I worked in a textile mill in the late 70s, more Asians than whites and we used to play football and cricket - Pakis versus English, their words, no racism involved by either side.
I was told many years ago that Wog was Western Oriental Gentleman.
Like Frank's Dad, my son is gay, his sister and me and my missus have the crack with him and his partner, I once heard my daughter say "what are you two fags up to this weekend?" I was almost shocked lol
If it was a stranger it would be different - context. ?
Cheers, D.