cheers guys,
no jacob isnt my son but he may as well be,I took him fishing today,lots of tears where shed but im sure he's better for it.he's tucked up in bed now bless him he's exhausted.
poor kid,I feel terrible but really cant imagine what he's going through,I can make sense of the whole death thing,it happens to us all but to a 9 yr old boy its tough.he wants the only thing I cant give him.
thank you all for your kind words and Pm's