TB ,when I say be honest with yourself ,I don't mean make a long list of your shortcomings (we all have them )and make yourself even more depressed ,I mean be honest about everything ,faults ,strengths ,dreams ,hopes ,aspirations ,most of all ask yourself "do I really want to change things ?" If the honest answer is yes then you have it within you to , ,by small baby steps ,by the slightest daily improvement ,,to make the changes ,aim to be ever so slightly better than you were yesterday ,it will start an unstoppable snowball you will surprise yourself the strength you have ......you must quit