hi all i really need some advise.

[Waz 4,274]

Dont let her wind you up through your sister, just trying to draw you into her game. Chin up, keep positive you sound like you are being more than reasonable, and maybe being took for a bit of a mug due to that. All the best.

[stubby 175]

my only advice, always smile, be nice to her, and do everything by the book, I split from my boys mum a long time ago, both were very young, she tried getting me thrown out of the family home, I did EVERYTHING by the book, was as nice as pie, and ended up with me keeping BOTH my sons and the house, so proves the women dont always win

[mushroom 13,256]

Document everything, write down what has been said to you date and time it. Anything said to other people write that down aswell but make sure you declare that it wasn't said to you directly. When/if you go to court all this info will go in your favour! Trust me I have joint custody with my daughter who was born in 2002 (so before the new law) My name is on the birth certificate and I had done more with her than her mother, to this day she has spent more time with me than her mother. Point is she was doing all this sh1t threatning me with the CSA. I phoned the CSA up and asked how much I should be giving bearing in mind her mum has a good career too. they told me that the the hundred a weekl I was giving was far too much and that if they were too ask me for money it would be a quarter of that. all this went on for ages with me having jess for half of the week. It all came to a head when she told me she was taking herself and my daughter to go and live in New York I smiled and went to my brief Never looked back mate.

 

ATB and A very merry christmas to all

 

Kie and family

[my hounds 313]

AS USUAL A WOMEN USEING A CHILD AS AN EMOTIONAL TOOL

[mcass123 6]

been through the same stuff mate only difference, i was married to my sons mum, you have as much rights nowadays as the mother because you are named on the birth certificate, keep within the law, dont go to the door and cause any trouble because if she phones the plod, (which she will) you will get the jail and it will all go against you. her mother is obviously an interfering old cow but most mother in laws are (MOST, NOT ALL) keep the head and chin up, ride with it and hopefully it will all work out for you.

all the best mate

mick

[luke2009 9]

Not exactley certain but a law was brung in on dec 03 giving fathers more rights to this problem of being held to ransom by the mother,its better if your married but not as much has your name on the b/cert.My opinion is to seek advice from a sol who specialise in family law + have a good rspectable name.I am a mother myself but i have fought for my rights to see our grandson that we have had contact with since e was born every week and sometimes in the week too.You must ask for contact even though shel say no and keep records of everything,dont let her try to involve you in arguements of any kind and let your sol know everything.I very much disagree with this law as its too bias for the mother and not much consideration for fathers,and i am female and i think some fathers are as good as mothers and some are better too.

[surrey lass 12]

you should go and see someone from citizens advice, but as someone else has said you unfourtunately have no rights as you weren't married as for residency what that means the grandmother is your daughters guardian and has most of the say of what and where your daughter goes i wish you luck but you do need to take them both to family court to get access

[Guest chook]

Try this site, theres lots of usefull info on it.

 

http://www.separateddads.co.uk/SeparationRightsForFathers.html

 

 

Hope you get it sorted.

[monkjack 0]

goin through the same crap mate my ex keeps stopping me from seein my littlen she will be two in january my ex and i split up when she was pregnant and had agreement for me to be at birth then she got all shitty. jessica was born 2 weeks early and my ex didnt tell me until she had registered her name so i'm not even on the birth cert she let me see jessica couple of times a week until a few months back then got funny again. she was bringin jessica down to see my family before christmas then changed her mind. so i havent even seen her for xmas. ive been to cab before and got advice i.e log everything said and done which im doin just waitin to see if i get to see her for her birthday. got to go back to cab in january and talk to solitor as im goin to apply for joint custody not easy as im not on birth certificate but the ex has never disputed me bein the dad it still means im going to have to do dna tests to prove to the courts. at the moment im keepin fingers and everything else croossed. i know how u feel not seein you kids but try to enjoy xmas the best you can and hopefully it will all end ok. atb MONK

[Hollie 21]

So sad when mothers do this, i would never ever deprive my daughter of seeing her dad

 

 

 

Like has been said, dont give her ANY ammo, keep smiling, make it clear you want to spend time with your daughter, write everything down

 

 

I hope it all works out ok for you

 

x

[monkey 449]

jeremy kyle

 

 

i dont know how some people can go on there. but its good crac watchin some of them lol

 

You can go down there and take the kid with you and keep her/him at your house if she phones the police produce the birth certificate and theres nothing they can do,apsalutely nothing i know as my brother just been through the same shit!

a lad that i work with tryed doin that he spent the night in the cells and got charged with kidnapping he ended up doin 200 community hours and had a big fine top

[Wxm 1,638]

jeremy kyle

 

 

i dont know how some people can go on there. but its good crac watchin some of them lol

 

You can go down there and take the kid with you and keep her/him at your house if she phones the police produce the birth certificate and theres nothing they can do,apsalutely nothing i know as my brother just been through the same shit!

a lad that i work with tryed doin that he spent the night in the cells and got charged with kidnapping he ended up doin 200 community hours and had a big fine top

 

 

thats all id need, playing the ball right in to their hands.

alot of thanks for some good advise, im going to "try" and play it cool or i'll just be makein it harder for myself and makin myself out to be the bad one and them to look the inocent ones.

[watchman 256]

goin through the same crap mate my ex keeps stopping me from seein my littlen she will be two in january my ex and i split up when she was pregnant and had agreement for me to be at birth then she got all shitty. jessica was born 2 weeks early and my ex didnt tell me until she had registered her name so i'm not even on the birth cert she let me see jessica couple of times a week until a few months back then got funny again. she was bringin jessica down to see my family before christmas then changed her mind. so i havent even seen her for xmas. ive been to cab before and got advice i.e log everything said and done which im doin just waitin to see if i get to see her for her birthday. got to go back to cab in january and talk to solitor as im goin to apply for joint custody not easy as im not on birth certificate but the ex has never disputed me bein the dad it still means im going to have to do dna tests to prove to the courts. at the moment im keepin fingers and everything else croossed. i know how u feel not seein you kids but try to enjoy xmas the best you can and hopefully it will all end ok. atb MONK

thinking of you fella,sound like you got your head screwed on right though mate,atvb rob

[monkjack 0]

FINALLY my ex finally got round to bringin my littlen down spent some quality time together openin her xmas pressies and playing (to be honest i spent most time just cuddling Jessica) it was great to see her for afew hours it broke my heart as she left as Jessica started cryin and didnt want to go home. finally got her all settled in the car and she was wavin and saying bye over and over again. now shes gone feel like crap cant wait to see her again the ex has promised i can have her down here in a couple of weeks for a little birthday party as she'll be two. just hope she sticks to her word. i cant wait. just thought i'd update you all as to how things had gone.

cheers folks hope you all had goog xmas.atb. MONK

[Tallyho 181]

its always been the same , a father has no say or rights , but you dont pay for your child the shit hits the fan , she sounds like a right bitch ,and is not thinkinging of you daughter at all which is selfish because its your daughter that will suffer for it in the end , you make sure you take her to court and you fight her all the way to see and have axcess to you child .