

Lee

[troter58 1,711]

she will be excited mate hope it all goes alright for you and you can get back on track seeing her all the time i know all about not seeing your kids but you have to keep up the fight alb troter

[DottyDoo 500]

i must be mad or summat cos if my missus tried taking my kids, id take the missus ferreting an come back meself,

 

 

 

only death itself will keep me from seeing my kids grow up

[scent 509]

bin there done that.My ex tried to stop me seeing my son 5 years ago.I brought her to court and won access and guardianship .I now have him 7 days a week and as im writing this he is doin his homework in the kitchen .Courts will always favour the mother you just have to get at them and be strong .It did cost a lot but no amount of money can be put on a relationship with your kids ,fcuk it id kill for my kids as would every other dad.I really hope you get to see your daughter this time pal but its all wrong you should be able to see her the whole time .ATB Brian

[Guest Buttermilk]

Hope it goes well for you today...and that it all works out for you and your daughter in the future. She's a lucky little girl to have such a doting Dad.

[Kay 3,709]

  On 25/12/2009 at 13:09, trevor w said:

AS USUAL A WOMEN USEING A CHILD AS AN EMOTIONAL TOOL

 

I totally agree with you i think its unforgivable to use children like this & yes it does appear to be women on the whole who do this .. i think you have to question there parenting skills when they will generally stoop to these levels

[clint 45]

Children are tuff little people, they alway see who right & wrong eventually, is an instinct thing.Sometime this backfire on mother atlater date! Let as friend said ride the journey,& know you are better. Never refuse child to accept a day out for fun, never do anything in anger in front of child or in public .

 

Things will be good. Is shame so many child suffer like this & with benefit & bonuses lost from father side of family. It be easier for child to have more extend family for look after child, & all the benefit that come with , like more Christmas & brithday gift also.Is much more fun, than 2 people fight

 

I know all will work out, keep smile & do best for childs always.

Edited September 20, 2010 by clint

[tb25 4,627]

very sad mate, i hope every thing works out for you just keep a cool head, am goin thro some stuff at the min but i lossed my head and made it worse atb bud

[Guest little lurcher]

im hoping you are not online as you are with your young un , good luck fella , only wish more fathers were like you and less mums like her!!

["Earth!" 503]

  On 25/12/2009 at 00:20, ArchieHood said:

I think you will find that unless you were married to your daughters mother that you have no rights whatsoever

 

oh yes he does,as do grandparents unless the mother fears you..

 

ive been there done that and got a bloody good solicitor..this day and age,the law isnt always on the mothers side and they dont like it.

best of luck pal,its hard and upsetting but be strong for the kids and keep you chin up as it does work out in the end mate

Edited September 20, 2010 by "Earth!"

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cheers all ... she (ex) did bring my daughter to cafcas and i was sat in a room while the cafcas bloke went to get her ... she was walking in behind her and he said "guess who's here to see you"

 

and when i seen her face she did'nt know what to do .... i was really gutted to see her as she really didn't know what to do or say.

 

id hate to think what shite she's (ex) filled her with .... hope it gets sorted asap

[Wild Whippies 11]

Stick with it. Regardless of whatever tales your ex is telling her, she will, with age, make up her own mind about you.

If you give up she's left to think everything she's been told is true.

I've been a step mother to 2 lads and I can't stress enough that the truth will out if either parent is manipulating their child.