The woman I lost when we first met she said no affairs if you do that's it over,, I said ok but I am a flirt,, all was well for a year then I started seeing this blonde 24, I was 33, a years affair and I felt awful, I told my women as it got me sick.. I walked away but we tried to work it out and somehow stayed together for the next 16 years, tried so much harder and totally loved her,,, are we still together? No the damage was done. If you have affairs then you can't feel sorry for yourself, get caught then pay the price .